leaving stores because of meltdowns

[zarapipe]

I ended up leaving two boxes of diapers, a Cart full of other stuff (including a half drank bottle of water which is horrible on my part) in the shoe section if target today. Dd was loosing her shit about shoes and not listening, screaming, throwing herself on the floor etc. Then the baby started full blown crying. Gave dd1 numerous chances and rhe tantrum didn't end. Then she decided she could walk so I carried the 46lb her in one arm and the baby carrier in the other both while screaming. It was quite the sight to see, everyone was staring.

Went home, dropped of the kids and went for a manicure, the first time away from dd2 and it was glorious.

Anyone have any good walk out of a store story?

[shekels1222]

Not at a store (yet) but from a birthday party. DS was tired, being bratty to the other kids and pouting that it wasn't his birthday. After a talk, a time out and another warning, I carried his 32lb butt outta there kicking and screaming while 8 months pregnant.

[spk926]

Good for you! I haven't had to do this (yet!!) but totally will if DD isn't listening and having a melt down.

[mlt]

Good for you!!! I leave places all the time with my (very difficult) three year old. You would think other parents are sympathetic but I usually just get looks of disgust. The best was when we were at a nice brunch for a family shindig and he started throwing food and melting down. I carried him out kicking and screaming "mommy don't hurt me!!! Don't hurt me Mommy!" Um, WTF. I have never hurt you, kid! I felt all eyes on me. I about died.

[pugz]

DD threw a fit in Barnes and Noble last week. Something about the train table was pissing her off. I couldn't get her boneless tantruming body into the stroller and was out of snacks to bribe her with. We ended up in the elevator and I just didn't press any buttons, just waited for her to calm down a smidge so I could buckle her in. We were in the elevator for probably 5-10 minutes while she screamed.

[thejen626]

Our mall has a ferris wheel and a carousel. Each one is $2. I told DD1 (she was about 2.5 at the time) to pick one because we couldn't do both. She rode the carousel and then flipped the fuck out when I wouldn't let her do the Ferris wheel also. She screamed bloody murder the entire walk out to the car. It was awful.

[meij]

This kid I nannied for threw epic tantrums (he was six). Once we left the seal show at the Zoo because he was kicking and screaming about not getting an $8 snocone. I picked him up to leave and he grabbed the railing so I had to pry his fingers off one by one. Another time we were at the grocery store and he decided he was going to lay down and throw a fit in the frozen food aisle until he got his way about something. I was all "ok bye!" and kept walking. His older sister was worried someone would steal him (we were still in the same aisle). Hahaha, yeah, no one wanted any part of that. Most everyone in a grocery store on a weekday morning has their own whining or screaming prone kids. No one wants to pick up an extra.

[deo]

DS1 had a moment like that at a book store. He kept running in the store and hiding behind bookshelves and being a huge menace. After several warnings I ended up picking him up and hauling his butt out of the store while he was screaming at the top of his lungs while I had DS2 strapped to me in the Ergo. ugh.

[lilac05]

DS1(almost 4) has been an easy kid (so far). (No worries, I'm pretty sure DS2 is right on track to make me pay for every.single bullet dodged with DS1!) I learned quickly that taking him out of a place because of poor behavior was actually rewarding. He misbehaves when he's tired of being someplace. He wasn't even 18 months old when he was being naughty in church & I had to take him out. His demeanor changed immediately upon leaving the row. He began smiling and saying "bye bye" to everyone behind us. At that point, I realized that, in his eyes, he had "won."

I won't hesitate to remove DS2 from a situation if his behavior warrants it...it just didn't work with DS1.

[livinitup]

I did an emergency breast feeding in a WalMart once when I was deep into the store with no hope at privacy.

I've sat in a lot of parking lots after DD fell asleep in the car and I was too afraid to wake her to do my shopping.

[hski2349]

i have never had to leave a store but have been close. I also never look at a parent who's child is having a melt down the same way. I completely understand and will never judge.

[anna7602]

(((Hugs))), zarapipe. Next time, order from diapers.com.

[origami]

My DS2 lost his mind in an Olive Garden. I had to half drag half carry him to the car. He was screaming so loudly you could hear him down the parking lot row even with all the doors closed.

[oregonpachey]

A few weeks ago we were at a coffee cafe that is kids themed. The boys were running outside in the play area and up over rocks. I told them to walk numerous times. They also would not sit and eat breakfast. I finally said if they didn't listen to me, we would be leaving. They didn't listen, we left.

