S/O jfh's colorful college past ...

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Who was in a sorority (besides Trudes, obvs)?

So, the greek community hated me at K-State, mainly because I used my weekly opinion column in the newspaper to make fun of them.

Fuck, it was the mid-90s, where the world was still kinda normal, ok?!

(I regret nothing!)

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Sept 23, 2014 13:25:59 GMT -5 gamecockgirl74 said:

Geek alert.  I was in a Criminal Justice Honors Sorority/Fraternity   YES, I was living the college dream!!  I had all of my fun from age 14-17

What is that?!

[creamsiclechica]

Well, despite my current reputation, lol, I was full of angst and social loathing in college in the beginning and I went around my dorm writing, "congratulations, you bought your friends," on the dry erase boards on the doors of sorority girls.

Not my proudest or most mature point in time. I also wore lots of black and hot pink then.

[betsyray]

Sorority girl here so is imimahoney, right?

I joined because I didn't have any girl friends. Now five years out, I only keep in touch with my little sister. A lot of the sorority lifestyle wasn't for me.

ETA Also, there were only two sororities at my school and only 7% of the campus was Greek so it was a somewhat atypical experience.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Sept 23, 2014 13:27:58 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

Well, despite my current reputation, lol, I was full of angst and social loathing in college in the beginning and I went around my dorm writing, "congratulations, you bought your friends," on the dry erase boards on the doors of sorority girls.

Not my proudest or most mature point in time. I also wore lots of black and hot pink then.

I can assure you that college is not the place for proud and/or mature moments.

[Deleted]

ya, no. I couldn't get over the idea of rushing/pledging, etc.

I was always jealous of the sweatshirts though. They looked comfy.

[katfco]

Our college was a conservative Christian college and didn't have sororities or fraternities, but they had "social clubs," which were similar, but with more references to God and without dancing or booze (generally). We still had pledge week, though.

[sunshineluv]

Sept 23, 2014 13:29:11 GMT -5 Dorothy Zbornak said:

Sept 23, 2014 13:27:58 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

Well, despite my current reputation, lol, I was full of angst and social loathing in college in the beginning and I went around my dorm writing, "congratulations, you bought your friends," on the dry erase boards on the doors of sorority girls.

Not my proudest or most mature point in time. I also wore lots of black and hot pink then.

I can assure you that college is not the place for proud and/or mature moments.

 OMG, I really really hope that our kids take after DH. I made lots of mistakes in high school and college and thankfully got away with them. (No oops babies, or car accidents, or arrests, or injuries). DH has always been a rule follower, and had fun, but smart fun. Please let those responsible genetics be stronger than my genes!!

I was not in a sorority, I went to a huge school (NC State) so while they had a huge greek life, it wasn't a big deal not to pledge. I loved those frat parties though. One of the houses had a guy who was in the textile school, so he made this gigantic hammock, like 20 people could fit on it. They would make the pledges swing the hammock, it was so much fun to sit in!

[jfh]

I went to USC where Greek life was a huge deal. I was totally opposed to rushing, but I had a hard time meeting people my freshman year because EVERYONE was in a sorority or fraternity (or so it seemed to me). I rushed fall of my sophomore year. Then fall of my junior year I studied abroad and realized I was at the wrong school in the wrong major dating the wrong guy. Transferred asap after that.

IDK for me a lot of the stereotypes of sororities rang true. There were some great women, but the system itself is pretty flawed. I had a much better experience once I transferred and developed a social life based on shared values and interests. (For that reason I can totally see enjoying a theme-based sorority or fraternity, like engineering or criminal justice or whatever).

[charlielove]

I want to read those articles!

And uh, no. I was not in one.

[musiclover]

My roommate was in one and some of the stuff I observed her doing was.....interesting.

[devonpow]

Nope. My college had fraternities but no sororities. So, we had the parties but no pressure ourselves

[breezy8407]

Nope. Greek life wasn't big at my university. I don't think I would have joined even if it was. It was at my high school boyfriend's college however, so I attended many a frat party freshman year.

