BF has an extremely common name. Googling, even with his middle name, brings up lots of arrest records. None of them are him, lol.
Not that I was ever really worried, since I met him through my brother. And I met his mom before we were official. LOL His mom was trying to figure out what we were and he was trying to explain it delicately and she goes, "Oh, so you're like, friends, but with benefits." He was like, "...yesbutpleaseneverusethatphraseagain"
Post by formerlyak on Oct 17, 2014 16:27:13 GMT -5
If I was talking to a guy on the phone who I met online, I would Google things they told me to see if they were telling the truth (ex liked to stretch the truth). One told me he produced a tv show in Canada and won basically a Canadian Emmy. That one was easy to find to see that he was in fact telling me the truth. DH told me he held a few patents. Again, easy to find. My favorite was the guy who tried to tell me he played QB for USC when he found out I am a college football fan - um, I didn't even have to Google that one because he claimed to be the same age as me and I went to UCLA during that time. I know he did not play QB for USC then!
I guess we all draw the line in different places--for me, I think there's a difference between information that people voluntarily put out in the public arena--FB, linked in, etc and what is involuntarily made part of the public record. Exceptions would be sex offender registries and the like. I also think the level of effort put in should be in proportion to how deeply involved you are. Three dates and having a connection go to the court house seem disproportionate to me. I also think looking at the amount of child support someone pays is invasive.
I remember the first time I met up with someone from the internets.
I was maybe 13. We met on AOL! We were making plans to meet at the mall, but my mom insisted on talking to his parents first, to be sure he really was another 13 year old. LOL