Someone needs to start a FFFC might as well be me

[achase123]

My FFFC is that I just don't give a damn anymore about waiting for the right time to have sex. I used to feel bad having casual sex but I do not now. If I'm safe and P is with a sitter or family I'm good with it. The guy I spent the night with last Saturday night will literally be my neighbor when we move. My roommate and I joked that I'll just sneak out the sliding door in my bedroom after P is asleep and return before he wakes up. I'll be like "honey watch the kid" or something along those lines.

[jojoandleo]

I don't know if this is flameful- I went to court the other day for a simple motion to compel and another female attorney was there. She looked pretty young. She was wearing a pleated skirt shorter than mid thigh. I judged her. Then wondered if I was being sexist, but male attorneys have to wear full suits! Why should this girl get to wear a short skirt and mismatched jacket? I wear some nice pants and mismatched jacket at times, but... I dunno. Your skirt should be below your mid thigh range for court, right?

[1confused1]

M and I are still talking, and spending time together. And having sex.

Guess we aren't very good at ending things.

[Deleted]

Because the of thread today I googled the guy my sister wants to set me up with. He was arrested in March for domestic violence!

[achase123]

Oct 17, 2014 19:17:17 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I don't know if this is flameful- I went to court the other day for a simple motion to compel and another female attorney was there. She looked pretty young. She was wearing a pleated skirt shorter than mid thigh. I judged her. Then wondered if I was being sexist, but male attorneys have to wear full suits! Why should this girl get to wear a short skirt and mismatched jacket? I wear some nice pants and mismatched jacket at times, but... I dunno. Your skirt should be below your mid thigh range for court, right?

Yes. I am in s conservative field so if I have a skirt that's higher than the knee I wonder if I should wear it. I have one that keeps shrinking every time I wash it and it's about to go to goodwill. You are what you wear in some professions. You have to consider that no matter what gender It's just being professional.

[achase123]

Oct 17, 2014 19:25:36 GMT -5 @bk said:

Because the of thread today I googled the guy my sister wants to set me up with. He was arrested in March for domestic violence!

Holy crap!!!!

[jigsy]

This is a general observation, not a reflection on current goings on in my life...or maybe it is, lol, but Sex sucks sometimes. Lol. It feels so awesome. I want it all the time. But it also brings a lot of complicated stuff. I mean, there is the safety aspect with STIs and pregnancy, and all that. Then there are emotions and junk.

I mean, I can DIY all day long, but it can never replace a good banging.

Stupid sex drive.

[jigsy]

And that wasn't a confession...so let's see what I got...I half want to ask vegas to come with me to FL when I go to finalize the divorce...but not for the court stuff, just to Universal Studios since we've watched all the Harry potters together, lol. But I'm not going to because that would be weird, for so many reasons...too bad Harry Potter world isn't at the LA universal studios yet.

[doriswe]

Didja also mention you just slept with db?

[doriswe]

Oct 17, 2014 20:18:19 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Oct 17, 2014 20:05:16 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Didja also mention you just slept with db?

I told him I've had sex since I've seen him. He wasn't by any means shocked. We discussed our risk factors and came to a decision. In a way I'm guessing many people don't bother. He never asked specifically if it was db, although we both mentioned him in passing. There was no deception or issues.

and you plan to use condoms with others? Raw dog others?

[jigsy]

Oct 17, 2014 20:04:25 GMT -5 @stpete said:

I'll go with you if you don't ask him. And I get where you are coming from.

Irt the std stuff - I told ginger today I'd like to skip condoms if he would get a new physical. He had one already and will have results Tuesday.

Oh, you are number one on my list baby.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 17, 2014 20:20:44 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oct 17, 2014 20:18:19 GMT -5 @stpete said:

I told him I've had sex since I've seen him. He wasn't by any means shocked. We discussed our risk factors and came to a decision. In a way I'm guessing many people don't bother. He never asked specifically if it was db, although we both mentioned him in passing. There was no deception or issues.

and you plan to use condoms with others? Raw dog others?

