Post by biogirl21 on Sept 22, 2014 21:59:31 GMT -5
I'm sorry, those early weeks were so rough. MH worked nights so I was alone all day while he slept then alone all night. I was losing my damn mind but didn't feel I could say anything because he was working so hard for our family. I hope it gets easier for you to get out of the house more, I bet that would help.
Also, if M is content, I would totally leave him in the pnp/crib/swing/whatever and just take the dog out. As long as he's contained, he's not moving much at this point.
God dammit. H and I just had a shouting match. He takes it so personally when the baby cries. He's all "I'm a failure as a father...I don't know what else to do."
News flash: I've been dealing with this screaming baby for the past 16 hours. I'm sorry you had a long day at work, but don't come in here expecting my sympathy because you just spent 30 minutes trying to soothe him.
So now I'm feeding him, again, because that's the only thing that will shut him up. (wilted)
I'm sorry, those early weeks were so rough. MH worked nights so I was alone all day while he slept then alone all night. I was losing my damn mind but didn't feel I could say anything because he was working so hard for our family. I hope it gets easier for you to get out of the house more, I bet that would help.
Also, if M is content, I would totally leave him in the pnp/crib/swing/whatever and just take the dog out. As long as he's contained, he's not moving much at this point.
I've actually been getting out of the house plenty. Sometimes he's fine, and other times he has a full on meltdown.
I'm sorry, those early weeks were so rough. MH worked nights so I was alone all day while he slept then alone all night. I was losing my damn mind but didn't feel I could say anything because he was working so hard for our family. I hope it gets easier for you to get out of the house more, I bet that would help.
Also, if M is content, I would totally leave him in the pnp/crib/swing/whatever and just take the dog out. As long as he's contained, he's not moving much at this point.
I've actually been getting out of the house plenty. Sometimes he's fine, and other times he has a full on meltdown.
Ah, well that's good! I didn't leave the house enough on my leave and I think it really took a toll on my sanity. Damn winter.
The meltdown is hard. I would probably leave the dog for MH(bad dog mom)
I think I made a frozen pizza when Miro was about that age. I felt wildly accomplished. I am in awe that you made something that involved chopping! At that point and some days still I feel like I get nothing done. But nurturing a tiny human counts as contributing productively to society in my book. At least that's what I tell myself while staring at the basket of laundry I could fold if I could just set him down for 15 minutes.
Things are better for now. I fed him again and got him calmed down, then H took him and let me sleep for almost three hours until he needed to eat again.
Hugs, that age is so rough. I remember just hoping time would go quickly and he'd be six months and things would be easier but feeling bad I was wishing away his newborn stage!
Mine was a crappy sleeper and colicky screaming mess at that age. Then he turned into the happiest baby. DH and I still look at each other and say we can't belive it's the same kid.
God dammit. H and I just had a shouting match. He takes it so personally when the baby cries. He's all "I'm a failure as a father...I don't know what else to do."
News flash: I've been dealing with this screaming baby for the past 16 hours. I'm sorry you had a long day at work, but don't come in here expecting my sympathy because you just spent 30 minutes trying to soothe him.
So now I'm feeding him, again, because that's the only thing that will shut him up. (wilted)
Big hugs. My H has said this, too, when I was so tired I just wanted to weep.
I will say right around two months (maybe a week later) L went from waking every 1-2 hours (and then *staying awake* for 1-2 hours) to sleeping 4-7 hour stretches, waking up for twenty minutes to eat, and crashing again. It was like flipping a switch. And it was heaven. I hope the same happens for you. Hang in there, you're doing great!
Side note: If M really likes to be worn, I suggest a better quality carrier. I can wear J for a few hours before I get a sore back and he is 21 pounds. I have an Ergo, but hear the Tula is even better. I liked my ring sling but couldn't wear him that long.
Yes, this this this. I loved the Moby at his age. Some people hate it because they struggle to tie it on, but once it's on it is secure, safe, and completely supportive and painless. You can get so much crap done. DD2 LIVED in that thing until 12 weeks or so.
