I forgot to add, I can't do skinny men. My man cannot weigh less than me dammit.
My friend won't seriously date anyone whose thigh is bigger than hers when they're sitting. In law school she was always sidling up to guys and sitting down next to them for a quick preliminary evaluation.
See, I'm okay if they are a big skinny. That's fine. But there are some really thin guys I look at who have no muscle tone like at all and all I can think is I bet that's like fucking a brittle stick. One that would snap if I wrapped my legs around it.
And I need something to hold. I need you to have enough flesh in some sense of the word be it muscle or even skinny-fat that I feel all warm and safe and shit when you hug me.
Although, the taller you are, the thinner you are permitted to be.
My friend won't seriously date anyone whose thigh is bigger than hers when they're sitting. In law school she was always sidling up to guys and sitting down next to them for a quick preliminary evaluation.
LOLLLL Let me measure my thigh to his and see if he is a candidate. LOL
She was mad at me when I started dating my husband because she was looking for a tall, Jewish man who doesn't have chicken legs. And I stole one with my shiksa charms.
Military guys. Not into that. Not sure why (I guess it's something unfamiliar to me coming from a non-military family? My exH is the first military guy I dated and he was in a military BAND, so not a soldier in the real sense of the word). Anyway, not into it.
What? I love men in uniform. How you can NOT get your panties in a twist with this?
Because that will move. I love military guys, obviously lol. Plus, I grew up with them. I'm familiar with the lifestyle, the career, the transient nature if they don't get out. But if you grew up settled or looking to be settled, the appeal of a man who will move ever few years for the next twenty plus is diminished.
And I won't side eye anyone for knowing ahead of time that they have no desire to wait out a deployment.
Post by jillboston on Sept 19, 2014 10:22:23 GMT -5
I went for dark hair generally Italian American guys for the most part and then married the whitest white guy there is (blond hair blue eyes freckles glows in dark).
A weak chin. I just can't even with a weak chin. Perhaps this is because I have a particularly chinny chin for a woman, but NO. No weak chins. I turned down a guy for prom because of his weak chin.
This is a good one. A very weak chin reminds me of Cletus from The Simpsons.
I like tatoos and a few piercings but nothing over the top with the metal. Arm sleeves of tatoos? Um, yes please
I don't mind confident but no cockiness or arrogance.
Clean shaved or facial hair- I don't care. But if you have a beard, make sure it's trimmed.
At least my height (I'm 5'8") or taller
Body size- not rail thin. As a few stated above, I too am not a petite woman and I don't want to break you. Went out with a guy who is maybe 5'7" and 140 pounds (that's being generous). Very nice guy but I felt like the jolly freaking green giant next to him. I tend to go for thicker men that are stocky or muscled up. One of my favorites in my current rotation is 5'10", tatted up, former Marine and a powerlifter. That man can deadlift 605 pounds and bench 495. Excuse me whilst I fan myself.
Body hair: I don't care if you are a furry man or smooth. It's your body, not my call.
Hair on your head: bald, shaved, balding, short or a little long. If you have to put it in a pony tail, move along.
Some intelligence. You don't have to have a college degree but you have to be able to speak intelligently about current topics and/or things you are passionate about. You need to have a quest for learning.
Iunno. I used to say I wouldn't date anyone lighter than me, next thing you know, I married Whitey. That's what I get.
I wasn't even going to CONSIDER anyone, ever, who even had a passing interest in the military. And preferred arty guys who were, like, deep, man instead of government major hacks who were interested in politics. Oopsie.
Same thing! I totally thought I would end up with a hippy guy and I ended up a military wife.
I like thin men but they have to be tall and thin. Most of my boyfriends including my Dh were all over 6 feet tall, I am 5'1"- my tall friends used get mad at me for taking the tallest guys.
Military guys. Not into that. Not sure why (I guess it's something unfamiliar to me coming from a non-military family? My exH is the first military guy I dated and he was in a military BAND, so not a soldier in the real sense of the word). Anyway, not into it.
