Sugar Baby/Sugar Daddy?

[kitkat1502]

I saw a preview on CNN for a Lisa Ling special about Sugar Baby/Sugar Daddy relationship and was intrigued.

[doriswe]

I watched it Sunday night. It was interesting.

[Deleted]

I saw the special. Honestly it didn't look like a bad gig. Maybe this is more of a flameful.

[doriswe]

I don't think I could ever go into a situation knowing that I was only there for what someone could give me (monitarily).

[kitkat1502]

Grrr I wish I had cable! I saw the preview on CNN.com.

I guess flameful for me too, I'd kind of had it cross my mind a while back that it didn't sound like a bad setup.

[kitkat1502]

Sept 30, 2014 13:12:27 GMT -5 @stpete said:

I missed the show. I've had a generous bf. I currently have a generous male friend with whom I have no current sexual relationship. What makes it a sugar thing?

I didn't see the show, but what I'd call a SB/SD would be the girl only wants the man for the money/gifts/trips/etc he provides and the man only wants her for sex and arm candy. So in a sense they just use each other, but they are both aware and OK of that arrangement.

[doriswe]

Sept 30, 2014 13:26:22 GMT -5 kitkat1502 said:

Sept 30, 2014 13:12:27 GMT -5 @stpete said:

I missed the show. I've had a generous bf. I currently have a generous male friend with whom I have no current sexual relationship. What makes it a sugar thing?

I didn't see the show, but what I'd call a SB/SD would be the girl only wants the man for the money/gifts/trips/etc he provides and the man only wants her for sex and arm candy. So in a sense they just use each other, but they are both aware and OK of that arrangement.

They all explained that it wasn't always sexual, in nature, but it was "mutually beneficial". 

[gozf]

I wouldn't be comfortable in a situation like this.

[gault]

No.

I attribute this to cutesy women with no brains who think it's all fun and games to be an object.

[alexithymia]

I could maybe see it short term. Like, very short term. And I'd have to at least be somewhat attracted to the guy. I couldn't do an Anna Nichole kind of thing.

[cuddlyevil]

I don't know that I would be comfortable in a relationship where I was only in it for the material things he gave me.

[athena3210]

Nah, that's not my cup of tea at this point in life.

Having to pay someone to feel admired and satisfied (physically or emotionally) says a lot about the sugar-daddy's self-esteem and personality.

[Eureka1984]

This sounds really interesting and I am sad I missed the special.

[Wanderista]

It's hard for me to answer this because I wouldn't date a guy I'm not into. I'm a romantic and all that.

When I was younger, I did party with and casually date some wealthy guys pretty much for the fun of it. I was in college and wanting light, fun experiences. I had a few friends who were the same way. We'd date around with these guys who would buy us drinks, dinners, exclusive club access, etc. We'd lightly fool around, dance and party with them without too many expectations. It was just fun and I don't see anything wrong with that.

I'm a lot more into being serious and committed now and I've outgrown that. (I'm also not a student anymore). I wouldn't really do that now but I don't regret anything.

[jojoandleo]

Meh, if H left me, I would do this. Call me cutesy and brainless. I've been in love, and if it didn't work, I see no problem with this arrangement. I can totally understand not being comfortable with this arrangement, though.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

If I were the kind of pretty that I could pull this off, fuck it, I'd give it a try. I've never driven a brand new car before. I'd like to earn one for being adorable.

[Wanderista]

I will say that I don't really judge people who choose to go that route because they value different things. I don't want to be them but I think they have the right to choose that kind of relationship. I might feel kind of sorry for them for being that shallow and materialistic, but I think they have the right to it. Also, I accept that it is easy to assume things about a relationship based on outward appearances that aren't always true, sometimes they are true and sometimes appearances can be deceiving. 

[Deleted]

I voted no, but I guess I should never say never. I would much rather be in a relationship based on love and enjoying each others' company, but if I ever get to a point my life where I feel like that's not my goal or not something that is possible, I guess I could settle for having nice things, vacations, etc if I'm my sugar daddy relationship had certain parameters (such as, we attend events together but I get to do my own thing on a day to day basis, kind of like being single but with cash available). I would not want to have a traditional relationship/marriage with someone I didn't actually have romantic feelings for.