The girls I knew in sororities were so busy. It just seemed like wayyyy too much work.

[eav2c]

Despite the reputations, Sororities can and do great things. Statistically speaking, at my college Greek life was hugely involved in philanthropy which is one of the reasons I joined compared to that of non-Greek students. Breast cancer education awareness and research was something that we based most everything around. I hate what a bad rep Greek life gets. I mean, I dont see much difference between a sorority and Girl Scouts. I don't hear of Girl Scouts getting a bad rep.

[claralou]

::raises hand::

But, Oregon. We do everything better in Oregon. Only a few of "those" stereotypes were even remotely true there.

[imimahoney]

Sept 23, 2014 13:28:11 GMT -5 betsyray said:

Sorority girl here so is imimahoney, right?

I joined because I didn't have any girl friends. Now five years out, I only keep in touch with my little sister. A lot of the sorority lifestyle wasn't for me.

ETA Also, there were only two sororities at my school and only 7% of the campus was Greek so it was a somewhat atypical experience.

Yep, meeee! I was in AXO and loved every minute of it. I joined because my sister was in one, DZ, and I wanted to see what it was like. I went to a massive school so it made everything feel a lot smaller. 

Funny story, some former students go to my school and have joined my house. It's weirdddd seeing them at alum functions drinking and stuff. 

[chasbride07]

I was in a sorority and now I'm an advisor. Some of the sterotypes rang true, and while I never felt overly close to any of the girls I was in the chapter with, one of the other chapter advisors has become one of my closest friends.

[formerlyllizzyb]

Sorority girl here. Lived in the house sophomore and junior year, held exec position, etc.

It was a great experience for me. I made amazing friends who are still some of my nearest and dearest, learned how to overcome my introvert tendencies when necessary, learned how to live in close quarters with others of different backgrounds, and it continues to be a great networking/reference connection.

I wasn't one of the crazy girls, but yes, some of the stereotypes are true.
Minus any hazing or cruelty...I never witnessed that.

I am not an active alumni.

[imimahoney]

Oh and my school and chapter did tons of wonderful philanthropy. I severed on several boards and committees and loved planning the big events. 

The sports teams were 1000% worse at my school for hazing but the Greek system got all bad press because of who we were. It was dumb. 

[eav2c]

Sept 23, 2014 14:36:37 GMT -5 imimahoney said:

Sept 23, 2014 13:28:11 GMT -5 betsyray said:

Sorority girl here so is imimahoney, right?

I joined because I didn't have any girl friends. Now five years out, I only keep in touch with my little sister. A lot of the sorority lifestyle wasn't for me.

ETA Also, there were only two sororities at my school and only 7% of the campus was Greek so it was a somewhat atypical experience.

Yep, meeee! I was in AXO and loved every minute of it. I joined because my sister was in one, DZ, and I wanted to see what it was like. I went to a massive school so it made everything feel a lot smaller. 

Funny story, some former students go to my school and have joined my house. It's weirdddd seeing them at alum functions drinking and stuff. 

Alums and actives are drinking together?

::clutches pearls::

[imimahoney]

Sept 23, 2014 14:40:06 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Sept 23, 2014 14:36:37 GMT -5 imimahoney said:

Yep, meeee! I was in AXO and loved every minute of it. I joined because my sister was in one, DZ, and I wanted to see what it was like. I went to a massive school so it made everything feel a lot smaller. 

Funny story, some former students go to my school and have joined my house. It's weirdddd seeing them at alum functions drinking and stuff. 

Alums and actives are drinking together?

::clutches pearls::

Well I'm sure they aren't supposed to but at tailgating and such the girls def had red solo cups. We just nodded and looked in a very far away direction, lol. 

[thedahliharpa]

Sept 23, 2014 13:48:03 GMT -5 jfh said:

I went to USC where Greek life was a huge deal. I was totally opposed to rushing, but I had a hard time meeting people my freshman year because EVERYONE was in a sorority or fraternity (or so it seemed to me). I rushed fall of my sophomore year. Then fall of my junior year I studied abroad and realized I was at the wrong school in the wrong major dating the wrong guy. Transferred asap after that.

