Post by schrodinger on Sept 22, 2014 17:18:35 GMT -5
Next we're going to have a poll breaking this down by income. "Yes, I feel insecure, and I have high HHI" "Rarely, and I have low HHI" etc. FTR, I voted never. My insecurities about our income/wealth are entirely self-driven.
Post by cjeanette on Sept 22, 2014 17:24:50 GMT -5
No. I am pretty happy with the life I have and there is no reason to feel that there is anything wrong with it. Esp if that reason is that I don't make 6 figures on my own.
Post by turtlegirl on Sept 22, 2014 17:27:44 GMT -5
Fairly often. Especially when people talk about what they and their DH'S do for a living. I mean, I love the non profit I work for, but it's just a basic office job and DH has a blue collar job. So we are never going to be crazy HHI people or very career focused.
But we've done well with the money that we have and get lots of help from family (free child care). And we've got a great life, so really I just need to get over myself.
Not at all. I know we are financially comfortable for a SAHM + LEO. Now, start a poll about how often family watches your children and I start feeling the jealousy hit.
Post by water*drop on Sept 22, 2014 17:29:09 GMT -5
I'm on the app and can't vote. I don't feel insecure, exactly, but sometimes I have to remind myself that my life is pretty awesome even with our low-for-MMM HHI.
Not really...I'm an Architect married to one. Everyone who knows anything about our profession knows it's not the one to go into for money. I feel like we're doing better than I ever hoped for. BUT when things like people tell a 23yr old part time nanny student with housekeeping duties to demand more than $15/hr, it makes me kind of pissed (because I made $17.50/hr for most of my part time gig 2yrs ago with 7yrs experience & a Master's degree from a top 10 program)...not at her or them but at my dumb ass profession that undercuts each other & undervalues their work. I just still struggle to rationalize how much & how little some people make. But generally I'm super content.
I don't feel insecure about money polls/discussions. We have more than enough to save and pay the bills, thank goodness, and I realize there will always be people who make more than us. I do feel insecure about my parenting on MMM though...lol.
Nope. I know that there are plenty of people that make more than we do and are able to save much more than we are, but I'm happy where we are. Extra money is always nice (or fantasizing about it!) but just not a reality for now.
Post by barefootcontessa on Sept 22, 2014 17:50:30 GMT -5
No. I like reading about these things more from the perspective of advising my children as they get older. My parents never discussed money or taught me about money and I am worse off as a result. These discussion also motivate me to continue to work towards passive income streams and to save for my kids' college because I do not want them to have debt. Over and over you hear how much loans are a burden.
Post by gibbinator on Sept 22, 2014 18:09:06 GMT -5
The HHI polls always shock me because we're on the low end of the totem poll here. But irl among our circle of family and friends, we're doing better than most. A lot of it has to do with cost of living (and hence salaries) being very low here, but still. I don't know too many 30 somethings grossing 6 figures!
I voted rarely. Income wise, no. But sometimes savings. We have a lot of grad school debt we are still paying and our savings are not where I would like. For.many im sure they would think its fine. Maybe it's more envious than insecure though?
Post by rugbywife on Sept 22, 2014 18:24:59 GMT -5
Not really. I am usually worried that polls about money will go bad when educators are discussed. Sometimes I feel like people think I make too much money for what I do. But I know I am fairly compensated compared to what my peers with similar education make.
Now…when it isn't about money - it depends I guess - what other controversial poll topics are there? How about how much I suck at sleep training. I feel insecure about that.
Post by thejen626 on Sept 22, 2014 18:40:12 GMT -5
No, not at all. I'm a SAHM and DH makes a great salary, we live a comfortable life and I'm happy and secure with that. DH is 33 and I'm 32, and neither of us has a college degree. I'd say we are doing pretty well
I do sometimes wish I'd married a big dog and I was a sahm with a full time nanny but that's because I'm lazy. On the other hand, I really value my H as a dad and husband and I'd be sad if he was working longer hours.
This exactly.
I don't feel insecure based on polls. You win some, you lose some.
We live comfortably on a very moderate income. We are both quite frugal which allows for me to not work while in school and still save money and not have to go without any necessities. I feel very insecure when it comes to investment talk. I want to understand it better than I do and I want to not be such a chicken when it comes to investing money. I also feel insecure about the fact that I am in my 30s and still working on my undergrad. I wish I was as career driven as many of you.
nah. i've got enough big earners around me irl that i can feel plenty insecure without mmm
actually it's not their income, it's the people who got an early start or have had significant help from their family. even with similar HHIs, they are and always will be so much further ahead than us.
No. I own my choices and what they mean in terms of finances. Everything is a trade-off (in my life, at least). That doesn't mean I won't complain every once in a while, but I don't generally feel insecure.
Post by rugbywife on Sept 22, 2014 18:55:50 GMT -5
Actually, while I am not insecure, I am totally jealous of the poster who had a combined HHI of 300k with jobs that didn't require more than 9-5. We make good money and are comfortable, so I don't want to trade off more money for even shittier work/life balance loads, but man that would be nice, lol.
I decided long ago (come, name it…) that I wouldn't ever have my father's lifestyle. He made a shitton more than I ever will (he was a doctor) but the hours were always shit and he never spent much time with us. My mom seemed like a solo parent for many years. I don't want that, ever. I married someone who had a job that complimented mine (that was fluke) and I chose a career that meant that I could lead a life that made me happy. That means I won't make 300k (but I can eventually make more than I do now, so that is good).
Post by thebreakfastclub on Sept 22, 2014 18:57:00 GMT -5
No, I am happy where we are at. I am also older than most posters. In the past 9 years at my company, I have more than doubled my salary. So my income at 29 can't compare to my salary at 38.
Post by rugbywife on Sept 22, 2014 18:58:19 GMT -5
Also, people who beat my ass in Candy Crush and 2048 make me really insecure. BITCHES. (edit: I just realized this thought had NOTHING to do with any polls I have ever seen here, lol - what an odd tangent).
I voted rarely. I get a little more envious when I compare against friends of ours in similar life positions who are better off than we are. Then I remember that H pays a shit ton in child support and it has absolutely affected our financial life. But we get by and live a happy life, so I really can't complain.
Like some others here, I'm not on any sort of major "lean-in" career track and H is in a blue collar type job, so we'll never be huger earners.