Post by ellipses84 on Sept 21, 2014 16:08:43 GMT -5
Does it say it's a cell phone number? If it's not, they won't get it. I think it's ok to do, but maybe ask that they message you back to confirm they got the text.
Post by dragonfly08 on Sept 21, 2014 16:34:27 GMT -5
I'd call. Even if you can verify that it's a cell number, not everyone texts. Some people actually have texting disabled on our...I mean their...calling plans. :-)
Post by spunkarella on Sept 21, 2014 18:31:41 GMT -5
I would if I knew them well. If I didn't know them, I think it would be better to call unless it says text ok. So much is lost in texts and I would worry about seeming abrupt, them being charged if they don't have unlimited, them not receiving it at all, etc.
I don't want to talk to people by phone to have a five minute conversation about HOW EXCITED I AM to attend their preschus's birthday party (even if I am indeed excited).
I would text but ask for a confirmation. Or email if that's an option.
"Hi Lindsay, this is Jennifer, Megan's mom. I just wanted to let you know that Megan will be at Joshua's party at 2pm on Saturday. Looking forward to it! Thanks."
Saying that takes a hell of a lot less time than texting it. I hate talking on the phone, but something like that is really NBD.
"Hi Lindsay, this is Jennifer, Megan's mom. I just wanted to let you know that Megan will be at Joshua's party at 2pm on Saturday. Looking forward to it! Thanks."
Saying that takes a hell of a lot less time than texting it. I hate talking on the phone, but something like that is really NBD.
This is perfect. And because I hate talking on the phone, I try to call when I know that people may not be around so I can just leave a message.
"Hi Lindsay, this is Jennifer, Megan's mom. I just wanted to let you know that Megan will be at Joshua's party at 2pm on Saturday. Looking forward to it! Thanks."
Saying that takes a hell of a lot less time than texting it. I hate talking on the phone, but something like that is really NBD.
This is perfect. And because I hate talking on the phone, I try to call when I know that people may not be around so I can just leave a message.
OP clarified in the responses that it said cell next to the number. I would interpret that as inviting texts.
I wouldn't. My parents and in-laws have cell phones without text plans and they'd be annoyed if people texted them.
It is polite to respond in the way they ask you to.
If it said "RSVP please call 555-5555" then I agree that the only appropriate method to RSVP is to call.
However, if it says "RSVP 555-5555 (cell)" then I think this implies that either phone calls or texts are invited as appropriate methods of reply. Otherwise, I can't imagine why they would need to clarify that the number is a cell.
I wouldn't. My parents and in-laws have cell phones without text plans and they'd be annoyed if people texted them.
It is polite to respond in the way they ask you to.
If it said "RSVP please call 555-5555" then I agree that the only appropriate method to RSVP is to call.
However, if it says "RSVP 555-5555 (cell)" then I think this implies that either phone calls or texts are invited as appropriate methods of reply. Otherwise, I can't imagine why they would need to clarify that the number is a cell.
Well, if it was a landline, you'd only be able to reach them when they're home (assuming you actually wanted to talk to them -- when I'm RSVPing by phone I deliberately call when the people are at work so I don't have to have a conversation). By cell you may be able to reach them in the middle of the day or whatever.
We still have a land line, and usually for party invitations I put our email and our home phone number rather than our out of state cell phone number.
I wouldn't send a text, unless I was sure it was a cell phone number, only because I know that I put a land line number for our invites when I send them out. I hate to think I'm missing rsvp text messages.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Sept 22, 2014 11:46:41 GMT -5
I recently ran into this same issue. DD1 is at a new school this year and I don't know many of the other parents, but someone invited the whole class to their child's birthday party.
I googled to see if the number was a cell phone (it was), then I sent a text. The mom responded back right away.
The invitation didn't say "call" it just had a number. If I hadn't gotten a confirmation text back I would have called to make sure she got the message, but texting is much easier. And when I'm hosting a party I'd much prefer to receive a text than a phone call.
I also don't know anyone (my age) who doesn't text.
We recently got a kids birthday party invite with a phone number only for the RSVP. I entered the number into my iPhone to text, and it turned blue. That told me that the other number belonged to another iPhone, so she would definitely get the text and would not be charged.
If it had turned green (for a non-iPhone cell phone) or red (for a number that cannot receive text messages), I would have called.
"Hi Lindsay, this is Jennifer, Megan's mom. I just wanted to let you know that Megan will be at Joshua's party at 2pm on Saturday. Looking forward to it! Thanks."
Saying that takes a hell of a lot less time than texting it. I hate talking on the phone, but something like that is really NBD.
Not only am I reluctant to talk to people on the phone, but I have an uncommon name that registers better in print. I always prefer to text/email if it's an option.
OP was specifically asking about a kid's party. I think it's safe to assume that a parent in my generation is comfortable with texts. My kids have each had a bday party this month, and texting to RSVP worked just fine. I got responses within a few minutes; if not, I would've followed up with a call.
Another anecdote (because I'm apparently overinvested, lol), I got an invitation where I wasn't sure if texting would be appropriate, so I called. I wasn't even sure what the host's name was. After a million rings, there was no personalized VM message, except to say that it was a Verizon number. I ended up texting, lol.
Before I had a texting plan (a year ago), I'd get very annoyed when people would text me because I'd have to pay for every one. Now it doesn't matter as much but I still don't get why full-grown adults have a problem picking up the phone to make a call.
Before I had a texting plan (a year ago), I'd get very annoyed when people would text me because I'd have to pay for every one. Now it doesn't matter as much but I still don't get why full-grown adults have a problem picking up the phone to make a call.
I guess that's a vote to call.
but why wouldn't you turn off the function If you didn't want ppeople to text you?
Nevertheless I would ASSume anyone in that situation would specify to call or at least say no texts please.
Before I had a texting plan (a year ago), I'd get very annoyed when people would text me because I'd have to pay for every one. Now it doesn't matter as much but I still don't get why full-grown adults have a problem picking up the phone to make a call.
I guess that's a vote to call.
but why wouldn't you turn off the function If you didn't want ppeople to text you?
Nevertheless I would ASSume anyone in that situation would specify to call or at least say no texts please.
I was OK with texts in emergency cases. For example, a lot of time a text will get through in a low-service area where a phone call won't, and I spend a lot of time in the wilderness so it was nice to be able to keep in touch with H when necessary. With my plan I couldn't just keep texts enabled for 1 person; it was all or nothing.
I guess I'm old, but I really would assume that someone listing a phone number would prefer a call to a text unless it said "call or text." But most of the people I hang with don't regularly communicate by text.