@stpete is an adult.  I'm sure she can handle the safe sex talk.  You are coming off slut shaming here.  

[doriswe]

Oct 17, 2014 20:25:05 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 17, 2014 20:20:44 GMT -5 doriswe said:

and you plan to use condoms with others? Raw dog others?

@stpete is an adult.  I'm sure she can handle the safe sex talk.  You are coming off slut shaming here.  

lmfao...uh huh! Unprotected sex in a nonmonogomus relationship isn't terribly wise.

Is it just my use of raw dog that offends??

[jellymankelly]

Oct 17, 2014 20:05:16 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Didja also mention you just slept with db?

Hold up...Where have I been? I thought db was engaged?

[doriswe]

Oct 17, 2014 20:29:15 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Oct 17, 2014 20:20:44 GMT -5 doriswe said:

and you plan to use condoms with others? Raw dog others?

Wtf? In the past he and I were exclusive about non condom sex. That's the plan. Fwiw- considering I've been a responsible adult who communicates her sexual ethics openly; why do you feel it's acceptable to make crude negative assumptions?

is it a far stretch to make an assumption that you would make db, who you were in love with for some time, would be required to condom-up and ginger, who's new on the scene, goes sans condoms?

[cuddlyevil]

Oct 17, 2014 20:30:59 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

Oct 17, 2014 20:05:16 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Didja also mention you just slept with db?

Hold up...Where have I been? I thought db was engaged?

Engagement was ended after she sent the FI information that proved db cheated. This was a while ago.

[jojoandleo]

Oct 17, 2014 20:28:51 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oct 17, 2014 20:25:05 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

@stpete is an adult.  I'm sure she can handle the safe sex talk.  You are coming off slut shaming here.  

lmfao...uh huh! Unprotected sex in a nonmonogomus relationship isn't terribly wise.

Is it just my use of raw dog that offends??

You are just coming off angry to me.  I could be off.  I don't know.  St Pete has always been honest about her sex life, I don't see her as the type to be dumb about safe sex.  You just assumed they would go condom free with no discussion of future sex partners.  

Your posts to St Pete, especially the first one where you didn't quote or tag her but gave her shit about her past with DB just rubbed me the wrong way.  Maybe I'm reading it wrong, it is a message board, but it came off hostile and a bit condescending to me.

[doriswe]

I'm not angry...I'm just pointing out that it stands to reason that there is a good chance db went without a condom, based on their history. It would make sense that if she is comfortable with ginger going without she would have felt the same about a man she loved. Do I think there's risk in that, absolutely because stuff doesn't always show up on tests right away.

Being open to discussing sex is great. More people should be so open. I could care less if she banged the whole country, I think there is risk in condomless sex outside of a monogamous relationship. Maybe I'm becoming a prude?!?

Eta: asking if he knew she had sex with someone recently isn't me coming across as angry...it's asking a question. I was curious since condomless sex is a risk for both parties and ginger should have that info

[bullygirl979]

Oct 17, 2014 20:25:05 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oct 17, 2014 20:20:44 GMT -5 doriswe said:

and you plan to use condoms with others? Raw dog others?

@stpete is an adult.  I'm sure she can handle the safe sex talk.  You are coming off slut shaming here.  

How is this slut shaming? People jumped on achase for having unprotected sex earlier this week and you didn't have objections....

[doriswe]

Lmfao...reading you loud and clear!

I love how you post flammable things and get your feathers all ruffled when people respond!

[jojoandleo]

Oct 17, 2014 21:01:40 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Oct 17, 2014 20:25:05 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

@stpete is an adult.  I'm sure she can handle the safe sex talk.  You are coming off slut shaming here.  

How is this slut shaming? People jumped on achase for having unprotected sex earlier this week and you didn't have objections....

I didn't read that thread.  It was her throwing DB in St Pete's face and then asking in a crude way if st Pete was going to sleep with other people unprotected.  I didn't say it WAS slut shaming, just it came off that way to me.