IDK for me a lot of the stereotypes of sororities rang true. There were some great women, but the system itself is pretty flawed. I had a much better experience once I transferred and developed a social life based on shared values and interests. (For that reason I can totally see enjoying a theme-based sorority or fraternity, like engineering or criminal justice or whatever).

USC in CA?

[jfh]

Sept 23, 2014 14:43:11 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Sept 23, 2014 13:48:03 GMT -5 jfh said:

I went to USC where Greek life was a huge deal. I was totally opposed to rushing, but I had a hard time meeting people my freshman year because EVERYONE was in a sorority or fraternity (or so it seemed to me). I rushed fall of my sophomore year. Then fall of my junior year I studied abroad and realized I was at the wrong school in the wrong major dating the wrong guy. Transferred asap after that.

IDK for me a lot of the stereotypes of sororities rang true. There were some great women, but the system itself is pretty flawed. I had a much better experience once I transferred and developed a social life based on shared values and interests. (For that reason I can totally see enjoying a theme-based sorority or fraternity, like engineering or criminal justice or whatever).

USC in CA?

Yep. I was there for 3 years (minus a semester abroad) before transferring to CO.

[thedahliharpa]

Sept 23, 2014 15:00:29 GMT -5 jfh said:

Sept 23, 2014 14:43:11 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

USC in CA?

Yep. I was there for 3 years (minus a semester abroad) before transferring to CO.

Obviously, I didn't know. Your life could have taken a different turn and we could be neighbors right.now.

DH used to hang out with some friends that were in frats there and it very may have been at the same time. You could be married to my husband right.now.

[jfh]

Sept 23, 2014 15:10:04 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Sept 23, 2014 15:00:29 GMT -5 jfh said:

Yep. I was there for 3 years (minus a semester abroad) before transferring to CO.

Obviously, I didn't know. Your life could have taken a different turn and we could be neighbors right.now.

DH used to hang out with some friends that were in frats there and it very may have been at the same time. You could be married to my husband right.now.

YOU JUST BLEW MY MIND.

I left in '97. I can't believe that in a parallel universe I might be doing pregnant kegstands with Mr. Dahli.

[thedahliharpa]

Sept 23, 2014 15:21:05 GMT -5 jfh said:

Sept 23, 2014 15:10:04 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Obviously, I didn't know. Your life could have taken a different turn and we could be neighbors right.now.

DH used to hang out with some friends that were in frats there and it very may have been at the same time. You could be married to my husband right.now.

YOU JUST BLEW MY MIND.

I left in '97. I can't believe that in a parallel universe I might be doing pregnant kegstands with Mr. Dahli.

Yeah, that was the same time his friends were there.

[nls0412]

I was a Kappa Delta. For a year. I hated it.

[bigapple]

She's easy, she's sleazy, she's perfect for DZ! (the sorority, not the poster)

Yes, I was a sorority girl. I mocked them my first semester and then rushed second semester only for the free food. I ended up finding one I really liked and decided to join. I was social chair, philanthropy, fundraising, risk management (yawn), recruitment, and VP of a few things.

I liked that I had to go do philanthropies and other non-drinking activities frequently, I loved the socials with frats (with costumes, natch), dressing up for formals, playing every Greek intramural sport, and making friends with girls and guys in every house. The alumni network really helped me out when I graduated and was looking for work.

My school was super laid back, and we modified our chapter's bylaws to consider corduroys and oversized wool sweaters as badge (dressy) attire. Dorothy, birks were totally permitted

I got a bid from every house I visited, and I was in a fucking knee immobilizer at the time from a snowboarding mishap. Clearly they weren't that discerning at my school

[AndyCohen]

I went to art school so there were no sororities. There was one fraternity and it was like 90% architecture students. I went to a Halloween party at their house once.

[vthokie]

I was in the band service sorority. Not the same scene at all, but a great group of girls and our brother frat was awesome too. I was basically just a super band geek