I am not a fan of planned sex.

[Deleted]

H and I had planned sex today. The initiation process is just so awkward. lol

[eddy]

It isn't my favorite, but somethimes you just gotta do the dirty.

[Deleted]

I love the anticipation!

Sorry you didn't enjoy it

[karmasabiotch]

I'm not much of a fan either way.

I need to invent a Jewish Nun cult of some kind.

ETA:  Atheist Jewish Nun cult.

[wambam]

It's definitely awkward, but sometimes it's gotta be done.

Does it continue to be awkward after you get going?

[sequins]

UGH. This brings back very bad memories of months and months of timed sex during TTC.

[whiskeyandwine]

Sept 18, 2014 14:18:52 GMT -5 sequins said:

UGH. This brings back very bad memories of months and months of timed sex during TTC.

Lol, I was going to say the same thing!

[Muddled]

Sept 18, 2014 14:18:52 GMT -5 sequins said:

UGH. This brings back very bad memories of months and months of timed sex during TTC.

So true. Ugh.

[Deleted]

Sept 18, 2014 14:10:01 GMT -5 wambam said:

It's definitely awkward, but sometimes it's gotta be done.

Does it continue to be awkward after you get going?

It's great after the first like 5 minutes, but cringe worthy before.

[wambam]

Sept 18, 2014 14:27:39 GMT -5 @t2j said:

Sept 18, 2014 14:10:01 GMT -5 wambam said:

It's definitely awkward, but sometimes it's gotta be done.

Does it continue to be awkward after you get going?

It's great after the first like 5 minutes, but cringe worthy before.

Been there. Sometimes you just have to fight through.

[CloudBee]

It's a toss up for me. Planning can feel like a chore, while other times the anticipation makes it better.

[isabel]

Sept 18, 2014 14:08:19 GMT -5 @wandering said:

I love the anticipation!

Sorry you didn't enjoy it

I'm more here. It sort of gives me those nervous, first time jitters. The anticipation can be fun.

Eta: this does not apply to TTC sex, because ugh. We only had to be serious about it for a month. I can't imagine if we had a hard time getting pregnant.

[pantsparty]

Sept 18, 2014 14:31:17 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

Hee, I love it.

"Is the kid asleep?"
"Yeah."
"Are you sure?"
"Yeah."
"Okay, take your pants off, quick."

"Wanna do it?" is basically how I initiate sex.

H is a lucky man!

[Deleted]

Planned sex is a huge turn off for me, which kind of defeats the purpose.

[noodleskooze]

I'm doing it wrong. Sex is always planned here--let me believe it's because we have a small child and not because we're weird.

[karmasabiotch]

Sept 18, 2014 14:18:52 GMT -5 sequins said:

UGH. This brings back very bad memories of months and months of timed sex during TTC.

Totally agree. It was actually a relief when my H didn't have to be in the room to get me pg.

[zoomzoom]

Also not a fan of planned sex. Holy awkward. I'd rather it occur naturally. Man, TTC planned sex would drive me up a wall. Ugh.

[luckyval]

Good planned sex has to include hours of dirty texting back and forth for it to be worthwhile.

[starburst604]

Sept 18, 2014 14:18:52 GMT -5 sequins said:

UGH. This brings back very bad memories of months and months of timed sex during TTC.

Yup that's where my mind went too.

"Hey I'm horny wanna have sex after you get home from work?" - YES
"Hey we need to have sex because I got the creepy smile face on the CBE digital OPK" - nonononononoooooooooo

[sequins]

Sept 18, 2014 14:47:31 GMT -5 karmasabiotch said:

Sept 18, 2014 14:18:52 GMT -5 sequins said:

UGH. This brings back very bad memories of months and months of timed sex during TTC.

Totally agree. It was actually a relief when my H didn't have to be in the room to get me pg.

It's the biggest positive of IVF. That and actually having a chance to get pregnant, lol.

[Deleted]

I feel like sex is awkward half the time anyway for me lol. Laughing during sex is always fun. It's not always romantic and spontaneous like in the movies.

[junebug]

Sept 18, 2014 14:38:13 GMT -5 noodleskooze said:

I'm doing it wrong. Sex is always planned here--let me believe it's because we have a small child and not because we're weird.

I just realized that most of our sex is planned too. It's totally due to have a small child. "hey, the kid is sleeping, wanna do it." Super romantic lol.

[junebug]

Sept 18, 2014 14:49:45 GMT -5 luckyval said:

Good planned sex has to include hours of dirty texting back and forth for it to be worthwhile.

I'm failing as a wife. We have sex planned for tonight, and it never crossed my mind to dirty text H. I'm going to do this. He'll probably be like, "wtf is this."lol

[zoomzoom]

Sept 18, 2014 14:49:45 GMT -5 luckyval said:

Good planned sex has to include hours of dirty texting back and forth for it to be worthwhile.

Excellent point.

[Deleted]

Sept 18, 2014 14:49:45 GMT -5 luckyval said:

Good planned sex has to include hours of dirty texting back and forth for it to be worthwhile.

Group texts?

[luckyval]

Sept 18, 2014 15:12:57 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

Sept 18, 2014 14:49:45 GMT -5 luckyval said:

Good planned sex has to include hours of dirty texting back and forth for it to be worthwhile.

Group texts?

Party Line!

[marylennox]

Huh. I don't get why being planned makes it awkward?

Maybe I'm just weird. I like planned sex. And we don't even have kids. I just like to be mentally prepared. Lol.

[Deleted]

Planning sex is the only time I have sex :/

[thatgirl2478]

Sept 18, 2014 14:18:52 GMT -5 sequins said:

UGH. This brings back very bad memories of months and months of timed sex during TTC.

LOL - yeah - that's what I was going to say.

One night I was SO MAD at DH for something .. who knows what .. and I told him that I didn't really like him at the moment but we had to do it because I was ovulating..

[wkatie]

I'm scheduled to have sex tonight, lol.