No. That's quite an imposition to spring on you. I'd say no and stand my ground. He wants a complete stranger to stay with you that you've never even met? No.
I say you're fine. If you want to earn marital brownie points you could say yes on the condition that dh plans and executes all meals and entertainment.
So not an asshole. You have enough to worry about without having to feed, entertain, and clean up after three additional people on a moment's notice. NO WAY.
I say you're fine. If you want to earn marital brownie points you could say yes on the condition that dh plans and executes all meals and entertainment.
Just from a quick expedia search there are 7 at or under $50.
Post by polarbearfans on Sept 23, 2014 14:36:52 GMT -5
Stay firm. If they are not able to pay for a hotel, they def won't help with the food. No way should you have to let their money problems become yours.
Plus, you have to protect your kids. If they are not good people, keep them limited to that one dinner.
Oh, and I agree w/ Kevin. If the plan is to stay with you the first 2 nights, I have NO doubt that this will end up being them staying with you for all 4.
I don't let other people make me feel uncomfortable in my own home. If he can't afford to travel, he should stay home. Stand your ground (not in a murder-y way, obviously).
I can easily see them drinking too much and fighting. I do not want that in my house or around my kids.
If your DH gives you ANY grief about this, then HE's the jerk. The above... no, I wouldn't subject my child to that also and your DH needs to remember where is priorities lie. NOT w/ sketchy friend.
Post by bittybomb on Sept 23, 2014 15:03:39 GMT -5
You are not an asshole.
If anything, your DH's friend is an asshole - why in the world would you plan a trip that you cannot afford? and then cry about it to your friend who happens to live in the area you are visiting?
I think your friend is banking on your husband saying "no, don't worry about it -of course you can stay with us."
Have you met the girlfriend and kid? I would definitely be saying no to having people I've never met stay in my house especially for a nonemergency and for more than one night.
Yeah, you've got to stick to your guns on this one.
I swear, every time I get guilted into something I end up 1) resentful and 2) when the bullshit eventually does happen like you know it will you will have zero tolerance and you will be mad at yourself.
I would totally say YES, emphatically. I would tell him what a great idea that is. Then I would book a nice little hotel for me with a pool and a hot tub and room service. Win win win.