Out of genuine curiosity, why did you post in the FFFC thread?! You invited flames, and now you seem surprised that you got them. If you genuinely thought this was okay, wouldn't you have posted in a Randoms thread instead?
I can post any part of my day and it would be a flameful. It doesn't phase me.
This is true, but there's a difference between posting it in a Flameful thread and a Randoms thread. By posting it here you're essentially saying that it's okay to flame it. But then you try to defend it?
Or was the Flameful part supposed to be the cuddling itself, since you know everyone thinks you need more time for focusing on yourself?
Post by Wanderista on Sept 12, 2014 16:05:19 GMT -5
I guess my FFFC is that I wanted more of a challenge in my life in terms of my work and now I have it. I am partly enjoying it but also partly tired. I guess I'm having to adjust. I know that I am and that I will be happier but right now is kind of "an adjustment period". I get randomly tired at inconvenient times like halfway through last night's rock concert.
Also, my health has not been great for a few months, mostly due to my allergies and complications from that. I had two severe allergic attacks within about 6 weeks of each other and the second one has been kind of sucky to get over. It has not been the most fun in the world.
Out of genuine curiosity, why did you post in the FFFC thread?! You invited flames, and now you seem surprised that you got them. If you genuinely thought this was okay, wouldn't you have posted in a Randoms thread instead?
I already told you.
You're aware that ecstasy eats holes in your brain, right?
Filing for divorce is hard, yo. Now that I have it in my mind that I want it done, I just want it DONE! We are not having lawyers involved or anything, so I am looking at the paperwork. In FL, you can file a simplified dissolution if you don't have kids/uncontested...so I want to do that...it can be REALLY simplified by checking a box that says we agree on the financials, and we want to keep it private and out of record...I kind of want to do that, because it is so much easier, but then I feel like maybe I shouldn't.
Everything has been completely uncontentious, the only asset left is the house which we still jointly own, so I don't feel like there is much that N could do, should he want to, to screw me out of anything....maybe a bad idea, but feh. Not every divorce ends horribly, right?
Everything has been completely uncontentious, the only asset left is the house which we still jointly own, so I don't feel like there is much that N could do, should he want to, to screw me out of anything....maybe a bad idea, but feh. Not every divorce ends horribly, right?
I know he has been nice and reasonable so far but I think it's better to put the specifics in writing to protect yourself.
You guys aren't selling the house till next year right? A lot could change in your relationship with N between now and when you sell. Putting the specifics in the divorce papers guarantees that you will get what you deserve and will give you more recourse if he tries to screw you.
A little more work now could avoid a huge headache later.
And ETA:This is hard. So I am trying to figure out how we would list it, and it is asking for the Current fair market value, but the current value isn't how we are going to split the asset, it will be based on the future market value at the time we sell...so how do I list that? Why can't there just be a place where I write what it is that we are doing. Maybe there is...
And ETA:This is hard. So I am trying to figure out how we would list it, and it is asking for the Current fair market value, but the current value isn't how we are going to split the asset, it will be based on the future market value at the time we sell...so how do I list that? Why can't there just be a place where I write what it is that we are doing. Maybe there is...
Obviously, it varies state to state, but in CA we had to file a declaration of assets, which included pretty much whatever we wanted, including how things would be split, should they be sold.
This declaration has to be on record but isn't actually a required document for the filing.
I would DEFINITELY try to get something like that drafted, JUUUUST in case. XH and I were very amicable, agreed that he would keep the house and I would keep my retirement account. Aand then out of no where, right before we actually filed, he flipped and tried to enforce his share of my 401k. I learned later that it was because he had just lost his job and wanted an easy way to get several dozen grand. He a) didn't realize that he wouldn't be able to just get a check for half my 401k and b) that if he wanted to exercise his right to half of MY money, I would exercise my right to half his fucking house AND I would make sure that it would cost him more in legal fees to do this than he would get from my 401k.
He eventually changed his mind. But I made DAMN sure to list every fucking thing I could think of in our asset declaration, including a stipulation that the engagement ring was 100% mine ($$), but I would give him half of anything I make off the wedding/anniversary bands, which are worth almost nothing, lol.
We have already split all the retirement accounts, savings, etc. so really this is what I want written... 1) when we sell the house at an agreed upon time, we will split the net profits 50/50, as well as split the joint savings account that is tied to the house (where the rent goes in/comes out, etc) 2) I keep my flight benefits for a year.
Sometimes I walk around in my apartment with no pants on when the blinds are open, and I don't really care if anyone sees.
I was walking around in my kitchen, in my underwear the other day when I realized all my blinds were open. It made me think "oh shit, I should probably get dressed"... but not before I finished getting food. Priorities.
I guess my FFFC is that I wanted more of a challenge in my life in terms of my work and now I have it. I am partly enjoying it but also partly tired. I guess I'm having to adjust. I know that I am and that I will be happier but right now is kind of "an adjustment period". I get randomly tired at inconvenient times like halfway through last night's rock concert.
Also, my health has not been great for a few months, mostly due to my allergies and complications from that. I had two severe allergic attacks within about 6 weeks of each other and the second one has been kind of sucky to get over. It has not been the most fun in the world.
It's very hard to balance health issues and work, especially a challenging job. Between doctors appointments and knowing when certain projects are due so you can actually make it to your appointments is exhausting. I hope you are feeling better soon!
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Post by ashbridemd on Sept 14, 2014 20:37:49 GMT -5
Liu, didn't you get ditched at a party by your friends, find the first guy to show you attention, and then go home and "cuddle" with him? I think there were several other "cuddling" strangers you've mentioned. This seems to be a recurring theme in your life. WTF, dude. I'm pretty sure your toddler is making better choices than you at this point.
There's some pot/kettle shit going on up in here. ashbridemd, please direct your attention to my avatar.
Nah. Do the whole pot/kettle thing all you want, but at least I know I've always put my child first and my... "cuddling" needs waaaaay down on the list.
There's some pot/kettle shit going on up in here. ashbridemd, please direct your attention to my avatar.
Nah. Do the whole pot/kettle thing all you want, but at least I know I've always put my child first and my... "cuddling" needs waaaaay down on the list.
Remember on ML how you were mentioning that you "never" posted anymore, and you had definitely quit being an asshole? You're not wanted here either. Go away.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
Post by ashbridemd on Sept 14, 2014 23:01:34 GMT -5
I believe I said rarely....And I'm not being an asshole. I'm being honest. Juts because I'm not covering it with sunshine and rainbows doesn't make me Assholio. I'm saying exactly what a lot of others have said. But because I said it, I'm an asshole lol. Sorry. Mama don't play like that. Awww, look Liu...aren't you glad I came in and temporarily took the attention off of your bad choices?
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Sept 15, 2014 6:04:56 GMT -5
Ash, it's fucking creepy that you literally only show up here to feed your hate-boner for Liu. This is why we think you're a tool and exactly why I don't think you've changed.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."