Sort of funny vent.....houseguests

[UnderProtest]

So I think I posted this on ML, but I have four houseguests here for 2 weeks.  Its my MIL, her fiancé, her fiancé's son (who I had never met until he arrived), and the fiancé's son's friend.  The friend was a last minute addition that I was complaining about a couple weeks ago.  Well, the friend is the only decent houseguest.  She cleans up after herself, doesn't hog the couch, didn't come in demanding the wifi password in order to watch American sports.  But the poor girl......its her birthday today and she is out sightseeing by herself.  The selfish ass/her friend/MIL's fiancé's son decided he only wanted to go places he was interested in seeing, not anything she wanted to see.  He wouldn't get up this morning, so she went by herself.  This "kid" is a class a jerk.  Supposedly all he wanted to do was tour the city (you know since he's a history major) and he would never be at my house.  He's ALWAYS here and ALWAYS watching sports on his iPad or the tv.  Would it be bad if my husband and I took our kids and this girl out to dinner without the rest of them?  It would piss my MIL off, but I almost don't care at this point.  Well, I really don't care, but my husband might since it is his mom.

[jennistarr1]

maybe if you said, we're going to meet up with "girl", anyone want to join us...don't mention dinner?

or perhaps you can have some birthday goodies waiting for her when she gets home, some cupcakes or something

Also, I would say to MIL and fiancé..."you know this isn't exactly what we signed up for, you told us he would be sight seeing and instead he always here"

[Pom]

2 Weeks. You have my sympathies.

I probably would invite them all despite my distaste for the rest of them. If they decline, I would still take the girl.

[crashgizmo]

UGH that sounds horrible. How long until they leave?

I feel bad for the poor girl, but it sounds like she came along willingly and is still getting a free place to stay in a foreign country where she can sight see, so I wouldn't put expectations on yourself to do more than that. I know that makes me sound like a bitch, but you are putting up with enough IMO.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 9:16:18 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

maybe if you said, we're going to meet up with "girl", anyone want to join us...don't mention dinner?

or perhaps you can have some birthday goodies waiting for her when she gets home, some cupcakes or something

Also, I would say to MIL and fiancé..."you know this isn't exactly what we signed up for, you told us he would be sight seeing and instead he always here"

If I take the kids my MIL will follow.  Then her fiancé will follow, then his son too.  I might be willing to sacrifice the kids to go out.

I did buy a couple cakes to make sure she had something to celebrate with.

Good point......might have my husband tackle that one since its his mom.  

[Deleted]

I think I would just take the girl out myself. Include the kids if that works.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 9:16:43 GMT -5 Pom said:

2 Weeks. You have my sympathies.

I probably would invite them all despite my distaste for the rest of them. If they decline, I would still take the girl.

Thanks.  I'll need it and lots of alcohol.

I really don't want to be seen in public with them.  Nor go to any restaurant they would go to.  Apparently the kid has eaten hamburgers three times since he's been here and he's only been here 5 days (and only eaten lunch out).  They are the typical loud mouth, brash, obnoxious Americans.  Can't wait to hear how that goes over in Paris.  Thank God I'm not going there.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 9:17:10 GMT -5 crashgizmo said:

UGH that sounds horrible. How long until they leave?

I feel bad for the poor girl, but it sounds like she came along willingly and is still getting a free place to stay in a foreign country where she can sight see, so I wouldn't put expectations on yourself to do more than that. I know that makes me sound like a bitch, but you are putting up with enough IMO.

Not until the 25th.  Hold me.  But at least they are gone this weekend.

I do feel a little bad for her.  She was promised a lot of sight seeing and hadn't traveled with this kid before, so I don't think she really knew to expect that he would be a stick in the mud.

[jlt19]

I'd take her out, just you two, or maybe with DH. Leave the kids at home with their grandma! But I'm a bad mom and will take any opportunity at a babysitter I can get.

[bostonmichelle]

I would leave the rest of them at home and take her out for her birthday. I would also have DH talk to his mom about the rest of them.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 9:29:47 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

I'm sorry this visit is every bit the PITA you thought it would be.

I feel bad for the birthday girl I think it's great you got her some cupcakes. I'll come out to dinner with you guys tonight if you want--you can ditch the entourage and we'll make a girls night of it

Ooooohhhhh, that might be an EXCELLENT idea.  I'll keep you posted.  I have no desire to cook dinner for these idiots.

[dexteroni]

This kid sounds awful. How old is he? I guarantee you that your mom's FI knew exactly how he would be and just didn't tell you. I hate that they did this to you. But, we did advise you against caving and having all four of them stay with you, so....

I don't know what else to tell you except change the wifi password and pretend like it's not working. lol.

ETA: Girls' night out is a great idea!

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 9:25:19 GMT -5 jlt19 said:

I'd take her out, just you two, or maybe with DH. Leave the kids at home with their grandma! But I'm a bad mom and will take any opportunity at a babysitter I can get.

Yeah, the taking the kids out would only be to punish the grandma.

[UnderProtest]

Oh, and how evil is it of me that I hope the kids break the son's iPad? I told him not to leave it out because I couldn't guarantee its safety around 2 toddlers. He has yet to put it away.

[raangoli]

Oct 15, 2014 9:29:47 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

I'm sorry this visit is every bit the PITA you thought it would be.

I feel bad for the birthday girl I think it's great you got her some cupcakes. I'll come out to dinner with you guys tonight if you want--you can ditch the entourage and we'll make a girls night of it

This is awesome. Please do this and leave your husband to deal with his mom.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 9:30:59 GMT -5 dexteroni said:

This kid sounds awful. How old is he? I guarantee you that your mom's FI knew exactly how he would be and just didn't tell you. I hate that they did this to you. But, we did advise you against caving and having all four of them stay with you, so....