I refused to talk to military guys after I was groped one night by a Marine. Then my pastor invited me over one night for dinner, and a group of Marines happened to be there. They were all in the MC Band, lol. I married one, and he is worthy of my no-military exemption. But now he's into finance, so maybe one day we can be bougie.
Post by karinothing on Sept 19, 2014 11:18:05 GMT -5
Apparently I am somewhat the opposite of @soudesafinado as I hate hair. I mean I like it on their heads obviously, but needs to be short. I don't like hair elsewhere lol. Luckily DH is part American Indian
Also
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guys who watch a lot of sports on TV (live sports fine, tv sports HATE).
These threads always make me feel sorry for short guys. Poor dudes. They can't help it!
I had the craziest crush on a short guy in college. We were the same height, I think. Alas, he did not reciprocate the feelings (story of my life!).
Dh is 5'4 ...well he says he is 5'6 My mom was 5'11 and my dad was 5'6 although he is like 5 feet now lol. They were marreid 30 years before he passed, so short guys rule IMO.
LMAO. I think Dwayne Johnson does admit to eating both junk food and healthy stuff. However, the difference b/w him and Shemar Moore is that Dwayne used to be an athlete who turned it into a pro wrestling career then an action movie career. He needs his body to look that amazing to continue getting any work, lol. Shemar has that face AND body. ::fans self::
I should add that a buthisface like The Rock doesn't do it for me. I need some combo of face and body. lol
I'm all confused here because I don't think he has a bithisface I like Dwayne! And Bruce Willis. Yum, even if he is getting old. And yes, I still like Shemar too.
Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed. - G. K. Chesterton
Post by mysterons on Sept 19, 2014 11:38:18 GMT -5
Mmm, boys. One of my favorite topics.
From my experience with dating websites/apps, I will pass over guys for the following reasons: poor grammar, soul patch, calls himself an entrepreneur, too active (I like to chill), too many pictures with his bros, is a bro, long hair.
I love the following attributes: tattoos, beards, former military, broad shoulders, into music, film, art, etc.
I prefer 6' or over in the height department but my true cutoff is 5'8". I'm 5'5". I also prefer him to have a bigger build as I'm not a petite thing.
I am 5'11". I once dated a guy who claimed to be 5'8" but was actually just under 5'7". It was so awkward.
Short guys, no. Egotism. Poor hygiene Those who don't follow politics or current events Too skinny. I like the big burly guys. I'm a tall very curvy woman and appreciate a man who makes me feel smaller. lol. Ironically the last two people I seriously dated were skinny-ish.
I'm happy to see that I'm not the only one who isn't attracted to short men. My husband makes fun of me for that,he's 6'3" He thinks it's weird that I would automatically dismiss someone because of their height.
I've dated a guy who was considerably shorter than me (and Asian.) It was fun. He turned out to be an asshole, but I found him attractive before that realization at least. He also played the violin and was a fantastic cook and really really smart. And smelled good. And dressed well.
Poor hygiene is the only thing right off the top of my head. I used to not want to date smaller guys because I'm tall, but it never seemed to work out that way. I mean, H is the only guy I dated over 5'10", I think. He's 6'6", so I got the tall.
He does drive a truck, though. He pulled that shit after we were married, although I never ruled a guy out because of a truck.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
and you know sometimes it's just what they are doing to themselves that is not hot.
Because Jake Brigance is some panty dropping sexiness. Matthew McConaIain'tspellingthat was doing everything just right in that era. ALL DAY FUCKING LONG.
But Sahara Matthew is a huge fucking turn off, Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge.
He got it back for Killer Joe though and carried it right on through to True Detective, he and Woody Harrelson doing that thin, toned, lean, slow drawl thing in tandem? Fuck country boys. I'll take a Texas boy all damned day long. You see that shit?? Oh yes.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Sept 19, 2014 16:46:42 GMT -5
I'm game
1- nothing under 6'2" ... yes me and my 6' frame can be VERY picky
2- no dreads
3- facial hair - day old scruff fine (Anthony Bourdain ) full on ZZ Top action .. i'll pass
4- unless you're some sort of skilled tradesman .. please be able to rattle off where you got your degree. xh had a mere GED and lord knows it showed and bored me to tears sometimes.