I think we are done CDing until the next kid. We just are not using them as much as we used to and I'm going to be working more starting next month so I think switching over completely will streamline things.
You sellllllling anything? lol
Maybe! I need to go through them. Will be keeping gn ones and my favorites
L had an allergic reaction at her birthday party today.
i have no idea wtf it was from. it was mild, but still. she was held by lots of people and she must have been fed something she cannot have. this coupled with her accidental dairy ingestion and reaction 2 weeks ago is a little stressful. i also feel like a shit mother because duh lady, pay attention. make sure everyone at the party knows not to feed your kid. luckily most of my friends know not to give her anything and spoke up when they saw it, but ugh. this was 100% my fault.
also flameful: i am completely exhausted and worn out from her party. there were SO many people there, which stresses me out because i am super introverted and i don't have time to talk to all of them and feel like i should spend adequate time with them all. but, i guess i had it at a park so they would entertain themselves. i wish we didn't have her party on her actual birthday because it wasn't fun for me and i don't feel like we got to spend her birthday in a special way. plus, L doesn't even like parties lol
sorry for the rambling. i'm tired.
Dude, I'm still recovering from C's party. It was awesome but so exhausting.
I hope L is feeling better!
i do feel so happy that so many people adore my daughter and were able to be there. that meant a lot. but i am looking forward to a quiet day tomorrow.
thanks! she had hives and puffiness around her mouth and cheeks. standard allergic-reaction rash. at first i thought she had something on her face until i examined it more with other people. allergies suck. i hate how on top of them i have to be, and i am clearly not good at it. it's not my personality to hover or worry about stuff and i can't just be laid back about food apparently.
Post by teatimefor2 on Sept 20, 2014 20:32:19 GMT -5
This morning a irrationally lost my temper at DH over cups in the dishwasher. I yelled, stomped upstairs and slammed our bedroom door. In my defense, I told him not to start with me. DS saw everything and I feel horrible. He's never seen me yell.
We recovered and went apple and pumpkin picking. H loved it, but by my photos you would think it was torture. Every.time. I got the camera out he would turn to me and say no pictures mommy. He hates the camera. I really hope baby number two loves the camera and is super photogenic. It drives me batty. You have a good life, kid. You picked your own pumpkin, smile for mommy!
I think we are done CDing until the next kid. We just are not using them as much as we used to and I'm going to be working more starting next month so I think switching over completely will streamline things.
Bas is just a teensy bit rashy at least half the time these days, and I wonder about not cding anymore sometimes.
This is why we quit at 19 months. Canine and molar poo were killer and he was always red. We keep Desitin on him most of the time now in disposables and it's much better.
We'll CD the second kid but I think you just hit a point with toddlers where it's not worth it.
trust I am like the lieutenant of MMM crappy sleepers (@tokenhoser is my general), but seriously in the long haul this is just a blip of time. I totally get how bad it blows... but I am considering another child. THERE IS HOPE.
My second is a pretty good sleeper.
DS is still dicey at 3. DD loves her crib, goes to sleep without any issues, and sttn about half the time right now. I could night wean her if I cared more. I credit DS's killing the part of my soul that responds to crying (made a bit of sleep training easier), but really she's just a different child. There is hope.
Post by rugbywife on Sept 20, 2014 21:12:53 GMT -5
I think I am done breastfeeding guys and I am sad.
How long can I feed her once or twice a day (more for comfort nursing for her, because she seems to want it)? I already don't produce much…will it just run dry and then she will hate me?
What happened to the "Mothers Who Regret Motherhood" thread? I was going to go read it to make myself feel less guilty for having a total meltdown today that we've ruined our lives and we'll never read a book or watch TV or go out for a glass of wine ever again.
Hugs rugbywife. She's not going to hate you. You can just see how your supply goes for morning/night nursing and top off with formula if you need to.
We introduced formula when X was 9 months and I continued to nurse morning/night for a month after that and then I was dried up.
She is already on formula and can now take straight formula vs. mixed with BM. Pumping at work has been tough, my job doesn't really allow me to take scheduled breaks, so often I end up going too long without pumping and somedays I only pump once in like 10 hours. My pumping output has slowly been decreasing.
Tonight I BF before feeding her her solids (some rice cereal and avocado - but not much of either). She woke up just over 3 hours after I put her down and she just downed 3oz of formula…she isn't getting enough from me anymore, that much is clear. I don't mind feeding her in the evenings/mornings/MOTN but realistically, she needs formula after I feed her because I don't think my milk is satiating her.
I can handle a month. I have enough frozen that she will get to 6 months with BM. Mostly I am sad. I know a great deal of this has to do with going back to work and I chose to go back to work rather than staying home with her. I just feel guilty that I am 'giving up'.
Post by catsarecute on Sept 20, 2014 21:30:05 GMT -5
There is a mommy blogger that I've been following for years. I've even exchanged many many emails with her. She had her third kid recently and every time she mentions her second child, it's a comment about how she is the most challenging one and a "wild card" compared to sweet kid #1 and loveable #3. It makes me sad because it gets mentioned a lot. Maybe I'm reading into it a bit though.
There is a mommy blogger that I've been following for years. I've even exchanged many many emails with her. She had her third kid recently and every time she mentions her second child, it's a comment about how she is the most challenging one and a "wild card" compared to sweet kid #1 and loveable #3. It makes me sad because it gets mentioned a lot. Maybe I'm reading into it a bit though.
