Post by greencrayon on Oct 19, 2014 21:47:20 GMT -5
So I bailed on my plans for today. A was refusing to nap, and I had a bunch of work to do for work tomorrow. Instead of actually doing that work, I did a major cleaning downstairs. I decluttered, vacuumed, shampooed the carpets, cleaned the kitchen, made mason jar salads and pasta sauce, did a few loads of laundry, stuffed diapers, and folded clothes. I feel a lot better when the house looks cleaner, so that helped with the stress a little bit.
1) Baby sitter/mothers helper etc: There's a place by the mall that basically babysits kids for $6/hr. Its a $20 sign up fee and then $6 an hour after that. They're open till 9. I think I may sign her up for that and do it once a week to just have time to myself. Its cheaper than a sitter, and I trust a company more than some random teenager.
2) Cleaning lady: Yeah, DH said we can do this. I think we'll try twice a month and see how that works. Any suggestions on how to find a service? My peers (20 something year old grad students) are mostly un-married and living in apartments so I can't really ask around.
3) Eating out: Its mostly a health issue. I will stock up on TJ's frozen meals. We love their Indian and Chinese food. Frozen pizza. Grilled chicken strips. I have an incredibly picky husband, but I feel like I just need to be more firm (he likes smoked but not roasted turkey breast... Grilled chicken instead of rotisserie chicken, etc). Eat it or don't, not my problem, etc.
4) I need to do auto-pay on the utilities and such, that's a great idea. The clutter is killing me. Especially right now, because we're getting so many political ads. Wtf.
I know I need to utilize my time better. But even if I was a rock star 100% of the time, I feel like I still couldn't get everything done because DH isn't helping out. "Hey, can you take out the trash?" "Don't forget about the trash." "Hey, trash!" "How many times do I have to ask you to take out the trash?! It's not like its a surprise that its full. You're literally putting the trash on the counter next to the trash can because there's no room left." I've tried lists, and he ignores them. I've tried saying that X, Y, and Z are his tasks, and it doesn't matter when he does them. He still doesn't do them. I feel like I'm living with a really big kid, lol.
Post by speckledfrog on Oct 19, 2014 22:07:07 GMT -5
What helps me? Anti-depressants. With my first, depression hit me around 7 months and manifested itself in super rage. This time it hit me around 5 months and manifested itself in an inability to get stuff done. If I had more than one thing to do at a time I got overwhelmed and not do it. Things snowballed quickly and I was just buried in tasks.
Your update sounds like a great one. You have a solid plan in place. If you aren't on an anti-depressant, you may want to consider speaking with your doctor.
What helps me? Anti-depressants. With my first, depression hit me around 7 months and manifested itself in super rage. This time it hit me around 5 months and manifested itself in an inability to get stuff done. If I had more than one thing to do at a time I got overwhelmed and not do it. Things snowballed quickly and I was just buried in tasks.
Your update sounds like a great one. You have a solid plan in place. If you aren't on an anti-depressant, you may want to consider speaking with your doctor.
I talked to my doctor and he wrote me a prescription for Xanax, and that's helped tremendously. He wanted me on Paxil, but I'm really bad at remembering to take something every day (yay mirena!), and apparently the side effects of anti-depressants are pretty bad if not taken regularly. I take the Xanax before bed sometimes, so I don't wake up at 3am going "You have to do this and this and this and this" which would just keep me up for hours.
What helps me? Anti-depressants. With my first, depression hit me around 7 months and manifested itself in super rage. This time it hit me around 5 months and manifested itself in an inability to get stuff done. If I had more than one thing to do at a time I got overwhelmed and not do it. Things snowballed quickly and I was just buried in tasks.
Your update sounds like a great one. You have a solid plan in place. If you aren't on an anti-depressant, you may want to consider speaking with your doctor.
I talked to my doctor and he wrote me a prescription for Xanax, and that's helped tremendously. He wanted me on Paxil, but I'm really bad at remembering to take something every day (yay mirena!), and apparently the side effects of anti-depressants are pretty bad if not taken regularly. I take the Xanax before bed sometimes, so I don't wake up at 3am going "You have to do this and this and this and this" which would just keep me up for hours.
I'm glad it's helping. I hear you on the not remembering! I also couldn't take the pill successfully. I rubberband my meds to my toothpaste and it works like a charm.