[doriswe]

Oct 17, 2014 21:24:08 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Oct 17, 2014 21:14:05 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Lmfao...reading you loud and clear!

I love how you post flammable things and get your feathers all ruffled when people respond!

My feather aren't ruffled, I'm commenting on your tone and assumptions. I don't care at all if you comment on my posts, actually I hope people do! That's why I post stuff. However, I doubt anything you think is clear about my life is actually spot on.

you can hear my tone from there? Weird!

[bullygirl979]

Oct 17, 2014 21:26:07 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Oct 17, 2014 21:24:08 GMT -5 @stpete said:

My feather aren't ruffled, I'm commenting on your tone and assumptions. I don't care at all if you comment on my posts, actually I hope people do! That's why I post stuff. However, I doubt anything you think is clear about my life is actually spot on.

you can hear my tone from there? Weird!

You don't know her lyyffeee!

[bullygirl979]

Oct 17, 2014 21:28:49 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Oct 17, 2014 21:14:05 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Lmfao...reading you loud and clear!

I love how you post flammable things and get your feathers all ruffled when people respond!

And actually, me being annoyed has more to do with your tone than anything. I am frank with my sexual partners about sexual health. I don't know many women irl that are comfortable speaking about the subject. So your post insinuating that I must practice risky behavior seems poorly placed.

Actually, having unprotected sex with multiple people in a six month period is considered risky as HIV can take a while to show on a STD test.

[Wanderista]

I will just say as my flameful that I do not like condoms. I like what they do for safety but one of the reasons why I tend to be monogamous is that I do not like condoms. I probably don't really like most casual sex. BF and I are still using condoms right now even though we are monogamous but I look forward to eventually ditching them. I also eagerly look forward to the day when there are more male birth control options for monogamous relationships like the birth control shots for men that are in development.

I don't react well to many types of birth control. I tend to get crappy side effects.

[doriswe]

Oct 17, 2014 21:32:32 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Main Entry: 1tone 

Pronunciation: \ˈtōn\

Function: noun

Etymology: Middle English, from Anglo-French tun, ton,from Latin tonus tension, tone, from Greek tonos, literally, act of stretching; akin to Greekteinein to stretch — more atthin




6 :  style or manner of expression in speaking or writing <seemed wise to adopt a conciliatorytone>

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Oct 17, 2014 21:24:08 GMT -5 @stpete said:

My feather aren't ruffled, I'm commenting on your tone and assumptions. I don't care at all if you comment on my posts, actually I hkope youpeople do! That's why I post stuff. However, I doubt anything you think is clear about my life is actually spot on.

you can hear my tone from there? Weird!

Yes, are you familiar with the word?










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lmfao!!

[doriswe]

Also, should I have used my sarcasm font for you with the tone joke?

[bullygirl979]

Oct 17, 2014 21:36:53 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Oct 17, 2014 21:30:41 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Actually, having unprotected sex with multiple people in a six month period is considered risky as HIV can take a while to show on a STD test.

What are you taking about? Where did I say I was having sex with multiple people unprotected? Wtf? Doris made an assumption and you ran with it.

Stop. This is how crazy lies start. Both here - and with irl slut shaming. Not that you guys making assumptions and speaking as if it's truth is slut shaming. I'm sure it's something different

Umm...how do you know I wasn't talking about Ginger?

[verycontrary247]

Probably flammable.

I did not tell coworker that Mr. Philly and I were somewhat romantically intwined because I knew he would text me incessantly while I was in NYC if he knew I was staying with more than "just a friend"

[bullygirl979]

Oct 17, 2014 21:44:56 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Oct 17, 2014 21:39:25 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Umm...how do you know I wasn't talking about Ginger?

It doesn't matter who you were speaking about. In either case you don't know anything that would confirm your assumption. You were speaking baseless rumours either way.

Where in the fuck did you see an assumption? I merely disagreed and said that having unprotected sex was risky. Would you like me to cite the CDC website for you? I'm pretty sure they wouldn't call that a "rumor".