I don't know what else to tell you except change the wifi password and pretend like it's not working. lol.

ETA: Girls' night out is a great idea!

He is 27!!!!!!!  So not a kid.  But he still lives with his mommy and works a menial job that his brother helped him get.....you know because a history major really doesn't make you marketable.

I totally thought about changing the wifi password.....I would have to figure out how though.  

[dexteroni]

Oct 15, 2014 9:35:19 GMT -5 UnderProtest said:

He is 27!!!!!!!  So not a kid.

Oh good lord. Since this is your DH's family, make him come up with some ideas to get them out of the house. Tours, activities, etc. "I bought the tickets, we're leaving at 4. come on!"

And I might consider starting a conversation a la jennistarr1's idea, although I would make a bit more veiled, at least for my first attempt. *faux concerned whisper* "Is Kid ok? He's not doing a fraction the sightseeing you said he would be doing. He can't be having a good time hanging around the house watching TV allll day and night."

[ECB]

At this point, my advice is to stop waiting for your DH to handle everything. This is YOUR home too. Speak up if there are issues. I suspect that your DH and his "kid gloves" with his mom is part of the problem here.

And I vote for a girls night out - just you and the girl.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 11:34:57 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Oct 15, 2014 10:24:13 GMT -5 ECB said:

And I vote for a girls night out - just you and the girl.

What am I, chopped liver?  Harumph.

Not to me!!!!!

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 11:31:53 GMT -5 milsaroo said:

Lol, didn't your MIL say it's be fine if her FI's son shared a bed with the girl? Geez. That was nice of you to pick up a cake but who the eff let's someone go tour a foreign city alone on their birthday so they can sit around watching tv?!? Ughhh. He is not a child but he sure is acting like one. In your OP I assumed he was 18-22 range and really just looking for a free place to stay, not that that is okay but at the same time I couldn't blame him. But he's 27, majoring in history and NOT embracing the chance to sightsee? Ummm okay.

That poor girl. Do they seem like just friends or does one of them (or both) seem a bit more interested?

He is DEFINITELY interested in her.  She has no interest......especially now.

[ECB]

Oct 15, 2014 11:34:57 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Oct 15, 2014 10:24:13 GMT -5 ECB said:

And I vote for a girls night out - just you and the girl.

What am I, chopped liver?  Harumph.

Oops. Sorry.  Didn't mean to exclude you.  Yes, of course, you should go too!!

[ECB]

I will actually say - this whole trip might be doing this girl a favor. I HOPE she truly makes the best of it (good for her for going out while he sits on his ass) and maybe this is the only way she would have made it to London for many years to come. I hope she can see the good in all of this.

And the favor- she now sees what a dud he is and hopefully won't waste anymore time on him at home!

[moolarkey]

uh .. thanks? "They are the typical loud mouth, brash, obnoxious Americans."


'Cause we're all like this, every single last one of us.

[Norticprincess]

If it wouldn't give you more of a headache from his whining, And knew it would make him leave the house, I'd mess with the controls in the router so sports pages were blocked.

Another vote for girls' night.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 13:52:00 GMT -5 Norticprincess said:

If it wouldn't give you more of a headache from his whining, And knew it would make him leave the house, I'd mess with the controls in the router so sports pages were blocked.

Another vote for girls' night.

My plan for the weekend is to change the password.  I might need assistance in this plan.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 13:08:57 GMT -5 moolarkey said:

uh .. thanks? "They are the typical loud mouth, brash, obnoxious Americans."


'Cause we're all like this, every single last one of us.

Forgot the word "stereo" to the typical.  It should read "they are the stereotypical loud mouth, brash, obnoxious Americans.  And yes, I am more conscious of how Americans are viewed after being out of America for 8 months.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 17:30:31 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Oct 15, 2014 17:28:57 GMT -5 UnderProtest said:

My plan for the weekend is to change the password.  I might need assistance in this plan.

If you can't figure that out, you could also just randomly turn the router on and off.  Just sayin'.

But I can't fall asleep without netflix.  I can't make my own life hell in the pursuit of annoying him.

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 18:29:15 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Oct 15, 2014 18:20:16 GMT -5 UnderProtest said:

But I can't fall asleep without netflix.  I can't make my own life hell in the pursuit of annoying him.

But you can turn it off when you go to bed so he can't watch all night

I wake up randomly during the night......  But maybe during the day.

Oh, and breaking news.....he no longer wants to be friends with her after not speaking to her all day on her birthday.  This should be an interesting next few days.

[LoveTrains]

Oct 15, 2014 18:37:20 GMT -5 UnderProtest said:

Oct 15, 2014 18:29:15 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

But you can turn it off when you go to bed so he can't watch all night

I wake up randomly during the night......  But maybe during the day.

Oh, and breaking news.....he no longer wants to be friends with her after not speaking to her all day on her birthday.  This should be an interesting next few days.

What an asshole. 

[UnderProtest]

Oct 15, 2014 18:38:12 GMT -5 LoveTrains said:

Oct 15, 2014 18:37:20 GMT -5 UnderProtest said:

I wake up randomly during the night......  But maybe during the day.

Oh, and breaking news.....he no longer wants to be friends with her after not speaking to her all day on her birthday.  This should be an interesting next few days.

What an asshole. 

Yup.  I just spent the last 45 minutes consoling her.  She is in a foreign country where she doesn't know anyone and has to deal with his childish bullshit.  She was supposed to go to Italy with him.  I told her she was welcome to stay here.......but I fear he may not go without her as he seems incapable of doing anything by himself.