DHs Job is Stagnant- help!

[BioNerd]

DH is in a position with little to no room for advancement or increase in pay. I've been trying to subtly suggest it might be time to start looking for something new. He's very resistant. We aren't flat broke, but we are no where near comfortable.

What talking points might you suggest for this conversation?

FWIW, I know it's not fair for me to expect him to go out and earn more money without doing the same. As a teacher I'm locked into my career for now. He works in retail management. With his schedule I cannot get a part-time job without us paying more for child care and having our child raised by someone else. I have been looking into WAH opportunities.

[LoveTrains]

If he likes his job and you are able to pay your bills, I don't see any problem with him staying in his current role.

[rubytue]

My two cents is rather than subtly suggest, have a conversation with him about what he wants long-term and where he would like to be.

I say think as someone who did the subtle thing for awhile, then the direct thing - telling him he needed to apply to move up. And the reached a blow up point bc I was being passive aggressive, nagging, and pushing without ever asking him what he wanted career-wise. And, turns out, he has no desire to move higher. Better to ask him that try the nagging, hinting thing while resentment builds on both sides.

[huskymom]

Are there opportunities in district management? Would he be interested? Those typically come with a lot of travel.

[BioNerd]

Sept 15, 2014 20:43:11 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Is he emotionally comfortable there?

I think he is. That's the reason I haven't been pushing too hard.

[BioNerd]

Sept 16, 2014 6:34:53 GMT -5 huskymom said:

Are there opportunities in district management? Would he be interested? Those typically come with a lot of travel.

He'd be interested. But there won't likely be a position anytime soon. Not in our area at least, moving isn't an option.

He's very good at training. I really wish there was a position that allowed him to travel to different stores to train. I think he'd love it.

[BioNerd]

Sept 15, 2014 21:02:12 GMT -5 seriously1 said:

You sound like me. I felt this way for a long time. I'm a teacher too and felt trapped by the pay scale and my husband's lack of passion to advance. I finally realized I couldn't change him. I enrolled in a work cohort for admin. masters program. He takes the kids while I attend night grad classes twice a week. It's a lot of work but very freeing for me.

The problem is his schedule. I've been looking in to grad school but whatever I do will have to be 100% online.

[BioNerd]

Sept 15, 2014 20:28:44 GMT -5 suzubell said:

What other options does he have? As far as I remember, he's worked in retail management for a long time, right? What do you seem him going into?

I don't see him in any other positions- unless a company makes up a training position for him. I just wish he was with a company that provided better compensation and room to grow.

[BioNerd]

Sept 16, 2014 17:44:05 GMT -5 tillie said:

Sept 16, 2014 17:30:26 GMT -5 BioNerd said:

I don't see him in any other positions- unless a company makes up a training position for him. I just wish he was with a company that provided better compensation and room to grow.

Would he be open to making a business case to present to his co about creating such a position for him?

I don't want to sound negative, his company is huge and just a small part of Berkshire Hathaway. If it's not there already, it probably never will be.

[huskymom]

Is he open to other companies? One of the benefits of retail is that there are always lots of jobs!