How do I tell my husband he looks ridiculous

[escrow]

Without hurting feelings? Impossible? He apparently decided to cut the legs off an old pair of jeans (below the knee) and is wearing them as shorts but it looks, well, sloppy and weird, and he's got the strings from the cut hanging down. He looks like a ragamuffin to me and I'm positive that's not the look he's going for. He has asked me for help with clothes and stuff before, but I don't want to make him feel bad. Any ideas? I'll try to sneak in a pic so you can see haha

[joenali]

Ask him where is fixie is?

[thinkofthesoldiers]

If you can't tell your husband that he looks ridiculous, who can you tell? Just say it. You would want him to tell you, right? and being gentle about cut-off jeans isn't an option.

[ErinExpat]

Jorts are always worthy of an intervention.

[joenali]

Here.

[arielroux]

OMG, no. You have to tell him, straight up. I have no issue telling my H when he looks ridiculous.

Will he really get his feelings hurt? I mean, he made denim cutoffs, will he really be surprised by your reaction?

[karinothing]

Sept 20, 2014 8:52:49 GMT -5 arielroux said:

OMG, no. You have to tell him, straight up. I have no issue telling my H when he looks ridiculous.

Will he really get his feelings hurt? I mean, he made denim cutoffs, will he really be surprised by your reaction?

This. There is nothing wrong with saying you do not like the shorts

[escrow]

I actually think he has asked me about these before and I told him they don't work. I can picture this maybe working for a certain type but not him. He is the type of guy who wears socks with sandals. I've made him change those before going out. He is taking dd to dance in an hour, maybe I'll wait and see if dd says anything about it haha.

[hisno1girl]

Is he just working around the house or is he going out in public?

At home, I wouldn't care. In public, say, "Dear, please go change out of those shorts. You look like a dork, Love you."

[circa1978]

Is it just for hanging out at home? Mine has a pair of Capri workout pants. They are so stupid and I call them his manpris but he gives no fucks. As long as he isn't wearing them out of the house, I keep quiet.

[hermione]

So he made himself a pair of jean capris??

My husband has the least fashion sense of any human being alive. I used to try to be gentle but now I just say, "You can obviously wear whatever you want but ___________ isn't really working." He takes it very well.

[rosiebear]

I dissent. My H is a grown man and he gets to choose (or design, in this case) his own clothes. How he looks isn't a reflection on me, so it wouldn't matter if I thought it looked bad. I'd let him KOKO.

[Deleted]

I'm a terrible liar. I would have burst out laughing the first moment I saw him.

I'm always honest with DH about his clothes, and that includes complimenting generously. DH's problem is that he doesn't like to go shopping so he'll wear an item of clothing till it's threadbare and out of style. Someone has to tell him it's not a good look! (That's different from telling him HOW to dress, IMO. He can wear whatever style of shoe he wants, for instance, but if laces are fraying and they're badly scuffed, I'm going to tell him he can't go to work like that and have people take him seriously.)

[bonquiqui]

They have to go. Be straight up

[escrow]

Bahaha, we had an intervention. He took it well and is going to change now. Bonus:

[RoxMonster]

I would probably have to say something. I agree with PP that I also compliment H when I think he looks really nice. Now, to be fair, my H regularly asks my opinion of clothes. So, I feel a lot more comfortable telling him "You look a hot mess" or something along those lines.

Since he's taking your daughter to dance, I would ask him, "Are you sure you want to wear those to dance class"?

ETA: Yay! Glad he is going to change.

[Deleted]

Sept 20, 2014 8:54:17 GMT -5 escrow said:

I actually think he has asked me about these before and I told him they don't work. I can picture this maybe working for a certain type but not him. He is the type of guy who wears socks with sandals. I've made him change those before going out. He is taking dd to dance in an hour, maybe I'll wait and see if dd says anything about it haha.

My dad had to up his game in the style department after having three daughters.

I always warn DH that DD may be a harsher critic than I am. ("You can't take me to dance like that, dad, I'll DIE of humiliation.")

[bonquiqui]

Oh dear god. Worse than I imagined

[Booze Raccoon]

Oh shit, that's worse than I was picturing!

[alzi]

I would have just laughed when I saw it. Lol

[escrow]

He is like "so should I just throw these away?" Yup. He is actually all sheepishly smiley and said thanks for telling him.
Omg... "so is this just a Tennessee thing?" I love him

[sunshineluv]

That pic made me lol!

[Deleted]

Hah! Listen, my h is like, captain of the jorts club, and he would never wear those. Lol. I'm glad he threw them out

[motzie]

Omg! That picture. I don't think I'd need words for that. My face would've given me away the first time I saw them.

[Deleted]

Sept 20, 2014 8:54:17 GMT -5 escrow said:

I actually think he has asked me about these before and I told him they don't work. I can picture this maybe working for a certain type but not him. He is the type of guy who wears socks with sandals. I've made him change those before going out. He is taking dd to dance in an hour, maybe I'll wait and see if dd says anything about it haha.

Sounds like you have your work cut out for you!

[jlt19]

My husband did this, but he cut them just above the knee. He paired it with a white t-shirt and flip flops. I laughed at him but he didn't care. Then we went to a bbq and all of our friends laughed at him too (b/c we're all dicks) and he still wears them. I've given up.

[Deleted]

"Honey, those shorts... Just no."

[escrow]

Sept 20, 2014 9:37:41 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Actually, my Dad's cut offs are much shorter. Embarrassingly shorter. He likes to show a little thigh.

I think that is part of what makes it look so silly, they are soooo long and fug. I wish I could have gotten a pic of him standing up, but I had to sneak the one I took

[starburst604]

"The Incredible Hulk called, he wants his shorts back before he gets very angry".

I could tell my H he looks ridiculous, so unless he would really get all hurt about this, just say it.

[Pixiehollow]

Omg thank you thank you for posting the pic! It is also worse than I imagined. I love that he took it well and is willing to give them up. Omg. Thanks for the laugh.