Would you think anything of this?

[elleblue]

I'm not sure I'm understanding what you're asking here but guessing a Thursday when you said mid-week doesn't seem particularly prescient or psychic or anything. Maybe I'm missing something? Is there a backstory? 

[elleblue]

Sorry. Proboards apparently hates me tonight and is making me double post all over the place. 

[spitforspat]

Wednesday is midweek. Thursday is the day after. So...

[elleblue]

Oct 2, 2014 2:09:25 GMT -5 brighton said:

When I've been around my friend and my H in the past few months I've just gotten a weird feeling that they could be talking to each other behind my back. I have looked for evidence of this and found nothing. I just can't tell if I'm reading too much into this.

Wait a minute. You think your H is discussing you or your life with your friend - behind your back? Which is why you're suspicious that she knew of the "exact" day you might want or need help? 

I feel like I'm walking into something mid-conversation. There's a backstory I must certainly be missing. 

[elleblue]

Have they had a lot of alone time together? I'm not at all trying to question your instincts; if something feels "off" to you, you should investigate further. I suppose I'm just not understanding the origins or how this all came about? Could he actually be asking her for advice? I see the two of you have a very young child and it's my understanding* that the first few years are often very trying. 

*I don't have one yet

[elleblue]

Sounds like there's history between you and your friend. Whether she's actually trustworthy or not at this point, you have residual feelings from the way she's behaved in the past. 

I guess the bottom line is, do you actually need her help next Thursday or can you just thank her politely and keep her at an arm's length?

(arm's length because it sounds like you're insecure about her interactions with your H)

[stealthmom]

Can you snoop a little on his phone or something?

[stealthmom]

Oct 2, 2014 4:04:53 GMT -5 brighton said:

Oct 2, 2014 3:25:05 GMT -5 stealthmom said:

Can you snoop a little on his phone or something?

I have. I haven't found anything.

hmmm. That's hard. In other instances are your gut instincts correct? I tend to follow my gut.

Have you ever asked your husband about it? Not in an accusatory way but in a- this is weirding me out way.

[Muddled]

So, you think your h is cheating on you because a friend offered to help you out during the day and knew what day he was going back to work. Do I have this straight?

[Deleted]

Are you asking us to tell you if your husband is cheating?

This is a weird post.

[sandyapples]

Based only on the evidence you gave us it doesn't sound like anything is going on. Not trying to be mean but are you usually a jealous/suspicious person?

[Deleted]

Are you perhaps on meds from your surgery? I'm confused.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

I think that there is a chance your H asked her to offer you help when he goes back to work. Wouldn't that be a much simpler option than jumping to cheating? And also, Wednesday is midweek. Thursday is logical.

[Booze Raccoon]

Thursday is the logical guess when thinking what day your H would go back to work and you might need help. Based solely on what you've said in this post I'd say it's all in your head.

[jlt19]

Well, since you already have the gut feeling, I can see why you'd be suspicious that she knew the exact day he was going back to work, but I think it's a bit reaching. What phone plan are you on? Can you check what numbers he calls or texts? (I know some will show the numbers you text to, but mine, Sprint, does not).

[verypunny]

It seems you are looking for something where there is nothing.

[BaliHai]

My response would have been "yeah, how'd you know?" not because I'm suspicious, but because I'm curious.

I wouldn't read into it. I guess I also wouldn't care if they were chatting without me? I'd assume they talk when he picks up the baby.

[dragonfly08]

Two different issues in this post, for me. The first is the very basic assumption on her part that since you said midweek, your DH would be back at work on Thursday. That is, under normal circumstances, perfectly reasonable. I assumed the same before I even got to the part of your post where she responded and I don't even know any of the parties involved. The second issue is your gut feeling that there's more to her relationship with your DH. That is something no one here can answer for you. Could it be true? Sure. On the other hand, maybe it's a reaction to meds or something else. Since you can't remember specifics it's very possible you're just imagining things that aren't there. I am glad you brought it up to your DH b/c open communication is important. Hopefully it's nothing!

[bonquiqui]

Is your friend German?

[bonquiqui]

Also, i think your friend is trying to be helpful.

[bex1973]

LOL - Sue Sue smackdown!

[shopgirl07]

I'm sorry you're feeling uneasy. Since none of us know you, your H or your friend, and therefore cannot have a gut feeling, I don't think we can say anything useful.