Kill me. Kill me until I am dead.UPDATE in OP

[meggers5]

I've been emailing some officiants for cost and availability. I heard back from one woman who seems lovely. The price is $450 which seems to be standard but it seems like a lot still. So I emailed the following to FI:

"I heard back from another officiant. $450 as well. Yikes. Maybe we can just officiate ourselves lol.

On the bright side, I did find a cake place I really like."

I was wondering why he hadn't answered my email yet so I double checked I had sent it.

Guys, I sent that email to the officiant. I want to die of embarrassment. I sent her another explaining that the email was obviously meant for FI and that I know that the price is standard and the officiating ourselves is just a joke between us.


I may have to call off the wedding.

She replied:

"LOL no worries!




What are you looking for ceremony wise? $450 is for a personalized custom written ceremony. Do you have a specific budget? Let me know and perhaps I can help :-)"

I guess I don't have to die today.

[Deleted]

LOL. Now at least she will have a funny personal anecdote to share at the wedding.

[sparkythelawyer]

Meh. Now she knows that people are blanching at the costs? :-)

[Deleted]

Oh. Oh no.

[zoomzoom]

Did the officiant respond?

[jlt19]

Yikes! I'd probably block her email because I'd be too anxious to see her response. But I'm a chicken shit like that.

[miniroller]

Oct 21, 2014 9:15:56 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

Did the officiant respond?

Yes, you must update!! Penance for making us cringe (wrinkles)

[meggers5]

I will definitely update if she responds.

I am SO embarrassed.

[hbear]

Oh my.

I really wish there was a way to unsend emails. I'd be mortified. Sounds like you handled it well though!

[everyjuan]

OMG! Hahahaha oh man, I'm sorry.

I can't wait to see if she responds. lol

[calle28]

Oct 21, 2014 9:24:08 GMT -5 hbear said:

Oh my.

I really wish there was a way to unsend emails. I'd be mortified. Sounds like you handled it well though!

Whoever can invent this and a way to unsend text messages should win The Noble Peace Prize.

[hereigo]

ACK!!

[papie]

Lol I love you!

[Waffles]

Lol. It could have been worse

[zoomzoom]

Oct 21, 2014 9:37:53 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

Oct 21, 2014 9:17:52 GMT -5 Les Paul said:

Oops. Time to move to Colorado - you can self-solomnize and have anyone officiate the ceremony of your choice.

Holy shit, I read that as something COMPLETELY different.

Legit LOL.

And I agree - a way to unsend emails would be divine.

[jlt19]

Oct 21, 2014 9:30:35 GMT -5 calle28 said:

Oct 21, 2014 9:24:08 GMT -5 hbear said:

Oh my.

I really wish there was a way to unsend emails. I'd be mortified. Sounds like you handled it well though!

Whoever can invent this and a way to unsend text messages should win The Noble Peace Prize.

Oh, there is that option on Outlook, but it sends the person an email saying "this person would like to retract the email they just sent you, do you accept?" I'm sure no one in the history of ever has accepted.

[fuckyourcouch]

There is a gmail extension that gives you a few seconds to unsend an email.

[sessy]

haha oops. I will say though that $450 is high. I'm a pastor and my fee for a wedding is $350 in a super high cost of living area. (No idea where you live but if it's in the bay area I can do it cheaper)

[amberlyrose]

Oct 21, 2014 9:44:22 GMT -5 Les Paul said:

LOL.

No, we can just sign the papers and be married on the spot. You can have an officiant (licensed to perform marriages) if you want to, or not. Lots of people just do the paperwork and then have a friend/relative/whoever do a 'non-official' ceremony.

We did this.
My paperwork has no officiant and location is at DIA. lol.

[janegold]

Lol! On the bright side, it could have been MUCH worse!

[cheeseandcrackers]

450 for an officiant?? That's outrageous. Ha. I don't think the email is THAT bad.

[8675309]

I have a funny or not so funny story to share from my wedding planner days. I had a bride accidentally send me an email in which she attached my contract and took a digit off my prices so that her husband would ok it.

"Hey Babe,
I found the perfect planner for us. Not only will she do XYZ, but she's less expensive than "another planner." Then she like LITERALLY changed my PDF contract rate to show that I was cheaper.

Pre marital deceit ya'll!

[BaliHai]

I'm sorry. I'm sure I've told this story before, but I almost called off my wedding over an embarrassing moment with my wedding coordinator.

H and I had received our reception venue's menu in the mail, and we had been jokingly calling the hors d'oeuvres "hoors devoors" while we were going over everything. WELL I called the WC to give her our choices, and I said "And for our hoors devoors we'd like blah blah.........................." long, long silence. And then a quick and quiet "thanks", and I hung up. The next time I spoke with her I was sure to say hors d'oeuvres several times, correctly, which I am sure she saw right through. I still burn with embarrassment every time I think/talk about it.

[Deleted]

good update

[fuckyourcouch]

That's a great update! Glad she had a sense of humor about it

[iamgrace]

I bitched about my wedding coordinator in an email to my H, but sent it to the coordinator. Oooooops.

[msmerymac]

Oct 21, 2014 9:44:22 GMT -5 Les Paul said:

LOL.

No, we can just sign the papers and be married on the spot. You can have an officiant (licensed to perform marriages) if you want to, or not. Lots of people just do the paperwork and then have a friend/relative/whoever do a 'non-official' ceremony.

My friend is baha'i and they always self-solemnize marriages, traditionally. I think PA allows it in certain areas. My friend was married in AZ, so I assume they had a "real" officiant just sign the license for them.