You probably are reading into it. It's hard not to make these comparisons in your head between kids, especially when one of them is significantly more difficult than the other(s). For a long time DD1 was my most challenging one. Then DD2 got mobile and the pendulum is swinging in the opposite direction.
The only thing I would side eye is if she says this stuff to them. I really, really, really try to avoid labeling my kids. It happens in my head for sure, but I work hard not to say it out loud to them. I don't want to foster any ill feeling or rivalry between them (that will develop on its own) or make them feel pigeonholed into roles.
Post by rugbywife on Sept 20, 2014 21:42:15 GMT -5
A friend posted on FB today that she booked a trip to Mexico at March Break. Her parents are taking her through their time share so I am sure she only has to pay for her ticket. I am insanely jealous. We could maybe afford it if we really wanted to, if DH went back to work in April, rather than extending his leave til the end of the school year. I know all these things are about priorities, and we have ours and I shouldn't be envious, but I am, I just am. March in Ontario is so cold and damp…
Post by catsarecute on Sept 20, 2014 21:45:31 GMT -5
My mom is organizing a family gathering for October. She sent out an email over a month ago to save the date and today sent an evite and she already knows that nobody on her side of the family can attend. It's such a bummer and I feel really sad for her. She wants everyone to connect with each other since we rarely do and no one comes through for her.
Post by turtlegirl on Sept 20, 2014 21:49:10 GMT -5
We went out to a bar to surprise a friend for his birthday last night. DH and I were totally dreading it because we didn't start the night until 10pm. But once we got there we ended up having a great time. Most of the people there all have young kids and we hang out in family friendly settings a lot, but it was so fun to be out child free together.
My H is feeling bad that "M hates him." I feel bad that M is in his evening fussy period every night when he gets home, but dammit, quit wallowing. I spend 80 hours a week alone with the baby. I don't want to hear how it's soooo hard to try and calm him down for an hour every night.
God, I'm tired. Lol that I thought I'd make it through the WVU game.
Post by turtlegirl on Sept 20, 2014 21:50:54 GMT -5
And I had to go to the store this evening to grab some medicine for the kids and I bought tampons hoping that jinx me into getting a BFP. Although I highly doubt it. Got a BFN today and AF should be here tomorrow.
trust I am like the lieutenant of MMM crappy sleepers (@tokenhoser is my general), but seriously in the long haul this is just a blip of time. I totally get how bad it blows... but I am considering another child. THERE IS HOPE.
DD didn't sleep more than 30-45 min at a time at night until she was 14 mos. Now she loves sleep and sleeps in till 9-10am on the weekends. DS was my "better" sleeper and he didn't STTN till 18 mos.
Clearly I haven't learned my lesson since we're having a third. But it's so true that it's such a short time in general and easier to forget once they're better sleepers.
What happened to the "Mothers Who Regret Motherhood" thread? I was going to go read it to make myself feel less guilty for having a total meltdown today that we've ruined our lives and we'll never read a book or watch TV or go out for a glass of wine ever again.
Idk about the thread but you will. There will be a period in the beginning where if will seem like you won't but you will.
Today I slept until 10:30 (H took C out to run errands), I'm going out with friends on Thursday night, and I'm currently laying in bed watching Gilmore Girls reruns. And we went to a bar to watch football earlier today (including C).
I think I am done breastfeeding guys and I am sad.
How long can I feed her once or twice a day (more for comfort nursing for her, because she seems to want it)? I already don't produce much…will it just run dry and then she will hate me?
I nursed C morning/night/weekends from 11-17 months. I quit pumping at work at 11 months. She won't hate you.
I've only read page 1, but Brie 's H deserves to be locked in a dank room with an angry old lady serving him nothing but creamed spinach. You do NOT eat a pregnant lady's discontinued ice cream.
I have done 23 loads of laundry since Tuesday thanks to this stomach bug. And of course MH got it MOTN last night and was in bed all day today. So I parented solo, weeded the front flower beds, mowed the lawn, weed whacked, planted mums, and went to the gym. I feel accomplished. If only I could be this productive every day. Sigh.
Blue Bell Magic Cookie Bar. It's sooooo good and Blue Bell toys with your emotions with all these damn seasonal flavors.
And we even had two other flavors in the freezer!
OMG, I'm pissed for you!
DH called on the way home earlier this week to see if I needed anything from the grocery store. I told him pumpkin ice cream and that I KNEW they sold it. Cue him spending an hour frantically searching the frozen section and quizzing store employees, as well as stopping by a different store on the way home.
Turns out the pumpkin ice cream that I was thinking of is at TJs. I have no regrets
MadamePresident, if you're up for romantic drama, Silver Linings Playbook was just added to Netflix.
rugbywife You haven't given up and your daughter is not going to hate you! Major kudos to you for making it as far as you have, especially with pumping and supply issues. There's no guarantee how long your supply will last, but I made it about 7 months with DS1 and we're at almost 2 months with DS2 & he's still getting milk. It may be different because I started the morning/night thing when they were 1, but Others have had success earlier, too. It's the right time of year for oatmeal at breakfast. Add some flax to that and you may see an increase in your supply without much effort.
Post by hilwithonelary on Sept 20, 2014 23:23:42 GMT -5
I'll dump this in here.
DH got snipped on Tuesday. I had agreed to it. I think that it was the logical, responsible decision for us.
I was barely fighting back tears in the waiting room. DH offered to cancel, but I told him to go ahead.
I cried my eyes out that night. I'm still sad. I know that DH is 100% against more kids. I would never in a million years try to force him into more. Heck, I don't even want more at this moment. But the finality of the vasectomy is bumming me out a lot more than I expected.