Anyone do 12hrs sleep by 12 weeks?

[Nenibay]

A friend was talking about this method and I was wondering if anyone had success. I see that they only suggest two naps 1hr in am and 2hrs in afternoon for a baby 8-12 weeks old. Compared to my daughters this doesn't seen realistic. I guess I need to look into it further but I'm looking to get my 2mo daughter on a better night schedule. She's waking every hr to two hrs now and I know she can go longer bc she'll sleep 4hrs straight during the day if I let her.

[spanikopita]

Limiting a NB's nap sleep is dumb and counterproductive to the end goal because sleep begets sleep.

Babies just take time to STTN. Fucking books make you think otherwise, but it's a universal truth.

[rex]

absofuckinglutely not.

listen. my kid gets an a++ in sleeping, but even she was not doing that at 12 weeks. that's so early.

[thebreakfastclub]

My CW is trying it with her 9 month old that gets up every 90 minutes overnight, but I think it's a fail so far.

I do agree with having a night routine though.

ETA:  my boy was doing 10-5 around 10 weeks, but he didn't get to 12 hours until a couple of months later.  

[Deleted]

My IRL friend had success with it with both his kids. 

[Nenibay]

Oct 1, 2014 14:04:51 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Is this supposed to be 12 hours at night?!

My kid is 4.5yo and he has never done that. :^)

My friend said it's not 12hrs straight but more so 12 hrs in their crib "sleeping". So they may wake to eat - she still feeds her son twice a night.
I obviosuly need to look into it more/ or wait a few months. I know I don't plan on letting my 2mo cry herself to sleep.

[Deleted]

I think there are a couple on this board that have done this or similar.

They don't talk about it much for some reason. BUT I REMEMBER.

[dcn]

Dh's coworker gave me this book when ds was like two months old and it practically gave me panic attacks. It says to feed an 8 week old baby 8 oz at a time but only every 3 or 4 hours. Just, no. It was basically the opposite of what my gut and everyone else I knew in real life was telling me.

[SJ]

Oct 1, 2014 14:12:15 GMT -5 Nenibay said:

Oct 1, 2014 14:04:51 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Is this supposed to be 12 hours at night?!

My kid is 4.5yo and he has never done that. :^)

My friend said it's not 12hrs straight but more so 12 hrs in their crib "sleeping". So they may wake to eat - she still feeds her son twice a night.
I obviosuly need to look into it more/ or wait a few months. I know I don't plan on letting my 2mo cry herself to sleep.

Oh this counts?? Ada did a "12 hour night" on Monday night meaning she was in PJ's in her room from 6:45PM-6:45AM, but in no planet do I count that as STTN. I still fed her multiple times.

[Deleted]

My DS was doing 12 hours by seven weeks & consistently by 9 weeks.

He was formula fed, took 3 naps a day & has always been a really good sleeper/ eater.
I was also OBSESSIVE about his schedule. & routine & I sure that helped somewhat, but it was very stressful for me at times.

[starlily]

Hahahahahahaha. No.

ETA: If that's what a baby does on its own, cool. But purposely keeping an 8-12wk old up that much during the day against their will? Uh uh.

[havarti]

I find this chart from Ferber's "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" to be helpful.  The book is actually really helpful for putting babies sleep needs into perspective.  

[formerlyllizzyb]

My response to that is HAHAHA. Nope.

[rugbywife]

We are at 25 weeks and at 5 hours max in a row, and about 3 wake-ups a night.









So, no, we didn't use that book.

[Deleted]

What my 3 year old was a born sleeper and she has never slept a 12 hour stretch in her entire life.
12-15 hours total sleep a day sure, but in a row...no.

DS. Well..he's 7 months old and just hit a 5 hour stretch in the last week..so apparently this isn't for me....ha.

[irishbride2]

uh no.

That cannot be healthy.

[winecheery]

I feel like…the sort of mindset that the book has will set you up for disappointment and frustration. I've never read the book, so maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like I wouldn't even attempt to do that to my newborn. It just sounds like a form of sleep training, right?? Well, I think 12 weeks is way, way too young for that. And this is coming from someone who did Ferber/CIO on the early side (4.5/5 months).

DD is 12 months old, and NOW she STTN that long, and has been since like 6 months, but there was no way in hell that would've happened at 12 weeks old. She was maybe going to bed by 9/9:30pm and waking for the day by 5:30/6am, but in those ~9 hours, she was awake to nurse x2 maybe?? And that was good, you know?? That was "impressive." Hindsight is 20/20 but looking back on it, I can say that. I know others had it worse.

