I don't even know how to discipline my kid for this

[Brie]

Today he bit himself on the arm hard enough to leave teeth marks, then walked over to the teacher and said another girl did it. His story stayed consistent all day but there's no way it was the other girl.

Both teachers saw it and they have no qualms about telling me when he is bitten by another child so I have no reason to doubt them. Also my child is sort of crazy.

WTF do I do? I am sort of just laughing about his weird drama play but that's probably inappropriate, right? Would he even understand delayed consequences at this age?

[8675309]

My DS will have bumps and bruises from obvious park play but when I pick him up he says "Teacher did it." I try not to entertain it because I KNOW the teacher had nothing to do with his skinned knee. I'm guessing its an attention thing so I try to ignore it and reward good behavior with attention. Which is hard to do because like your DS, my DS can be a little crazy at times.

[turtlegirl]

I don't know if he would understand delayed consequences at his age.

I wouldn't feel the need to discipline him at home for this. I might try to talk to him about it and hope he understands some of what I say about how it's not good to make up things that didn't happen, etc. But at his age (he turns 2 this month, right?) I would probably just chalk it up to toddlers being crazy.

[imojoebunny]

That's kind of brilliant, advanced manipulation :-).

I would just talk to him about telling the truth and ask him why he bit himself. If it happens again, then I would tell him that there will be (insert specific consequence). The lying is more of a concern to me than the biting at two, but neither is cause for real concern.

[undecidedowl]

I wouldn't do anything. Other than laugh of course.

I figure toddlers are trying to learn the ways of the world. What he learned this time is that you don't get any extra attention for injuries that you cause yourself. If it becomes an ongoing thing then I would address it.

[Deleted]

Yeah, it's a learning experience. If you all know he's lying I'd just say "We don't do that" and leave it be. At that age the more attention you draw to it, the worse it is.

I'm also assuming biting himself hurt bad enough that he won't try that again. Natural consequences and all.

[chickens987]

Twy sentwa!

LOL, not really but it is kind of amazing. He's not even 2! Good luck in the future.

[Deleted]

Just goes to show how showering the victim with attention can also backfire.

I would not do any delayed discipline other than to say "I know you bit yourself." if he tells stories.

[cjeanette]

I am sorry but I am laughing so hard at this.

Wonder what that girl did to get on his bad side? Steal his goldfish? Take the good crayons in art?

Don't cross that boy.

[elocrates]

Oh boy. Haha. I'd honestly probably just ignore it (not give attention to negative behavior, etc.) since it was a one-time thing.

DS3 does this sometimes when he is teething (though doesn't try to blame other people, haha). We remind him "friends are not food" (or "you are not food").

[Brie]

Sept 15, 2014 19:48:19 GMT -5 cjeanette said:

I am sorry but I am laughing so hard at this.

Wonder what that girl did to get on his bad side? Steal his goldfish? Take the good crayons in art?

Don't cross that boy.

Dude, I am so screwed.

I told him to apologize to her at pick up today. He stood there quietly until SHE apologized to HIM.

Wtf. I'm raising a Corleone.

[Deleted]

He's a genius.