Post by OrangePixyStix on Sept 8, 2014 9:30:41 GMT -5
I give him back massages about once a week. He's been having some lower back issues and hasn't had time to get a professional massage, so I do what I can to help out.
When we have the chance to do something together, we do it. I'll wait to grocery shop until he can come along, he takes me along to his work events, etc.
Post by lexxasaurus on Sept 8, 2014 11:25:34 GMT -5
We accept the other and don't try to change them, we just find compromises. He's a hands off person, I'm touchy feely. He's a morning person, I'm a night owl. We find grey areas and ways to work around all those opposites.
Post by jennynumbers on Sept 8, 2014 15:26:39 GMT -5
I go out with my girlfriends. Seriously- Jay and I do almost everything together. (Shop, cook, clean, misc errands...) One of the best things I've done is to actually separate myself from him a bit. He gets time to do what he wants to do and I get time to catch up and be silly with my friends. I come home feeling so re-set and happy. Happy I had fun with my friends and happy I have an amazing man that doesn't get jealous/sad/mad etc...
Also- I try to remember that some of those annoying things he does, well, he's done them forever. They didn't really bother me when we were dating so no point of letting them bother me married.
Post by sapphire bou on Sept 9, 2014 9:56:19 GMT -5
Before we even started dating, we both knew that the other person needs their alone time. While H doesn't need it as much anymore, I still do and he understands that.
boofly, I also get hangry and he knows to feed me ASAP.
We also listen and empathize with each other when it comes to work. It's not always easy because we want to fix things, but getting our frustrations out helps us both.
I go out with my girlfriends. Seriously- Jay and I do almost everything together. (Shop, cook, clean, misc errands...) One of the best things I've done is to actually separate myself from him a bit. He gets time to do what he wants to do and I get time to catch up and be silly with my friends. I come home feeling so re-set and happy. Happy I had fun with my friends and happy I have an amazing man that doesn't get jealous/sad/mad etc...
Also- I try to remember that some of those annoying things he does, well, he's done them forever. They didn't really bother me when we were dating so no point of letting them bother me married.
This is a BIG one! In my head, I was starting to nit pick things and then was so glad I never said anything about his little quirks due to this reason.