Just dodged a MM mistake

[monsterz]

We just realized we have been spelling our future son's name wrong.   We  had reversed 2 letters (which is the common spelling, his spelling is uncommon)   This morning I ordered some personalized items for his bedroom, luckily I was able to make a correction and do not have to re-order them.   

Does it make us bad parents that we don't know how to spell his name?

[asoctoberfalls]

Hmmm. Do you have a reason for going with an uncommon spelling? Seems like you'll be making his (and your!) life more difficult. But hey, I bet next time you'll remember to spell check before you order.

[lys]

Is there a reason you are choosing to go with an uncommon spelling for your child's name?
Or am I not reading that correctly?
Please consider the common spelling - it will certainly make life easier for him not to always have to correct people

[Deleted]

I don't really think it's OP's choice as she and her H are adopting an older child.

[monsterz]

Sept 22, 2014 21:23:14 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Hmmm. Do you have a reason for going with an uncommon spelling? Seems like you'll be making his (and your!) life more difficult. But hey, I bet next time you'll remember to spell check before you order.

We are adopting.  Bio mom gave him the uncommon spelling.  We hadn't seen it in writing until today when we had a chance to look at some of the paperwork.   

[Deleted]

And no, it doesn't make you bad parents at all. I've had people ask how we're spelling our daughter's name and it is nearly the easiest name ever, Anna.

[monsterz]

Sept 22, 2014 21:26:33 GMT -5 @mrsspunky said:

And no, it doesn't make you bad parents at all. I've had people ask how we're spelling our daughter's name and it is nearly the easiest name ever, Anna.

I must have missed your announcement.  Your daughter is beautiful.   

[drloretta]

LOL, DH called me the second day DD was home. He was at the pharmacy and couldn't remember the order of the (many) vowels in her name.

[asoctoberfalls]

Sept 22, 2014 21:26:07 GMT -5 monsterz said:

Sept 22, 2014 21:23:14 GMT -5 asoctoberfalls said:

Hmmm. Do you have a reason for going with an uncommon spelling? Seems like you'll be making his (and your!) life more difficult. But hey, I bet next time you'll remember to spell check before you order.

We are adopting.  Bio mom gave him the uncommon spelling.  We hadn't seen it in writing until today when we had a chance to look at some of the paperwork.   

Well, in that case, it's 100% understandable that you would forget. congrats on the adoption!

[Deleted]

Sept 22, 2014 21:31:54 GMT -5 monsterz said:

Sept 22, 2014 21:26:33 GMT -5 @mrsspunky said:

And no, it doesn't make you bad parents at all. I've had people ask how we're spelling our daughter's name and it is nearly the easiest name ever, Anna.

I must have missed your announcement.  Your daughter is beautiful.   

Thank you! I think I only announced on MMM? It's all a blur now.

[FrozenSunshine]

Of course it doesn't make you bad parents! This adoption has been a whirlwind for you guys. I think it's awesome you're trying to personalize his room.

[ellipses84]

It's ok! At least you caught it and it's so nice your son will have personalized stuff spelled his way! My name is spelled the uncommon way and I really love the way it is spelled but people do spell it wrong all the time.

My mother decided she wasn't going to go through that with another kid so when they adopted my brother as a 1 year old they changed his name to the common way. It wasn't a secondary spelling though, it was just a made up/ incorrect spelling, and they were changing his last name anyways. There are so many u-neek spellings now, I think we'll have to verify the spelling of every name in 20 years anyways.

Side note: My brother's birthday was a day off in a lot of the initial paperwork. They couldn't get definite confirmation of the correct day until we saw the birth certificate.

[audette]

Sept 22, 2014 21:17:18 GMT -5 monsterz said:

We just realized we have been spelling our future son's name wrong.   We  had reversed 2 letters (which is the common spelling, his spelling is uncommon)   This morning I ordered some personalized items for his bedroom, luckily I was able to make a correction and do not have to re-order them.   

Does it make us bad parents that we don't know how to spell his name?

Not bad parents at all!

I think it's super-sweet that you are so excited to personalize his room that you almost made this mistake... Glad you caught it in time, though!

[flatlan]

Nope, you are doing great. He will be touched by your personalizations.

[WOT?*]

You're fine. Kiddo spent the first ten years of her life with her name spelled three different ways - two separate first names, hyphenated, two names squished together with both names capitalized. Since she had three birth certificates by the time she was six months old, there was always a question, not to mention a story about why. We solved the issue at adoption by changing it to both names squished together as one complete name so it's Nameanna (which is what it was supposed to be per her mom but mom had aunt fill out the original birth certificate and she supposedly did it wrong) rather than Name-Anna or NameAnna or Name Anna.

So, since I couldn't tell you the spelling of my own birth granddaughter, you're forgiven for the error in your older-adopted-child-that-you-haven't-known-long's unique spelling. (Now would be a good time to fix it if he wants to be "normal" though. )