How would you feel about a wedding where guests are required to turn in all their electronic devices prior to entering the ceremony location and only have their stuff returned to them when they leave the reception?
Options: I'd think nothing of it and surrender my devices. I'd be annoyed but would comply I'd refuse to comply and/or lie about not having any I wouldn't attend Other - Please Explain
An acquaintance of mine is apparently considering this.
Omfg, out of the question. I'd happily comply with no photos and no social media posts but like hell am I handing something in.
Eta: also, we have a 1 year old child and I'd like to be accessible in case of an emergency (even a non emergency - I usually call my parents just to check in if I'm at an all day event and they're babysitting)
Post by pantsparty on Oct 21, 2014 10:29:32 GMT -5
I don't care about taking photos of YOUR wedding (like my crappy cell picture is going to be that good), but unless you're someone famous or a Secret Service member, I am not GIVING you my phone.
It's a reasonable expectation for people to turn their devices off during the ceremony but not to hand them in and it's not reasonable for people to not be able to access them during the reception.
Are they celebrities? Planning to sell their wedding photos?
I would be really uncomfortable giving up my phone, when I would (presumably) be leaving my kids with a babysitter during the wedding. I would want them to be able to reach me.
I would lie. I have two kiddos who would presumably be with a babysitter who needs to be able to get ahold of me if something happens. I would put it on silent, though.
Is your friend a celebrity who doesn't want their picture sold to a tabloid? I don't get it really. Also, if I had kids I would want to be available do my babysitter could reach me in case of emergency. Hell, I don't have kids and I still want to be reachable.
Post by jeaniebueller on Oct 21, 2014 10:33:47 GMT -5
Another whose immediate thought is, if my kids are with a sitter, I need to have my phone on me. I think a simple request in the program, or stated at the beginning of the ceremony to refrain from taking photos would do what they are trying to accomplish without alienating their guests.
I don't care about taking photos of YOUR wedding (like my crappy cell picture is going to be that good), but unless you're someone famous or a Secret Service member, I am not GIVING you my phone.
This was my thought - is this person famous or a high ranking government official or something? That's the only reason I could see actually turning in my phone.
Post by CajunShrimp on Oct 21, 2014 10:37:52 GMT -5
I would be happy to have them on silent/no pics to social media, etc. but I am not turning my phone in. My 3 year old would be with a sitter, and I need a way to respond to quick questions and check in via text. Also, my H's job has him on call 24/7 in case of major emergencies, so he would not be able to attend.
I get it that they don't want people to watch their wedding through the lens of their phone. People really DO this these days. It's not about being in the moment- it's about capturing the moment in hundreds of pictures or on video.
But that being said - as others have mentioned, put a comment on the program about asking everyone to not take a ton of pics or post online. That's fine. But to ask people to hand over their phone? No. Nope. Nope. No.
Post by wildfloweragain on Oct 21, 2014 10:38:48 GMT -5
I'd be upset if I was not told ahead of time. I would not be turning it in.
If I was told ahead of time, I'd leave it in the car provided the location had a phone number for MIL to call in case of emergency. And I would not be upset. If they want it unplugged and I'm close enough to go to their wedding, they can have an unplugged wedding.
Her reasoning was that it would prevent disruptions during the ceremony and keep people from being distracted/unengaged during the reception. She seemed a bit surprised when her FI thought it was a terrible idea.
Her reasoning was that it would prevent disruptions during the ceremony and keep people from being distracted/unengaged during the reception. She seemed a bit surprised when her FI thought it was a terrible idea.
I can absolutely see doing it during the ceremony. The reception... meh.
As a photographer, I would appreciate this. I don't shoot weddings but I know it's a big gripe for other photographers who have folks run in front of them with their smart phone to grab a picture and often times making them miss a sweet moment. As a parent I see it differently. I would turn my phone on silent and only use it if absolutely necessary.
Post by VeryViolet on Oct 21, 2014 10:48:51 GMT -5
I selected other. If George and Amal had invited me to their Venetian extravaganza I would have happily thrown my phone in the Grand Canal. If you are a friend or family member I am going to think you are a douche and not give my phone to anyone.