This is stupid and I'm really mad

[verycontrary247]

A continuation of my comic-con saga.

Backstory?

One of my closest friends went to CC with me last year, where she ended up meeting the dude she moved halfway across the country to date/live with. We were still planning on going to CC together this year- then she started gradually changing fun girls weekend into her/her bfs "meetiversary" weekend. First, she dropped on me that we wouldn't be splitting a hotel like we had discussed, then she said she was only going one day instead of 3 (because she wants to spend the other days with bf/bfs grandma) theeeen she said she wasn't going to dress up because her bf didn't want to.

I sent her a message saying I was a little deflated about that series of events and she never acknowledged or replied to it. This was months ago. We have not spoken since. CC is next week. We are still FB friends. Today her bf posts something about CC and in the comments replied to one of his friends being all like "YEAH BRO ME AND *my friends name* GO EVERY YEAR!!"

And I'm irrationally pissed. Having gone once together does not equal you go every year. I'm mad he's so whoopdedoo about this and I'm mad she never responded to me and I kinda just want to give them both a big ol fuck you.

/sigh

[angelaa73]

Oh screw her and her bbd

[pixelpassion]

Oh yeah, I remember when you posted about this the first time. I have to admit, I get annoyed when one of my friends tries to "nerd out" on fb and make it seem like she goes to conventions regularly or is a hardcore gamer when in reality it isn't the case.

I just don't get it, who gives a shit if you've gone to cc several years in a row, or only last year? No need to lie/embellish about it.

[verycontrary247]

Am I justified over considering ending a friendship because of this?

[pixelpassion]

Oct 1, 2014 23:22:49 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

Am I justified over considering ending a friendship because of this?

It's not like you're ending your friendship because of cc, that's just the surface issue. 

You'd be ending a friendship because your friend doesn't sound like they've been available or responsive in the last few months, not to mention is inconsiderate regarding your feelings and with plans that you guys have made. 

[ralphlauren]

She sounds like an asshole. I would be pissed about this.

You can defriend her if you wish

[10nille]

Sadly, I think she already ended the friendship. Hope you go and have a blast!

[verycontrary247]

Oct 1, 2014 23:34:36 GMT -5 kooshball said:

What is CC?

Comic-Con

[ralphlauren]

Not to sound dumb but where is cc? I live in San diego and super familiar with the cc here but had no idea it was other places.

[verycontrary247]

Oct 1, 2014 23:42:58 GMT -5 ralphlauren said:

Not to sound dumb but where is cc? I live in San diego and super familiar with the cc here but had no idea it was other places.

They have a bunch of them. San Diego is the biggest, I go to the one in NYC.

[RoxMonster]

I'm sorry; it sounds, to me, like the friendship is kind of already over. She hasn't talked to you in months.

It was a really crappy thing for her to do.

[lilafowler]

You have ever right to be mad. That's poor form on her part. I'd step back.

Is she one of the types to be all over you again if she breaks up with her dude?

I have one of those :/

[notoriousmeg]

I'm sorry. She sounds like an asshole. It sounds like the friendship is already over if you haven't spoken in months. I would hide or defriend her and move on.

[fluffydamn]

I'm sorry, she sounds like she is the "at that time" friend. I wouldn't even bother with her. Now watch when her and her man break up, she is going to come running back looking for you to be there. I would stay away from her like it's my job, and drop her from fb. Aint got no time for that crap.

[McGavin]

Well she sucks and you are very justified in the friendship. I hope you have an awesome time without her!

[jodinia]

I'm sorry she is being a twit. I'd go to comic-con with you. (I say this in a non- skin suit way)

[verycontrary247]

Oct 2, 2014 6:14:40 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

You have ever right to be mad. That's poor form on her part. I'd step back.

Is she one of the types to be all over you again if she breaks up with her dude?

I have one of those :/

Yes, yes she is. Very much the type to drop everything/everyone and completely throw herself 100% into a relationship.

I guess I met her at an ideal moment friendship-wise. We were both married to douchebags who were on the same ship together, then progressed to going through the divorce stuff at the same time- which is why we did the whole girls only fun weekend in the first place.

[isabel]

Sounds like it's time to drop her. People who drop every other relationship they have when they start dating someone are weird to me. You really don't want to hang out with anyone else, ever?

[ECB]

Oct 1, 2014 23:25:29 GMT -5 pixelpassion said:

Oct 1, 2014 23:22:49 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

Am I justified over considering ending a friendship because of this?

It's not like you're ending your friendship because of cc, that's just the surface issue. 

You'd be ending a friendship because your friend doesn't sound like they've been available or responsive in the last few months, not to mention is inconsiderate regarding your feelings and with plans that you guys have made. 

Fully agree.  Just yesterday I was thinking about a person who I defriended on FB.  The final straw was actually something very simple and basically petty.  But it was the build up to that point that was really the reason.  You've had a lot of build up.  If this is the final straw, that's fine!