Post by waffletime on Oct 20, 2014 19:39:31 GMT -5
I'm pretty open. Also, no one here knows me or cares, so that helps. IRL, it's entirely dependent on who I'm talking to and what our relationship is. Best friend, I tell everything to. Strangers? I don't talk to strangers, lol.
Post by snipsnsnails on Oct 20, 2014 19:48:35 GMT -5
As I get older, I share less. I'm trying to find that balance where the things that I share are wise and wise to share . I think a lot of that just comes from relational experience.
Post by lostlenore on Oct 20, 2014 19:48:37 GMT -5
I'm pretty open IRL. One thing that I kept a secret for a really long time was that, off & on, I have suffered from major depression for most of my adult life. After having severe ppd, my initial instinct was to hide that too. Eventually, I changed my mind & became very open about it. I tell all pregnant friends & relatives about it & tell them to reach out to me if they think they are experiencing it. I have actually had a few people reach out to me and have been able to help them get through it. I have had so many people tell me how much they admire how open I am about it. That makes me so happy to hear, but mostly I don't want anyone else to suffer the way I did.
I'm pretty private about any issues or problems I have.
I don't air dirty laundry here or in real life. I'm not fake, but I hate talking about my problems. I'd rather my friends tell me their problems.
I wonder if this is why I don't have deeper friendships. I have a ton of friends, but none who I would call if I was crying and needed to vent. As I have gotten older I have become much more reserved with my friends.
But I'll always talk about sex.
I need therapy.
Exception - my kids baseball team, I shared that with yall. lol.
My lack of sharing here comes from not being on as much, and the possibility of running into someone I "know". Back on my local knot board I was pretty much an open book. I've gotten a bit more internet-smart about things, and if someone I know irl runs across my posts, I'd rather them not figure out its me. My SIL was on the bump boards at one point, but I don't know if she made her way over here or not.
IRL - I've become more shy as I've gotten older. I think moving back home for a bit in a small town with tons of gossip didn't help. I'm not as quick to open up with coworkers or people I meet until I feel more comfortable.
I don't share too too much. I don't want to share any issues with DH because I don't want everyone to think he's horrible.
I am dying to just spew out everything about my siblings in law. It's like Michael Jackson popcorn drama but I'm paranoid they will see it and they are legit nuts so that would not go well for me.
So mostly I ask about stretching my boots out and parenting advice for my out of control toddler.
Post by pantsparty on Oct 20, 2014 19:52:51 GMT -5
I will share most anything about me.
I'm selective with what I share about my H. This is my nature in real life. I just feel our marriage is our business. Maybe I would change my tune if we were going through a really terrible patch, I don't know.
Post by miniroller on Oct 20, 2014 19:53:07 GMT -5
This is just a curious question Que, but whom do you typically ask? My inquiry only comes b/c I go to this board to ask mundane questions &/or for those I'd rather be anonymous asking.
I generally don't share the sensitive stuff around here. IRL there are very few people who I totally value their opinion to open up too. I like keeping things private.
I'm pretty open, though I'm not around here much anymore. Irl, I am pretty reserved but have no problem sharing my feelings with people who I feel very close to.
I am pretty open, but I do not share all here due to long memories. If H is a jackass I might not share it because that one moment is not in any way a picture of who he is.
I share more my stuff and am open about things that might help others in some way.
In real life I'd like to think I was open, but I don't have any best friends and nobody to call when I'm crying or something. So I guess I am pretty closed off. I'm going through a terrible time in my life right now, but nobody knows. I did share a detail or two with a girl at work and she was totally surprised and said you could never tell things were wrong by being around me. On here I don't share much because I'm more of a lurker than a poster. Nobody knows who I am anyways.
Post by revolution on Oct 20, 2014 20:01:58 GMT -5
I don't share much at all here. I'm kind of worried about people finding me and ruining my life somehow. And I also don't think my life is that interesting to post much about.
ETA: I also don't start many threads. I don't know why. It's just easier for me to just respond to people.
Post by balletofangels on Oct 20, 2014 20:02:26 GMT -5
I'm pretty open, but I'm also quite boring. If DH pisses me off I don't tell anyone and sometimes wish I had an outlet, but believe that relationship stuff should stay private and I wouldn't want friends to think less of him.
I'm pretty open, though I'm not around here much anymore. Irl, I am pretty reserved but have no problem sharing my feelings with people who I feel very close to.
I miss you here!!
How is the new job? Is that why you aren't posting as much?
There's nothing more uncomfortable than a real-life encounter with an oversharer. and honestly, I'm so private and aloof that if you're pouring your heart out to me, I can only assume that you're out of your goddamn gourd. Like, you'd probably have the same conversation with a ham sandwich. The only thing I've found to work is a blank stare, a slow blink, and an abrupt change of subject. Any other show of emotion is often seen as encouragement.
I'm pretty open, though I'm not around here much anymore. Irl, I am pretty reserved but have no problem sharing my feelings with people who I feel very close to.
I miss you here!!
How is the new job? Is that why you aren't posting as much?
I miss it here!
Yes, the job is why. I can't get on and don't really even have much time to lurk from my phone, it's so busy. It's going great though! I really like it and I seem to be fitting in well.
IRL I only share based on a gut feeling about how trustworthy and loyal I think the person I'm sharing with is. That's why I don't share much here. I don't know who I'm sharing with.