Vent: why don't people acknowledge gifts any more?

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I really don't care about the thank you, all I care is that the person got what I'm sending them.

We had flowers sent to H's mom on Friday for her bday. Not even a peep even to say that she's received them. I had to contact the flower company today to make sure they were actually delivered and the flower company said they were.

Then a few months ago I sent some baby gifts to H's nephew from their registry. Amazon said that was delivered too and no acknowledgement that they got it.

I feel too weird and awkward asking, but geeze can't they just drop us a quick email saying they actually got it instead of leaving me wondering if I just wasted a ton of money on packages that never actually got to them?

/vent

[MrsPotatohead]

yeah, this drives me crazy and would make me stop sending gifts to people who can't acknowledge them.

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Oct 19, 2014 16:09:42 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

yeah, this drives me crazy and would make me stop sending gifts to people who can't acknowledge them.

I wish this were an option, but this seems to be the trend with H's family.

His one sister is really good about it though. She sends us videos of the kids playing with said gifts.

[MrsPotatohead]

Oct 19, 2014 16:12:46 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

Oct 19, 2014 16:09:42 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

yeah, this drives me crazy and would make me stop sending gifts to people who can't acknowledge them.

I wish this were an option, but this seems to be the trend with H's family.

His one sister is really good about it though. She sends us videos of the kids playing with said gifts.

I would have made him just call and ask and say "you know you could at least tell us you got the gift"

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Oct 19, 2014 16:16:30 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

Oct 19, 2014 16:12:46 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

I wish this were an option, but this seems to be the trend with H's family.

His one sister is really good about it though. She sends us videos of the kids playing with said gifts.

I would have made him just call and ask and say "you know you could at least tell us you got the gift"

I asked that and he was like, nah, I'm sure if the company said they delivered it then it got there.

And I was like, oh like my wedding ring?!

Maybe I'm too sensitive about mail/delivery services right now. GRRRRRRRR.

[MrsPotatohead]

Oct 19, 2014 16:19:37 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

Oct 19, 2014 16:16:30 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

I would have made him just call and ask and say "you know you could at least tell us you got the gift"

I asked that and he was like, nah, I'm sure if the company said they delivered it then it got there.

And I was like, oh like my wedding ring?!

Maybe I'm too sensitive about mail/delivery services right now. GRRRRRRRR.

LOL that's an excellent point

I mean, I wouldn't be able to keep up sending people presents like this without at least having H attempt to let them know you'd like an acknowledgement.  At least one attempt!

[dana86]

Yeah that drives me nuts. Iam far to anal to just let it go though. I need confirmation from the receiver that they did in fact get whatever was sent, so I will usually contact them after a bit to make sure if I don't here from them before hand.

[Tiff]

Not acknowledging gifts seriously pisses me off. I'm still bitter about not getting a TY card from my brother at his wedding. I think it's completely rude to not at least send a TY text/email/anything for flowers or something like that. Whenever we've sent H's mom flowers, she calls us so appreciative (she doesn't get them often), so it's a huge deal to her. If she didn't call, I'd make my H call and be sure she got them.

[mrsrumfkin]

That would make me ragey. Seriously. I have a friend I sent 2 things to, and both times I had to check to see if she'd received it. So now I don't send stuff to her. It really hurts my feelings if I go through all the trouble of searching for something and sending it, just to hear nothing about whether they got it.

[minion]

It sounds like you are a giver and there are a lot of takers in your life. Sometimes I think it's a cultural thing or whatever, but the least they could do is send a text. I feel your pain. Hugs!