Not wrong as much as a helpful life tip: don't try to find offense in silly situations. Like the party invite post. Life is hard enough without creating slights that likely don't exist at all.
My mother always salts the food before tasting. Honestly it does piss me off, especially since I'll try to make her food saltier to begin with (and I tell her I made hers salty, and she still salts it and then tells me later it was a little too salty. Excuse me why I go bang my head on a wall).
The hot sauce I wouldn't take offense to I guess, but it just seems so childish. Like my 7yo who won't eat meat that isn't slathered in ketchup, isn't that something you should grow out of? You can't eat one meal without hot sauce?
You know what else is childish? Banging your head against a wall.
Eh, if you had my mother you'd do it too. Just because I know she's crazy doesn't make her less annoying.
Why did it bother you? Everyone likes different things. He may put hot sauce and salt on his cereal for all you know.
True. Hmm... I guess I've always been taught that if someone takes the time to make food for you, you eat it the way it's presented. So it seems rude to me to ask for seasoning without even tasting it.
So, your parents never put salt and pepper on the table? Ketchup? Mustard?
My mother always salts the food before tasting. Honestly it does piss me off, especially since I'll try to make her food saltier to begin with (and I tell her I made hers salty, and she still salts it and then tells me later it was a little too salty. Excuse me why I go bang my head on a wall).
The hot sauce I wouldn't take offense to I guess, but it just seems so childish. Like my 7yo who won't eat meat that isn't slathered in ketchup, isn't that something you should grow out of? You can't eat one meal without hot sauce?
Why not just make it all normal and she can salt to her heart's content? Seems easier than doing the extra work that she'll do anyway.
Yes, it's insulting to the chef if you feel the need to change the taste of what is presented to you. It's as if you are saying the dish is not good enough as is. To season something before you even taste it is in poor taste (see what I did there?).
I would probably overlook it in my house but I would side eye the person who did it in an upscale restaurant.
LOL at all of this.
First of all, "The chef?" Nope. And who in the world is talking about an upscale restaurant. This is more far fetched than my syrup analogy. How do people not know that there are individuals in existence who just like what they like. Don't some of you put hot sauce on kraft mac? The notion that an individual MUST taste something before adding a seasoning is ridiculous. Find something else to be offended by.
It's not a big deal and I know a lot of people like this, but it would bug me. I think it's kind of rude. I would have just passed the salt and enjoyed my meal though.
True. Hmm... I guess I've always been taught that if someone takes the time to make food for you, you eat it the way it's presented. So it seems rude to me to ask for seasoning without even tasting it.
I've never been taught this. I'm guessing others were never taught this as well. I like to eat food how I enjoy it.
I agree that people should eat food how they enjoy it, but how do you know you don't enjoy it without taking a taste first? I know that I tend to spice heavily, so if someone just automatically added hot sauce without a taste they'd probably end up with more than they bargained for.
I don't get offended by people adding seasonings to something I prepare but I just personally don't do it unless I've tasted the food first. I always have the salt and pepper grinder available on the table for guests.
True. Hmm... I guess I've always been taught that if someone takes the time to make food for you, you eat it the way it's presented. So it seems rude to me to ask for seasoning without even tasting it.
So, your parents never put salt and pepper on the table? Ketchup? Mustard?
This is weird.
Nope, never. A lot of things were weird in the house I grew up in.
Post by prettyinpink on Sept 14, 2014 0:00:36 GMT -5
It doesn't bother me only because I grew up with my dad drenching everything in hot sauce before he tasted it and Dh puts salt and pepper on anything I cook before he eats it.
The salt, I didn't mind so much. More that he just didn't taste it first and assumed I hadn't put enough in. I know, I get now that I'm the one wrong about that, and it's nbd. The hot sauce, though? Really??
You don't have hot sauce in your house because you never use it?!
REALLY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
This is why I carry hot sauce in my car. Some people are just fucking weird.
Post by vampsterdam on Sept 14, 2014 0:24:05 GMT -5
I still remember a childhood book on etiquette where a rabbit goes to a fancy restaurant and asks for ketchup and it was a big NO.
That being said, I have no shame in asking for ketchup or bbq sauce because I just love it so much. I really wouldn't take offense to it.
My MIL did annoy our waiter at a fancy steakhouse. She asked for garlic salt (the restaurant had none) for her steak. They ended up bringing her fresh roasted garlic. She was then very wtf when she noticed the waiter's attitude. She then got defensive and said, "Rachel Ray uses garlic salt on her steak and she's a professional chef!" LOL forever.
Post by stealthmom on Sept 14, 2014 2:59:14 GMT -5
No I wouldn't bc I was taught that it is rude but I wouldn't care if someone did it at my house. Dh has hypertension so I don't salt my food at all. I put s&p on the table.
I feel like this is another version of shoes in the house. You can think either side is rude for different reasons. Is it more important to be a good guest and folllow the lead of your host or is the comfort of the guest the most important thing?
Post by mrsukyankee on Sept 14, 2014 3:52:14 GMT -5
I was weirded out the first time my FIL asked for chili sauce when I had made a very delicately seasoned dish. I had hoped he would eat it as is so he could taste the flavours as they were, but realised that he just doesn't have enjoy food that isn't really heavily spiced (he's Indian). So, now we have chili for every dish that I cook. I save the delicate dishes for my DH.
Post by thecatinthehat on Sept 14, 2014 3:56:46 GMT -5
DH puts hot sauce on a lot of things. He likes food really salty, like way too salty for me or for anyone! So when I cook, I season it how I like it and he adds salt/hot sauce to it! I used to get offended about it like: ohmahgad my food is not good enough for you!?! I am never cooking again! LOL
I've never been taught this. I'm guessing others were never taught this as well. I like to eat food how I enjoy it.
I agree that people should eat food how they enjoy it, but how do you know you don't enjoy it without taking a taste first? I know that I tend to spice heavily, so if someone just automatically added hot sauce without a taste they'd probably end up with more than they bargained for.
I don't get offended by people adding seasonings to something I prepare but I just personally don't do it unless I've tasted the food first. I always have the salt and pepper grinder available on the table for guests.
I don't really use hot sauce so I could be off, but from my experience with people who do use it, they seem to LOVE it and put it on just about everything regardless of spice level. I agree it's more risky with salt because what if the meal is over salted.
Also, if I were the type of person to be offended by someone adding spices, I would probably be more offended if they did it after they had tasted it ha. I would think that if they automatically added spices before tasting it's probably a habit for them, but if they did it after they tasted it I'd think they didn't like my food. This is all hypothetical though because I don't think I'd even notice such a thing or care!
Not a panty wad offense. You'll have to find another reason not to like this guy.
Salting before tasting is a breach of old school etiquette, so long as we're living together without benefit of clergy and allowing our moms to throw us baby showers I think we can let this relic of another time pass as well.
My DH loves him some hot sauce. We have several different kinds on hand at all times. HIs Christmas stocking is generally filled with new labels and old favorites. I would never put it on eggs as he does, but I use it a lot when I cook. A little hot sauce in pot roats, stew, and cheese based dishes brightens the flavor.