Post by Pixiehollow on Oct 20, 2014 12:33:18 GMT -5
So for our tenth anniversary, DH surprised me with a trip to Disney with the kids. It's our first time and he wants to keep it a surprise from the kids. I am a semi- germaphobe. Honestly my first reaction was like "ack! He doesn't know me at all."
I don't even want to go to the mall in November -lol - why would I want to go to Disney on a plane? It's not like we are shut ins in cold/flu season- but I think of this trip and just have this pit in my stomach. I realize that we won't catch Ebola either - but with all of the hysteria over the nurse traveling etc. it just added to my general uneasiness ab flying. I know rationally that nothing like that will happen-but I would just rather stay "safe" at home.
I've been so non excited about the trip that dh sat me down and asked if I want to cancel. He bought tix through a program at work and they are final sale. We would lose about $2000 if we don't go and postpone it. He was like, I can just tell that you won't be able to relax and enjoy yourself. Due to my husband's work schedule- we have no idea when we would have another chance to travel there.
So, if you are a germaphobe or prone to anxiety - how do you "pep yourself" up. Talk yourself out of it? Deal w situations you know will make you uneasy and give you high anxiety?
Post by thebuddhagouda on Oct 20, 2014 12:36:06 GMT -5
This is not normal. Therapy sounds like it's in order. You should be able to enjoy an outing with your kids without panic, and your kids should not be shut in the house all cold/flu season.
I am in talk therapy and it has helped to some degree, but she always says that she thinks it's mild and I don't need medication.
I don't think you are being completely honest with your therapist. It isn't fair to your family to not be able to do fun outings because of YOUR issues.
I am in talk therapy and it has helped to some degree, but she always says that she thinks it's mild and I don't need medication.
Well, either she'll change her tune when you tell her you're so paralyzed by germs you will forfeit $2k and a trip with your kids. Or she won't and that will be your clue to find a new therapist.
I am not being glib. You deserve better help than the help you're currently receiving.
Post by Pixiehollow on Oct 20, 2014 12:40:02 GMT -5
What? Where did i say that my kids are shut in or don't do normal activities? In love how ML always takes something and runs with it. They are all in school/preschool and active in gymnastics, swimming, storytime, music class, Dance, soccer, basketball, Girl Scouts, and on and on. We have activities 5 days a week between the 3 of them!! My dd even had her birthday at chuck e cheese.
To me - plane travel and being at disney in cold/flu season is causing me anxiety thinking about it. I actually don't want to cancel - but I'm looking for ways to get over my anxiety:
What? Where did i say that my kids are shut in or don't do normal activities? In love how ML always takes something and runs with it. They are all in school/preschool and active in gymnastics, swimming, storytime, music class, Dance, soccer, basketball, Girl Scouts, and on and on. We have activities 5 days a week between the 3 of them!! My dd even had her birthday at chuck e cheese.
To me - plane travel and being at disney in cold/flu season is causing me anxiety thinking about it. I actually don't want to cancel - but I'm looking for ways to get over my anxiety:
You said your H knows you are feeling this way. I am assuming he knows you pretty well. So we are going off of what he sat down and said to you.
I am in talk therapy and it has helped to some degree, but she always says that she thinks it's mild and I don't need medication.
Well, either she'll change her tune when you tell her you're so paralyzed by germs you will forfeit $2k and a trip with your kids. Or she won't and that will be your clue to find a new therapist.
I am not being glib. You deserve better help than the help you're currently receiving.
Did I say that I want to cancel? My husband brought it up. I don't want to cancel.
Hey, Ms. Hostile, YOU asked for help here. You're wrapped up in this notion that you've got a mild case of germ avoidance and we're a pack of assholes bent on misinterpreting your point of view.
We're telling you as objective outsiders that being "on the verge of a panic attack" to the point where your husband "sits you down and asks if you want to cancel" because he can tell "you won't be able to relax and enjoy yourself" at the prospect of taking a plane in the month of November means that you are NOT a mere mild germophobe. And that you need better help beyond just someone on a message board saying "try emergen-C powder in your water the week before you leave."
Post by Pixiehollow on Oct 20, 2014 12:44:52 GMT -5
No I don't describe myself as a semi- germaphobe to my therapist. ]My kids are very active and we are constantly on the go. I am not fearful of going - I am just more like "ugh!" I would rather go in spring and not during cold and flu season. My husband brought up canceling. I hadn't considered that as a possibility.
No I don't describe myself as a semi- germaphobe. My kids are very active and we are constantly on the go. I am not fearful of going - I am just more like "ugh!" I would rather go in spring and not during cold and flu season. My husband brought up canceling. I hadn't considered that as a possibility.
So for our tenth anniversary, DH surprised me with a trip to Disney with the kids. It's our first time and he wants to keep it a surprise from the kids. I am a semi- germaphobe. Honestly my first reaction was like "ack! He doesn't know me at all."
I don't even want to go to the mall in November -lol - why would I want to go to Disney on a plane? It's not like we are shut ins in cold/flu season- but I think of this trip and just have this pit in my stomach. I realize that we won't catch Ebola either - but with all of the hysteria over the nurse traveling etc. it just added to my general uneasiness ab flying. I know rationally that nothing like that will happen-but I would just rather stay "safe" at home.
I've been so non excited about the trip that dh sat me down and asked if I want to cancel. He bought tix through a program at work and they are final sale. We would lose about $2000 if we don't go and postpone it. He was like, I can just tell that you won't be able to relax and enjoy yourself. Due to my husband's work schedule- we have no idea when we would have another chance to travel there.
So, if you are a germaphobe or prone to anxiety - how do you "pep yourself" up. Talk yourself out of it? Deal w situations you know will make you uneasy and give you high anxiety?