Hump Day Sex Discussion

[melsamoony]

I have never witheld sex as a punishment/used it as a reward. H and I have agreed not to do that.

I also have never used pillow talk to get H to agree to things he otherwise wouldn't.

I also do not pick fights to have makeup sex. I would much rather get along lol.

[MrsMB]

Sept 17, 2014 11:01:34 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

I have never witheld sex as a punishment/used it as a reward. H and I have agreed not to do that.

I also have never used pillow talk to get H to agree to things he otherwise wouldn't.

I also do not pick fights to have makeup sex. I would much rather get along lol.

ditto all of this. 

[megkat]

Yeah, I'm pretty opposed to all of these

To me, there's a difference between withholding sex as a punishment, and saying "I'm upset with you right now and I don't want to have sex with you"- I've done that before, but not to punish

Also picking fights for makeup sex would never work for me. I hate it when we fight.

[MrsMB]

jjwritergirl   (No words)

[luv2rn4fun]

Ditto melsamoony

[mac08]

No to all of those, i think it would just cause more problems than it solved.

[awick14]

Ditto melsamoony

jjwritergirl :/ wow!!!

I have however been known to encourage DH to get things done a little quicker. You know when it takes him 2 hrs to vacuum the living room because he stops every 2 seconds to play with the pup/watch tv. I may tell him that I have a surprise for him when the living room is vacuumed. It helps if I start taking off a piece of clothing while walking away.

[estrellita]

Pretty much no to all of that. I don't purposely withhold, but if we just got in a big fight, chances are it's not happening, lol.

[travelbug]

-Neither of us intentionally withhold sex for punishment, but if I am angry at him we don't have sex. But that's the reason for not doing it!
-For a reward, have not intentionally done it, but if he does something awesome or does super great jobs at school etc then I give him sex because i'm turned on because he was so productive not necessarily because of the actual task!
-Never used pillow talk in this sense. Just the sexual kind of pillow talk!
-Nope, but make up sex is awesome!

[krystee]

Sex? What is this sex you speak of?

We need to get back on the wagon. Or each other, as the case may be.

[luv2rn4fun]

I hear ya krystee I miss sex (and definitely miss pre-pg sex...my body just doesn't operate the same these days).

We had been great about doing it once a week (I would love it more but we've been really busy and it's super hot here) but it will likely be 2 weeks by the time any action happens in our household, if I'm lucky. I tried many times last week/this weekend but DH isn't biting...he's too pre-occupied with everything else and not making it a priority (I'm only a little frustrated because I know he's been super busy and some of the things are things that have to get done and that I want to get done...he's scoring points in all other departments right now!). On top of that, we have a sprinkler issue that DH has to fix tonight before he leaves OOT for work tomorrow.

Good luck! Hopefully all it takes for you is to initiate with your DH and things happen.

[bk1]

- I don't ever "withhold" per say, but if I'm angry at him even if we had planned to have sex that day we might not.

- I will use it as a reward. Usually I use BJs though. Like if DH did something completely awesome (extra cleaning or something) I will get all dressed sexy and tell him I want to give him something special for all the help he has given me.

- Never.

- Never.


The reward stuff I do in all good fun. I don't say "do x and you will get sex/BJ" it's more of "oh you're so awesome let me thank you  (kiss)"

[wanderingenough]

Negatory. On all. We both are very anti playing games when it comes to intimacy.

[HoneySpider]

What melsamoony and wanderingenough said

I have never had makeup sex. DH & I fortunately don't fight too often but when we do, the last thing I am in the mood for afterwards is sex!