I'm about to lose my shit (DH job related) UPDATE

[rachaelnicole]

If we don't get some good news soon, I think I'm going to have a nervous breakdown. Yesterday DH found out that his position is not going to be able to work from home when the office closes in a month. He'll be demoted. It's unclear what will happen with his pay rate, whether it will stay the same, or be adjusted down to match the new, lower position.

In related news, the job he applied for at the local university got all f*cked up. Apparently HR had the wrong qualifications when screening the applications so ALL of the applications got thrown out. Now they're trying to figure out if they can select the current applicants to interview, or if they have to repost the position and start the whole process over again from scratch.

And I'm pretty sure I had some sort of panic attack last night. I am having some major anxiety over the fact that we found out about this 5 months ago and he still hasn't found anything else yet.

ETA: I'm trying to remind myself that things could be a lot worse. Sorry if this sounds like petty complaining. I just need to get it off my chest.


UPDATE:
Turns out he didn't get the university position either. They re-ran the applications, and I guess some of the people met the requirements that HR had (even though they were WRONG), so only those people got interviewed. Our good friend works in that department, which is the only reason we know this. They're hiring one of the people they interviewed, even though they don't think she'll like the job very well and probably won't stay there long.

DH inquired to the manager in another department at his current job, and asked if they had a place for him. The manager said that they just had a person quit, so yes, they do. Then the manager spoke with DH's current boss and they agreed that DH could switch to the new department, and keep his current pay rate (the new position normally pays about 15% less than he makes now, so he likely won't be getting any raises anytime soon). And he'll get to work from home when his local office closes. The schedule is better too, so that's good. But the job is a step down. It's really just a bandaid on the situation, but it gives us some breathing room until DH finds something else. It's really nothing to get too excited about, but it's the best news we've had in the last 5 months, so I guess we'll take it.

[dr.girlfriend]

Hugs. Job stuff is so stressful. I hope he finds something amazing!

[laurensmomma]

Big hugs. I can relate. My DH has been laid off 3 times in the 7 years we've been together, one of those times being a week and a half before our LO was born(which turned out to be the best thing ever).

Just take a deep breath. I know it's hard, I have anxiety issues too, and it's easier said than done. Just remind yourself that stressing isn't going to change/help anything, and try to be as positive as possible.

I hope everything works out amazingly.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry you guys are going through this. It is so hard to deal with the unknown of a job hunt especially when the current job is uncertain.

It takes time to find the right job, just have faith. My DH looked for a job for 10.5 months before he found a job that was perfect for him. His previous job had been REALLY bad and it was incredibly hard on our family for him to have to continue working there all that time. Since he has taken the new job (and another, even better job 10 months later) things have been so much better for us. It is hard to hang on to the little strings of hope but please do. It is a difficult process but you will come through it.

[glynn]

Hugs

[lys]

Stressful indeed.
However, focus on the positive. He has a job (demoted with less pay) while he continues to search for something more suitable.
This economy is still difficult in many areas and may career fields.
Sending "new job vibes" your way.

[compassrose]

How stressful. Ugh. I've been there, and I hate being the sole breadwinner, not just because of the stress but how cranky and stressed SO is when unemployed. Hugs to you both.

[rachaelnicole]

Update in OP. I hate this roller coaster.

[Deleted]

I actual think the new news is great. It means he keeps his current salary while he looks for a new job, right? That's FAR better than the alternative. I know it's stressful but you have to have faith that he will find something. But it can take time. I've been through some LONG searches and in the end it all worked out. (Even my most recent relatively short search took almost 5 months from application to start date.).

[Pom]

I know it's not ideally the very best outcome, but it will buy you guys some time while he continues to look. It's not a pay cut and it is a better schedule, so that seems decent news for sure. Hang in there. I hope he finds something better soon.

[bostonmichelle]

Hang in there. It's not the best but at least for now he can work from home and keep his paycheck. I hope he finds an alternative soon.

[melmel48]

Good things will come! Thank goodness he has a job for now and he can look for more suitable employment. I wish your family a lot of "new job" vibes.

[compassrose]

I think that's a great update! I know it's not a permanent solution, but it buys you a lot of time, and you may turn out to like him working from home.

[Deleted]

I'm relieved to see your update. Hang in there.