I'll share most things. There were some aspects of my marriage I wouldn't share even when I wanted advice because I didn't want to be remembered for a shitty point in my life. Now, there are some things I won't share on the board because I know what the reaction will be and I just don't want to deal with it.
I don't share much irl or here. It's probably the main reason I don't post much here. I'm a very private person and I'm not quite sure why. I'm much more of a listener.
I don't really share too much irl. Well, unless I'm talking to my best friend. But family and stuff? No. It has always come back to bite me in the ass, so I keep my mouth shut.
I think I might share a bit too much here. I'm really trying to knock it off, but sometimes I can't help myself, lol.
The older I get, the less I want to share. I don't regret sharing my infertility struggles or pregnancy stuff but I always regret talking about my family or inlaws here.
IRL, I don't talk to many people and I don't overshare with the ones I do.
There is a certain family member who I bitch about pretty frequently (I feel like I do anyway). It wouldn't be completely impossible for her to find this place. I know for a fact she was posting on the bump a handful of times when her 1st was born, so you just never know. I always go off and start complaining, and then I have post regret. Lol.
I used to be much more of an oversharer. One of the problems that comes along with that is people here don't forget. So I know there are several people who think my H is a worthless sack of poo. I shared too many of our issues. I wasn't as vocal about the good stuff.
Eh, I'm not interested in having this argument again. If you're comfortable, fine.
But tell me this: if you're really so open, tell us your real name.
I'd pm you my real name. I trust you even if you think I'm an asshole I don't think you would hurt me irl. I don't think my professional life needs to know the details of my personal life. But in the grand scheme of the internet- someone making an effort to defame me professionally seems like a stretch. I am not a malicious person who would expect that kind of hate.
It only takes one crazy in a whole internet of crazies.
Post by birdistheword on Oct 20, 2014 20:31:27 GMT -5
I share pictures, but I don't share much about my personal life. Mostly because I don't really have anything worth sharing most of the time, and when I do have something there's that whole "ML never forgets" thing.
If I never shared pictures I think I might share more personal details, but as it is, if someone saw my picture and knew me, it would be easy for them to look at my post history and find out things I might not want them to find out.
Eh, I'm not interested in having this argument again. If you're comfortable, fine.
But tell me this: if you're really so open, tell us your real name.
I'd pm you my real name. I trust you even if you think I'm an asshole I don't think you would hurt me irl. I don't think my professional life needs to know the details of my personal life. But in the grand scheme of the internet- someone making an effort to defame me professionally seems like a stretch. I am not a malicious person who would expect that kind of hate.
I recall you not wanting to talk about work on the board the other day. When toledo asked what exactly you dislike about Obama's policies. If this is turning into an AMA, I'd love to hear your thoughts on that.
Dude, you really need to get over this. You keep saying this in different threads. No one here is going to eat you. Don't be stupid and be genuine. It's not that hard.
I don't share much because nobody knows who I am enough to care. Nobody knows who I am enough to care because I don't share much. It's a great circle. And yes, ML never forgets. I'd rather be the anonymous poster that I am, not the poster who is known for ______ issue.
Which is stupid because I lurked for like, years before I posted. Lol.
I just think you are all my friends and want to talk to me about my silly life.
And then WHAMMO 1400 page views.
But who cares who's lurking? I don't understand who the boogeyman is supposed to be.
Well this is the ham sandwich phenomenon I was referring to. We all know this is the wide open internet, but it's weird not to care at all who knows all of your business.
Post by janiejones on Oct 20, 2014 20:36:24 GMT -5
Here, I am candid about banal stuff, and some general things, but I don't share much our relationship, about MrJJ, I don't vent about him etc. I never want something I've said to be misunderstood and thrown back a me, or worse known by people IRL that we'd rather not know.
I also use to participate more in sex talk type threads but I got really skeeved out by lurkers and creepos who drop by for those threads, and again don't want to find out a CW or my neighbour happened upon something that I'd said in one of those threads. I try to only say things here I wouldn't mind just about anyone knowing.
IRL I'm reserved on personal information, but then I'll get anxious about not being friendly/open so then I'll get word vomity, which will lead to more anxiety, and then the ADHD pops up and I end up spending 3 hrs looking into the theatre background of the season 2 cast of The Shield. Then back to silent monk status.
I'm like you, oversharer (surprise!). My mom drilled it so much in meas a kid not to say this or that because of what would people think, that it made me take the opposite stance of "fuck what people think". I'm trying not to overshare as I get older because I don't want to make people uncomfortable. But I naturally have no filter when it comes to sharing my personal details, it takes a conscient effort to think "maybe I shouldn't tell this person about my poop issues". Joking about the poop. I keep that for you guys.
Everybody needs to unload sometimes, somewhere. This is pretty the only place that I am open. I have been open a couple of times recently with a rl person, but I find no one really wants to know. Usually, I'll open up if I really feel the need to.
It's just the way I was raised. Very few things were openly discussed in my family so I'm just not comfortable talking about every little thing. My life is also fairly uninteresting, so there's that too.
I used to overshare (duh. Lol) but as my kids get older I'm hoping to put some time related internet distance between me and all of the over sharing. I'd hate for them to find the gross stuff somehow.
Also, I've realized that for every verbal supportive person there are like 10 privately talking shit about you and gleefully envisioning worst case scenarios. I can't stop them, but I don't care to give them much ammo anymore.
I have a few people here that I'm pretty open with, but I still think I'm pretty reserved both on the board and irl.
I feel like I've overshared here in the past, so lately I've been trying to reign it in a little. If I feel like I can't tell someone something irl and really need to talk about here, I'll ask for advice but I might delete some info once the thread dies. I try to keep work and friend vents to myself.
I also try to limit my talk about h. Especially if I'm mad at him. I feel like its easy to view a person that is being talked about in a negative light if only their shitty qualities are ever highlighted. Selfishly, I don't want to be the poster with the dickhead H. Unselfishly, treat others how you want to be treated and all that jazz. I would be bummed if he vented about me all the time to his friends.
Basically my filter is: no/limited identifying info and don't say anything about someone that you wouldn't want them to read.