Speaking of weddings...

[WOT?*]

My older son got married on Friday. He and his wife did a surprise JOP thing. He called me at 11:00 a.m., to inform me of the happy event but I missed the call and the voicemail was just a "call me as soon as you get this" which was several hours later after I saw there was another call from another phone with the same area code.  I was driving down to my uncle's memorial service and not able to immediately call back. He didn't answer so I called the alternate number, which was his girlfriend's phone. Or it was his girlfriend as far as I knew, until she gave me the happy news. Some of the rest of the family learned about the big event on Facebook.  He's a good kid who walks to his own drum and I am not surprised that this is how he ended up getting married. I just laugh about it. My family does have some interesting wedding/elopement/JOP stories, it seems, and this is one more of them.

[shell24]

Congratulations to your DS and his new bride!

[Saint Monica]

Congrats!

[hisno1girl]

Congratulations!!

[kwx2]

Congratulations!

[Captain Serious]

It sounds like you are upset that you didn't get enough notice to be there, and I can't say I blame you. It must be so difficult, because I'm sure you are happy for them and everything, but every mom wants to see her son get married, and I'm sure you are disappointed even if you know you were not singled out. I'm sorry.

It does sound like you are trying to make the best of something to can't change, and that makes you a superb mom.

Congratulations on your son's marriage. I hope you are able to spend some time with him and his new wife soon.

[Deleted]

Congratulations to him! I love elopements.

[WOT?*]

The early morning (well 11:00 call) was to let me know it was happening and if I could make it by 2:00 I would have been able to be present; it's a two hour drive so I would have had to hop in the car, drive up, see the ceremony, hop in the car to get back home to get the girls from school (they would have been home well before me but DH stayed home Friday to WFH so it could have worked) and then do the seven hour drive down to central Oregon for my uncle's memorial service. It even *sounds* exhausting.

I didn't get the message until well after it happened so it's all moot. I'm sad I couldn't be there but he does his own thing and always has, which is a good thing (considering how much I've paid out to the other kids who are a little less independent, lol) so I'm not surprised that it happened this way. If he would have called the house phone, dadblameit... They've had their ups and downs over the years (been together for about four years) but she's a nice girl and he's always been a little nuts about her compared to all the girlfriends he's had or has crushed on in the past. He's a good kid and I'm happy for him. There were times I worried about all of them, but they're getting to where they need to be. This is where he needs to be, so it's a good thing, whether I was able to make it or not. At least the mother of the bride was there, and as we all know, that's the important thing.