My dad bought my mom a ticket to come visit my brother and I California next month.
My sister-in-law emailed me the itinerary today, and said that because it's their anniversary, they are planning on driving up to Eureka-ish with my mom Friday through Sunday.
I do not want to drive four hours up to the bay area, and then an additional God knows how far. I really only have Saturday and Sunday to go up there give or take a half day on Monday or Friday.
So suck it up and drive a lot? Skip seeing my mom and hear about it for an eternity?
YOU COULD HAVE CHOSEN SACRAMENTO OR SOMETHING CLOSER, ASSHOLES.
My dad bought my mom a ticket to come visit my brother and I California next month.
My sister-in-law emailed me the itinerary today, and said that because it's their anniversary, they are planning on driving up to Eureka-ish with my mom Friday through Sunday.
I do not want to drive four hours up to the bay area, and then an additional God knows how far. I really only have Saturday and Sunday to go up there give or take a half day on Monday or Friday.
So suck it up and drive a lot? Skip seeing my mom and hear about it for an eternity?
YOU COULD HAVE CHOSEN SACRAMENTO OR SOMETHING CLOSER, ASSHOLES.
Is she only going to be here the 3 days? Was Eureka their idea or your mom's? Could you tell them that you only Saturday and Sunday and can't make a 14 hour round trip drive in two days? Is it completely non-negotiable? I think it sucks that they wouldn't have considered the travel this would require of you. If you were going for more the two days I would say to suck it up but I think 7ish hours in a car each day is a little much and won't allow for much visiting.
@forcuatro, The original plan was I was going to drive up for the weekend and watch the baby so they could go out for their anniversary. Then my dad decided to fly my mom out so that she could see the baby and spend some time in California. She will be here for a full week, but I can't take more than a half-day or so.
I'm annoyed because what will likely end up happening is I'll drive up very early Sunday and come back very early Monday.
Post by emilyinchile on Sept 18, 2014 19:44:07 GMT -5
Omg, Eureka is basically Canada. Is it possible that your SIL is just not thinking and would be receptive to you answering with the info that you only have Sat-Sun free to see your mom, so could they choose somewhere a bit closer so that you can join as well?
Why don't they still have you come up and you AND your mom watch the baby while they are gone? They can take the weekend to themselves and you can hang out with your mom. This is a much better plan that your brother, SIL, and mom having a romantic weekend together.
Post by ellipses84 on Sept 18, 2014 19:46:04 GMT -5
Suggest you drive up and watch the baby as planned and your mom stays with you and the baby. They get their anniversary trip and still have the rest of the week to visit your mom. You could do a family dinner on one end of their trip. If they don't go for that, I'd suck it up and make the long drive.
Why don't they still have you come up and you AND your mom watch the baby while they are gone? They can take the weekend to themselves and you can hang out with your mom. This is a much better plan that your brother, SIL, and mom having a romantic weekend together.
I'm confused. If your mom is coming to visit you both, why are they totally hijacking her? Why do they think your mom wants to go on their anniversary trip? Totally Why do they want your mom to go on their anniversary trip? Why is their anniversary trip to Eureka?? Have they paid for anything yet? I would seriously be finding good plans for them further south. If they're going to drive anyway, the least they could do is head your way lol.
She is mostly going to visit the baby, and it was planned to coincide with my visit.
I am seriously WTF-ing the "let's all go on this trip!" Why does there even need to be a trip?
Fingers crossed it's just a not well thought out plan that will evolve.
Post by vanillacourage on Sept 18, 2014 21:25:23 GMT -5
So you and your mom do all this traveling and give up your entire weekend so they can have a very specific and inconvenient anniversary night, just the two of them? No.
They are having an attack of new-parent-brain, a horrible disease brought on by sleep deprivation and fueled by hormones. Slap your SIL upside the head and point out that she just invited her MIL on her anniversary trip, which by default makes it NOT an anniversary trip. Help them snap out of this.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 19, 2014 4:13:41 GMT -5
Uh, yeah, point out to your lovely sister in law the insanity of spending any amount of time in the car with a three month old. And then politely give other more reasonable suggestions that work for you too.
Yeah- I'm definitely in the camp of "smack some sense into them". Because the trip sound horrible to start, then expecting you to do ALL that driving? No.
That's definitely a weird plan but I'd cut your SIL some slack. It sounds like she and your brother had plans for a nice romantic night out, with you watching the baby, and now they have a houseguest for a week (your mom). I would offer to watch the baby with your mom while they go to Eureka or go out for the night, but let her know that driving to Eureka would be too much time in the car for you.