Post by Champagne Supernova on Sept 17, 2014 13:36:10 GMT -5
I'm sorry Nuggs. I think you did a great job.
It's going to take her some time to get used to her surroundings. We went through the same thing with DH's maternal grandmother. She was soooooo pissed the fuck off that she didn't wanna talk or see anyone for awhile.
Post by mcsangel2 on Sept 17, 2014 13:39:42 GMT -5
I wonder if some of you ladies are not aware about the changes that happen to people with neurological challenges, when they are moved to an unfamiliar place? (Although some of you are). It's especially noticeable with people who already have dementia. It's the reason why my mom and her brothers and sisters held out as long as they could, moving my grandmother out of her house into a care facility. Losing the familiarity really accelerates the mental degradation.
My mom (a former nurse) has tried to be so proactive in doing what she can to stave off dementia/alzheimers as she gets older, since both her mother and grandmother had it. She's 73, and much better off than my grandmother was at that age, but I can see her slowing down mentally, a bit. And I think that is why she is actively preparing to downsize now that my dad is gone - so that she can move into a place that hopefully she can live in for the rest of her life, now, while she's still mentally active enough to transition smoothly.
It's not just getting older. Bittybomb's dad faces similar challenges as an epileptic. And after reading a thread about the dangers of older people in very early stages of dementia and letting them travel, I was able to make a similar connection. I had a (minor) stroke 2 years ago, and while traveling 4 months later, my apraxia (stuttering) came back.
Unfamiliar surroundings really do a number on your brain, it's just that neurologically healthy people are able to cope with it.
PLUS he is all freaked about the damn cake and mini cupcakes for his grandma's 90th party on Saturday being $120 bucks and thinks it should have only cost $45 tops
My MIL, who had crazy dementia and should have moved into assisted living YEARS before she finally did was pissed as hell for a long time after the move. She got better, eventually.
My DH thinks everything should be free or cost $2. I have to continually ask him how he thinks people are supposed to feed their families by giving away their services for free.
My Step dad is like this. My mom just doesn't tell him how much things cost.
I'm sorry nuggetbrain. My mom has said some very ugly things to me due to her dementia. Even though there's an objective reason for this type of behavior, it still doesn't hurt any less to be on the receiving end of it. Vent away.