Coworker WWYD

[sakura]

I need help figuring out how to handle this and if I should bring this up to my manager or not.  

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So, MM, how can I better handle these situations with my coworker?  Should I talk to my manager about it or KOKO?

[Deleted]

Have you had a real talk with T about it? If so, how did that go?

[sakura]

No, not really. I've said things about being willing to review things and asking him to do the same for me, but nothing about this overall problem and the underlying issue of me feeling like he doesn't respect me professionally. I'm not sure how to bring it up, usually I just let it be and vent to my DH. Although this weekend I'll see T at a mutual friend's party, maybe after a drink I can be a little more bold and have a real discussion about it, ha.

[sakura]

Yes, I've started emailing him the questions even though he sits right by me. It's already happened where I brought something up that was done wrong, he dismissed it and it didn't change. Then a year later it came back to bite us. He took the blame as 'I should have back-check her work, it's my fault' to our PM. No, that's not what happened at all! But I didn't have proof to show that I questioned it in the first place. I should start keeping a folder, those emails are probably getting purged. He doesn't email back so I'd have to take notes of his response.

[asoctoberfalls]

I agree with keeping an e-mail trail of everything. Even though he doesn't respond, archive your sent e-mails where you point out errors.

I know how you feel. I'm a test engineer, and I have to work closely with design engineers to figure out how to test the products they design. This one design engineer is just horrible to work with, and I always feel disrespected by him. But everyone (including management) knows how he is, so no one gives me the side eye for having trouble with him.

[shell24]

Sept 22, 2014 20:51:47 GMT -5 sakura said:

He took the blame as 'I should have back-check her work, it's my fault' to our PM. No, that's not what happened at all! .

WTF. RAAAAAGE.

[Deleted]

Keep records. Be diligent.

[ECB]

Yes, keep all emails you send. Email them to your home address and/or print them out. Start protecting yourself. He sounds like an ass.

[tripleshot]

I would bcc your personal email address on all the emails you send to him. I don't think gmail ever auto deletes.

[sakura]

Any ideas on what I can do to prevent these issues so it doesn't get to the point of pulling out emails to prove that I was right when something bad happens? The problem is he isn't known as an ass around here and I'm not sure if he realizes what he's doing. I think he's always just thinking that he knows better.. :/ You meet a lot of guys like that in engineering