I was almost dragging my 4 year old and football carrying the 2 year.old as they are both screaming. "Mommy please! I don't want to leave!"

I am still traumatized. They are usually good but they were being rotten that particular day.

[redpenmama]

Pretty sure my best story caused me to go into labor.

After my 38-week appointment with DS, DD wanted to go to Chik-Fil-A for nuggets. Yes, it was 10 am, but I was too lazy to fight it. I usually don't let her go in the play area because she refuses to leave, but no one was there, so I figured we might be OK. Well, after 30 minutes of convincing her to leave, she goes absolutely nuts. I threw her shoes in my purse, picked her up kicking and screaming, and carried her out of the restaurant. At this point, the lunch crowd had come in, so there were 56 people in line, and every head snapped around and stared at me when I opened the door to the play area. She was screaming like she was being tortured. And I was so hugely pregnant that I could barely even hold her.

Went home, calmed her down, and my water broke two hours later.

[zarapipe]

Oct 18, 2014 21:17:30 GMT -5 mlt said:

Good for you!!! I leave places all the time with my (very difficult) three year old. You would think other parents are sympathetic but I usually just get looks of disgust. The best was when we were at a nice brunch for a family shindig and he started throwing food and melting down. I carried him out kicking and screaming "mommy don't hurt me!!! Don't hurt me Mommy!" Um, WTF. I have never hurt you, kid! I felt all eyes on me. I about died.

Omg I would be mortified! !

[stacyb1983]

Been there too. Sometimes I want to tell other mom's that I understand and have been there, but I'm sure that would not help the situation.

[zarapipe]

Oct 18, 2014 22:18:52 GMT -5 lilac05 said:

DS1(almost 4) has been an easy kid (so far). (No worries, I'm pretty sure DS2 is right on track to make me pay for every.single bullet dodged with DS1!) I learned quickly that taking him out of a place because of poor behavior was actually rewarding. He misbehaves when he's tired of being someplace. He wasn't even 18 months old when he was being naughty in church & I had to take him out. His demeanor changed immediately upon leaving the row. He began smiling and saying "bye bye" to everyone behind us. At that point, I realized that, in his eyes, he had "won."

I won't hesitate to remove DS2 from a situation if his behavior warrants it...it just didn't work with DS1.

Damn, kids are too smart, well yours at least

[GotWine]

Oct 19, 2014 12:58:59 GMT -5 zarapipe said:

Oct 18, 2014 22:18:52 GMT -5 lilac05 said:

DS1(almost 4) has been an easy kid (so far). (No worries, I'm pretty sure DS2 is right on track to make me pay for every.single bullet dodged with DS1!) I learned quickly that taking him out of a place because of poor behavior was actually rewarding. He misbehaves when he's tired of being someplace. He wasn't even 18 months old when he was being naughty in church & I had to take him out. His demeanor changed immediately upon leaving the row. He began smiling and saying "bye bye" to everyone behind us. At that point, I realized that, in his eyes, he had "won."

I won't hesitate to remove DS2 from a situation if his behavior warrants it...it just didn't work with DS1.

Damn, kids are too smart, well yours at least

My Bff's 2 year old son does the same thing. As soon as he decides he doesn't want to be in a store anymore he starts acting up and asking his mom if she is going to take him to the car for being bad. She no longer drags him out of the store since that is what he is aiming for. It's getting harder and harder to stay one step ahead of these kids!

[leonard131]

Ughh. That does not sound fun.  Especially with the baby. You deserved a pedicure as well as a manicure!


Couple weeks ago I had to leave a full cart of stuff and carry M in a football hold kicking and screaming from literally the furthest back corner all the way through Target.  It was so bad that a couple people said things like " it gets better" and " hang in there".

There is nothing as ear piercing as listening to your kid shriek while hauling their ass  out of a store.

[qcinoct]

A couple of days before DS1's 4th birthday, he and I went to the grocery store to get all the food for his two parties (we do family separate from the kiddie party). He was a complete crank the entire shopping trip and finally had a total meltdown when we were about 2/3 of the way through. I had had enough. But, I had a shopping cart FULL of perishables. Brought the cart up to the front and asked them to put it in their walk-in fridge, that I'd be back. Brought DS home and left him with DH. I went out for a coffee before heading back to the grocery store just to cool off. Fun times.