What I found to be helpful with getting longer chunks at night was nursing on demand during the day, keeping the house lit and lively during the day (even during her naps) and then doing the opposite at night. Calm, dark, boring. DD learned her day vs night really early, and who knows if it was soley because of my efforts or not, but I don't think it hurt. She learned that night was for sleeping. And then after the 4MW effed it all up, we sleep trained, and re-established good habits.

I may be in the minority, but we also started a bedtime routine at 8 weeks with DD, and her sleep cues are so, so strong. She will point to her noise machine, and blankie when she's tired, and she knows that bath time comes before bed, etc. I think that sort of thing may help get your DD to be aware that sleep is coming. But I still wouldn't expect her to go 12 hours. GL to you!

[Birdie]

Newp. Newp newp newp. Babies are going to sleep how and when they want period. They laugh in the face of your plans.

For those discussing tummy sleeping, I was all for it once DS could turn himself over. I might have even tried before that, but he didn't like being on his tummy when he couldn't roll. Now he's tummy 4 lyfe.

[D2M]

There's a pediatric practice in my neighborhood that pushes sleep training hardcore. Parents are told at 8 werks to put their babies in a room at 7 pm and not open the door until 7 am. That always sounded nuts to me... but this is even nuttier.

[Birdie]

Oct 1, 2014 14:54:20 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I'm scared of SIDS, but I hate all the SIDS recs because I feel like they just keep babies from sleeping well. Internal conflict! lol

I'm scared too, but I also wonder how many external factors play into SIDS statistics. Like, I know there are those instances where it really was a freak thing. But I feel like there are a good amount of situations where the parent's shitty choices led to the baby's death.

Case in point, the couple from my town who were just arrested for child neglect resulting in death because they lived in deplorable conditions, the mother passed out from drugs on the couch with her one month old and the one month old suffocated in the couch cushions. Or babies who sleep with blankets, etc.

So I just tell myself that DS sleeping in a sleep sack on his belly with breathable bumpers is probably fine. "I survived"!

[anna7602]

There is no way DS (8 weeks) could deal with only 2 naps per day. He will occasionally sleep 5-6 hour blocks at night and even made it as much as 8 on 2 occasions, but during the day, he pretty much nods off anytime he is in a stroller or the carrier or at the breast or sitting in his bouncy chair for more than 10 minutes. 

This method sounds kooky and unrealistic to me.

[sent]

Oct 1, 2014 16:42:14 GMT -5 D2M said:

There's a pediatric practice in my neighborhood that pushes sleep training hardcore. Parents are told at 8 werks to put their babies in a room at 7 pm and not open the door until 7 am. That always sounded nuts to me... but this is even nuttier.

What?  My kid still inhales 8 - 10 oz in the MOTN sometimes that I can not get her to drink in the daytime.  This totally sounds crazy.

And if sleeping 12 hours in a crib counts, DD was doing at week 3 when we brought her home.  This sounds strange.   

[D2M]

Oct 1, 2014 17:15:04 GMT -5 sent said:

Oct 1, 2014 16:42:14 GMT -5 D2M said:

There's a pediatric practice in my neighborhood that pushes sleep training hardcore. Parents are told at 8 werks to put their babies in a room at 7 pm and not open the door until 7 am. That always sounded nuts to me... but this is even nuttier.

What?  My kid still inhales 8 - 10 oz in the MOTN sometimes that I can not get her to drink in the daytime.  This totally sounds crazy.

And if sleeping 12 hours in a crib counts, DD was doing at week 3 when we brought her home.  This sounds strange.   

Yep.  Adherents say baby figures out to eat more during the day so there's less of a need to eat at night.  I can see that working for older babies (DD at 16 weeks eats only a tiny bit at night*) but that would never have worked out at 8 weeks for us. 

*Eats only once but wakes up more often.  Yay, four-month regression!

[Nenibay]

So it sounds like the consensus is that I don't need to waste my time reading this book, lol. Based on my other daughters I figured it wasn't realistic. I think I'll just stick to a more regulated nighttime routine and hope that DD picks up on he cues to sleep more at night lol.
I'll reassess at 4 mo

[Velar Fricative]

I wish I had a magic unicorn baby that slept 12 straight hours at 12 weeks on her own but no. At 1 year now I think she's slept 12 hours once, and it was a couple of weekends ago and I freaked the fuck out.

[rt2008]

I will admit that DD was sleeping pretty close to 12 hours around 12 weeks (she was formula fed at that point, if that makes a difference), but she was taking two 2 hour naps a day, and then a 3rd smaller 45 minute nap in the early evening. On the days she didn't nap as well, she didn't sleep as well at night, so I have a hard time believing that actually works with the smaller naps!