I used the Ergo (but I would rec the Tula over it) starting at 4 months because I didn't have the infant insert. I still prefer the Moby for teeny ones but the Tula or Ergo would beat the pants off the Bjorn.
Side note: If M really likes to be worn, I suggest a better quality carrier. I can wear J for a few hours before I get a sore back and he is 21 pounds. I have an Ergo, but hear the Tula is even better. I liked my ring sling but couldn't wear him that long.
Yes, this this this. I loved the Moby at his age. Some people hate it because they struggle to tie it on, but once it's on it is secure, safe, and completely supportive and painless. You can get so much crap done. DD2 LIVED in that thing until 12 weeks or so.
I used the Ergo (but I would rec the Tula over it) starting at 4 months because I didn't have the infant insert. I still prefer the Moby for teeny ones but the Tula or Ergo would beat the pants off the Bjorn.
Sorry you had a rough night rbp.
God, I had no idea people thought the Bjorn sucked so much. That thing wasn't cheap!
I also have a Baby K'Tan; is that any better? I need to figure out how to put it on properly, because the first time I tried it felt really insecure.
Yes, this this this. I loved the Moby at his age. Some people hate it because they struggle to tie it on, but once it's on it is secure, safe, and completely supportive and painless. You can get so much crap done. DD2 LIVED in that thing until 12 weeks or so.
I used the Ergo (but I would rec the Tula over it) starting at 4 months because I didn't have the infant insert. I still prefer the Moby for teeny ones but the Tula or Ergo would beat the pants off the Bjorn.
Sorry you had a rough night rbp.
God, I had no idea people thought the Bjorn sucked so much. That thing wasn't cheap!
I also have a Baby K'Tan; is that any better? I need to figure out how to put it on properly, because the first time I tried it felt really insecure.
I had a K'Tan but didn't like it because it felt too big, even though I had the smallest size. I could never get her head to be supported correctly so I had to use my hand, thus negating the whole purpose. I like the ring sling better.
I'm sorry. I've pretty much given up on cooking for now. If I can make burgers on the grill and boil some pasta I feel very accomplished.
Yeah this way obviously a stupid decision. And you know what else? H didn't even eat his portion when he got home.
Oh yeah, a few times I've made something fairly decent and SO doesn't even eat, he gets too busy doing other stuff. So I just make sure I feed myself and the baby and he can fend for himself for now. I know everyone else has said it but it does get easier. K will now chill on the Boppy pillow or on the floor on a blanket so I can get some stuff done sometimes. We were nowhere near being able to do that 6 weeks ago.
Yes, this this this. I loved the Moby at his age. Some people hate it because they struggle to tie it on, but once it's on it is secure, safe, and completely supportive and painless. You can get so much crap done. DD2 LIVED in that thing until 12 weeks or so.
I used the Ergo (but I would rec the Tula over it) starting at 4 months because I didn't have the infant insert. I still prefer the Moby for teeny ones but the Tula or Ergo would beat the pants off the Bjorn.
Sorry you had a rough night rbp.
God, I had no idea people thought the Bjorn sucked so much. That thing wasn't cheap!
I also have a Baby K'Tan; is that any better? I need to figure out how to put it on properly, because the first time I tried it felt really insecure.
I would definitely prefer the K'Tan over the Bjorn. it was less supportive than the Moby but still good for my own mobility. Be sure to tie the extra strip of fabric it comes with around the front of the carrier and your mid/lower back for extra support if you try it.
Another rec for the K'tan. DS loved that when he was little, but it felt big/loose when he was teeny tiny. I watched the youtube videos for the k-tan for step by step. I just didn't feel confident, but DS loved it once I had him in there. It's very snuggly.
I'm sorry rbp, I hope today is better. Those newborn days were pretty rough for me too. Please let me know if you just want to meet up for lunch. You know I can do that any time. Also, I have a once or twice worn Moby wrap somewhere in my house if you want it. I also have an Ergo with the infant insert you can borrow. I will just need it back in March :-)