The idea of being someone's arm candy at this point is pretty laughable anyway. I'm pretty sure they don't choose overweight women in their 30's for this sort of gig.

[jojoandleo]

@pdx18 and kitkat1502-we can sit at the shallow table together. On Wednesdays, we wear green. Or gold. Anything to represent our wealth.

[Deleted]

At this point in my life I'm not particularly interested in a serious relationship. I have no desire to rush to the alter.

I have a benefactor who often splurges on me. I'm not interested in dating him. I do enjoy his company and the gifts. I suppose that would be considered a sugar daddy. There is no sex involved.

BF and I are discussing this very topic right now actually. I suggested (again) an open relationship or a sugar daddy type relationship.

I think if I wanted a relationship I couldn't do it. But, I've been single for so long now that a relationship sounds like too much work.

[marina007]

Never have I ever been close to hot enough to get away with a solution like this, but I really wouldn't want to to be honest.

[jojoandleo]

Sept 30, 2014 15:19:53 GMT -5 @stpete said:

The relationship I was in I was in for love. He gave me a lot of gifts I accepted but I wasn't with him for the gifts.

Og brings me gifts and has paid for some fairly expensive things for me, but I hang out with him because he's a good guy and my friend. We have fun. I would never spend time with someone I didn't like for material things.

And I get that. Personally, I don't know if things ended with H, if I would ever want to get married again. I've always been the cynical type and I already have a group of really close friends.  If someone wanted to take me on fancy trips and buy me things to hang out KNOWING that was the ONLY reason I hung out, meh, I'm in.  Might as well live a fabulous lifestyle with my friends and vibrator while I can.

On the other hand, I have no issue with prostitution, but I don't think I would ever want to BE a prostitute.  So, I don't think I could have a SEXUAL relationship with someone for nice gifts and things.  But, I could be arm candy. 

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Sept 30, 2014 15:16:53 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

@pdx18 and kitkat1502-we can sit at the shallow table together. On Wednesdays, we wear green. Or gold. Anything to represent our wealth.

YES! I figure if both parties are agreed on the terms it's a win/win. I could hang out with some old rich dudes for some gifts and money. I would feel differently if I was taking advantage of they thought it was a relationship versus a sugar situation. But when it's all out on the table? why not.

I'm probably too old and not hot enough for this, but it's fun to ponder!

[jojoandleo]

Sept 30, 2014 16:07:14 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Sept 30, 2014 15:16:53 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

@pdx18 and kitkat1502-we can sit at the shallow table together. On Wednesdays, we wear green. Or gold. Anything to represent our wealth.

YES! I figure if both parties are agreed on the terms it's a win/win. I could hang out with some old rich dudes for some gifts and money. I would feel differently if I was taking advantage of they thought it was a relationship versus a sugar situation. But when it's all out on the table? why not.

I'm probably too old and not hot enough for this, but it's fun to ponder!

Agreed! On all accounts. I'm passed sugar baby prime at the ripe old age of 30 and no one will ever ask me to model for VS.

This whole thing does remind me of achase123's old siggy. LOL.

[btay]

I would be open to it, but the guy still has to be a decent person. If I don't enjoy them on some level then heck no.

[kaneen]

I was actually offered this by a semi-famous sports personality. Made me gag.

[MyName]

Nope. Not cool with me at all.

Although, if I were to make a ton of money by the time I'm in my 40's-50's, I would not be opposed to being on the other end of this equation. lol

[Mrs.Rad888]

When my marriage to XH broke up, I swore that I'd never marry for love again, because it rarely seems to work out, but with marrying for money, you only need to look at a bank statement to see how healthy the marriage is.
If my marriage to DH doesn't work out, and I can find some rich dude who's willing to pay for a 40-something-year-old to be arm candy, I'd be all over that.

[Saint Monica]

I know a guy that was a SD. He got a STD from his SB.

[becwheat]

For a marriage? No. For a fun relationship with someone I had chemistry with? Sure! Why not?! I could not do it JUST for money. I need to be have some connection and enjoy the person's company on some level.

I dated an older doctor (14 yrs older) and he took me to great places and paid for everything. It was a small scale sugar daddy thing. It was fun!