wedding ring related, is this a terrible idea?

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We're in the middle of claiming the money back for my lost wedding rings. 

I've been half heartedly looking at a replacement ring and nothing feels right to me. 

I'm considering having my grandma's diamond solitaire earrings (that she wore during her wedding and I wore during mine) reset into a new wedding ring for me, and maybe adding a 3rd stone. I figure at least it's a little sentimental that way. Right now, the earrings are just sitting in my parents safety deposit box collecting dust as it is. 

I told H this idea and he said it was a terrible one since if something happened to that ring then not only am I out another wedding ring, but also my grandma's stones. 

H is suggesting we go back to one of the places that we honeymooned (Paris, Amsterdam, Brussels, but Portugal was another idea since that place means a lot to us too) and ring shopping there. 

WWSND? 

Use my grandma's stones? Try and recreate my old ring? Get something totally different? Not get a new ring? 

[larzhope]

well, I don't agree with H... having earrings in a safety deposit box to never wear seems like a shame. So, if you would wear them more as a ring, then I absolutely would do that. If you are really concerned about losing your ring again (?) then I'd get something cheap. But, you managed to go 5 years w/o losing it, so I sort of feel like this isn't something that happens often....

[mkate710]

Oct 21, 2014 6:52:10 GMT -5 larzhope said:

well, I don't agree with H... having earrings in a safety deposit box to never wear seems like a shame. So, if you would wear them more as a ring, then I absolutely would do that. If you are really concerned about losing your ring again (?) then I'd get something cheap. But, you managed to go 5 years w/o losing it, so I sort of feel like this isn't something that happens often....

I agree w/ this. I just inherited my grandma's wedding ring and I've been wearing it on my right hand. I'd rather see it on my hand and think of her than have it stashed away in a safe or something. That said, if H offered to take me back to our honeymoon spot to go ring shopping that sounds pretty sweet too. I don't think losing a wedding ring is a common occurrence. If I'd gone through the hell you have wih this I would be hyper vigilant and super paranoid about never losing it again.

[mkate710]

Oct 21, 2014 9:48:48 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I like the idea of making the earrings into a ring - but I'm not dealin with a loss of a sentimental ring currently so that might sway me (wildly).

Big, big hugs. My other grandma's ring was stolen from the scene of the accident that took her life, and our whole family was devastated. It's such an important sentimental item and its hard to not be upset if it's lost.

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Oct 21, 2014 9:55:29 GMT -5 mkate710 said:

Oct 21, 2014 9:48:48 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I like the idea of making the earrings into a ring - but I'm not dealin with a loss of a sentimental ring currently so that might sway me (wildly).

Big, big hugs. My other grandma's ring was stolen from the scene of the accident that took her life, and our whole family was devastated. It's such an important sentimental item and its hard to not be upset if it's lost.

What kind of terrible human being does that? There's a special place in hell for people like that. 

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I'd be paranoid of losing it and then not only losing my ring BUT my grandma's earrings. But I'm an overcautious Capricorn who always bets on the side of pessimism.

I'm so crushed for you. God, I can't believe even after insuring the bastards LOST your ring! VIA COURIER!!! It's not like it was just thrown in the damn post!

mkate710 W.T.F. SERIOUSLY. I hope your grandma's spirit cursed that person, I sure as hell would be!!!

[dana86]

I say do both. I would go back to one of your honeymoon spots and get something a little simpler, like a band with some diamonds or something but then start researching people back in Washington that do custom pieces and start talking to them about the situation and when you come back either get the process started and maybe have your parents pick it up if its not done in time before you leave. But maybe have them hold onto it until you go back to visit again or until they come to see you maybe, so there is no unknown in between person handling it? But then in the mean time you will have the band as a lovely reminder of something special and you won't have a naked finger.

[mrslefty]

Oct 21, 2014 13:05:57 GMT -5 dana86 said:

I say do both. I would go back to one of your honeymoon spots and get something a little simpler, like a band with some diamonds or something but then start researching people back in Washington that do custom pieces and start talking to them about the situation and when you come back either get the process started and maybe have your parents pick it up if its not done in time before you leave. But maybe have them hold onto it until you go back to visit again or until they come to see you maybe, so there is no unknown in between person handling it? But then in the mean time you will have the band as a lovely reminder of something special and you won't have a naked finger.

Ditto.  Get all the jewelry! 

[madDawg228]

From my creepy internet "friend" memory I remember you having a simple wedding band. How big are the stones of your grandma's band? From what I "know" about you, I think it would be best to stay in a less than 1/4 caret stone arrangement, unless you've secretly wanted something bigger.

If you want something super Special Snowflake, please go through Green Lake Jewelry. They are local, and you can work through them online to get exactly what you want.  And you can do stuff in person, if you so feel the need to visit us GBCN folk

[fiddles]

Oct 22, 2014 22:10:28 GMT -5 kooshball said:

I have one you can have.... is that bad juju though?

Haha this made me snort laugh

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[tacocat]

mkate710 that is horrible


I would be nervous to lose it, but you are probably more responsible than I am. I am also against important stuff sitting in a safe though too.

I would ask myself what I am more likely to lose.

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Oct 22, 2014 22:10:28 GMT -5 kooshball said:

I have one you can have.... is that bad juju though?

Are you proposing to me?

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Oct 22, 2014 21:58:56 GMT -5 madDawg228 said:

From my creepy internet "friend" memory I remember you having a simple wedding band. How big are the stones of your grandma's band? From what I "know" about you, I think it would be best to stay in a less than 1/4 caret stone arrangement, unless you've secretly wanted something bigger.

If you want something super Special Snowflake, please go through Green Lake Jewelry. They are local, and you can work through them online to get exactly what you want.  And you can do stuff in person, if you so feel the need to visit us GBCN folk

You do have a good memory, skin suiter.
My ring was really simple before, but I keep going back and forth between keeping it simple or doing something completely different. H is no help, his answer was, I've already stressed out about this once, so you make a decision. Thanks h.

This would be a whole lot easier if I were coming home for Christmas.

[toratoratori]

I'm Team Grandma's Stones. Go for it.