Question: Is kissing important?

[Gato]

Funny, I've never actually blamed the guy for a bad kiss. I've just thought, oh well, there's no attraction here - like maybe we had incompatible styles. But yeah, for me bad kissing pretty much kills any chance of taking things further.

[elleblue]

Sept 17, 2014 12:59:27 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

I also agree it's more intimate. I think one of the reasons I'm not a huge fan of oral is that I feel weird not really participating (just lying there, LOL) and then I feel like I need to be really noisy and enthusiastic, and I feel super self-conscious whether or not I'm making noises. It almost makes me tense.

Kissing relaxes me and gets me in the mode for sex.

I felt that way for a long time too until it dawned on me that there has (probably) never been, in the history of ever, a guy who felt guilty for just receiving. So I promptly got over it. heh

[pantsparty]

Sept 17, 2014 13:16:25 GMT -5 elleblue said:

Sept 17, 2014 12:59:27 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

I also agree it's more intimate. I think one of the reasons I'm not a huge fan of oral is that I feel weird not really participating (just lying there, LOL) and then I feel like I need to be really noisy and enthusiastic, and I feel super self-conscious whether or not I'm making noises. It almost makes me tense.

Kissing relaxes me and gets me in the mode for sex.

I felt that way for a long time too until it dawned on me that there has (probably) never been, in the history of ever, a guy who felt guilty for just receiving. So I promptly got over it. heh

Oh, I don't feel guilty. I just feel weird.

[Deleted]

I married a good kisser but he doesn't seem to enjoy kissing as much as I do. It's a struggle. I dated a man who was a terrible kisser. I mean BAD. but he was so good in bed that I just kind of changed how kissing played into sex. I kissed him a lot without letting him kiss me. He didn't seem to miss that part of it so it worked for us.

[mellymel]

super important. while we're on this topic, bad breath is a dealbreaker too. even if you're a good kisser, GTFO if you have bad breath.

I would be mortified if DH told me I was a bad kisser now, but we have been together over a decade. At least the poster on MM has been with her H for a shorter period of time, although he should have given her this feedback much earlier in their relationship!

[elleblue]

Sept 17, 2014 13:17:20 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

Sept 17, 2014 13:16:25 GMT -5 elleblue said:

I felt that way for a long time too until it dawned on me that there has (probably) never been, in the history of ever, a guy who felt guilty for just receiving. So I promptly got over it. heh

Oh, I don't feel guilty. I just feel weird.

Ok, wrong word. I doubt guys feel weird about it either.   <---- that smilie seems extra salacious given the conversation but I don't intend for it to be, lol

[pantsparty]

Another reason I love kissing is my H has absolutely intoxicating natural breath. Must be the pheromones!

[amberlyrose]

It's integral to our marriage. We do a lot of kissing.

[zoomzoom]

Sept 17, 2014 13:19:09 GMT -5 mellymel said:

super important. while we're on this topic, bad breath is a dealbreaker too. even if you're a good kisser, GTFO if you have bad breath.

I would be mortified if DH told me I was a bad kisser now, but we have been together over a decade. At least the poster on MM has been with her H for a shorter period of time, although he should have given her this feedback much earlier in their relationship!

This is exactly why I could never date or marry a smoker.

And why morning sex doesn't involve much kissing on the mouth.  Movies drive me nuts when a couple wakes up and starts making out like they have completely fresh breath.  Morning breath sucks.

[Deleted]

Kissing is super important. ExH was a bad kisser and no amount of coaching helped. I've dismissed more than one date who was a bad kisser, I just don't have the patience for that. The problem with great kissing is that I end up nakked very fast. I really need to learn self control.

[starlily]

Yes it's important to me. I don't think I could get to the sex portion of a relationship if the kissing portion was bad.

[venice2007]

Kissing is important to me and much more of a turn on to get me in the mood!

[BaliHai]

Yes it's super important, and no, I couldn't get past terrible kissing. I dated terrible/not-great kissers in the past, and those relationships were short-lived. There's nothing so deflating as a bad kiss, IMO.

[mellimel19]

Kissing is very important for me. I don't think I'd even get past the kissing stage with someone who was a bad kisser.

[oliveyou]

Yes, important!

[mrsrumfkin]

Hmm. I guess it depends. Like making out kissing isn't good. I don't enjoy it. But any kind of mostly lips/partially open kissing is really good. And I prefer kisses that are anywhere but my mouth, so maybe I'm weird. I don't think I'd be able to overlook it if the kissing was just bad, bad, bad, though.

[mrsukyankee]

Kissing is VERY important, though even more important when it's horrible. I gave up a very lovely multi-millionaire due to his horrible kissing abilities. I just couldn't imagine a life of kissing that bad (plus I'm guessing other things might not work as well).

[CheshireGrin]

I'm with LHC on this one. Kissing is so important. I feel like I could work with not so good sex if the kissing were good, but if the kissing is bad, I'm never going to be turned on enough to get to the sex.

I remember this one guy I met online several years ago. We talked a bunch on the phone before we ever even met, like talked FOR HOURS, which is unusual for me, had phenomenal chemistry. I was head over heels for him before we even had our first date. Finally got to the date, everything was fantastic until he went to kiss me goodnight, and it was just...not good. He was a sloppy kisser with weirdly soft and floppy lips. Yuck.

It was an immediate turn off. We had one more date after that and things just fizzled. It was unfortunate, because I think he was a really great guy with a lot of potential, but I just couldn't do it.

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[penelope]

I could not look past that.

I had never really been with a good kisser before. I didn't really realize it, but the first time DH kissed me it made me weak in the knees. Now I know the difference!

[wambam]

I think it's extremely important, but something that can be coached and can change over time.