I don't even know about whatever kind of Greatest Generation youth shaming is happening in here, but if you think I'm gonna drop my $600 phone in a communal bucket around my thieving, untrustworthy family, you are nuts
I formally apologize for to all those who feel shamed by my responses.
This is how an apology works. Just for future use, like when you really mean it and aren't just being sarcastic.
Well I guess realistically I was being sarcastic. I think there is an assload of over sensitivity up in here about my opinion. I just can't fathom that anyone in this thread really felt truly shamed by my opinion. Did anyone really? Like it really made them feel bad?
ETA I'd comply by not bringing my phone in but I would not leave it with anyone.
This is how an apology works. Just for future use, like when you really mean it and aren't just being sarcastic.
Well I guess realistically I was being sarcastic. I think there is an assload of over sensitivity up in here about my opinion. I just can't fathom that anyone in this thread really felt truly shamed by my opinion. Did anyone really? Like it really made them feel bad?
Huh. I made an NFL PR joke earlier, but with your additional responses your seeming more and more suited for the position.
This is how an apology works. Just for future use, like when you really mean it and aren't just being sarcastic.
Well I guess realistically I was being sarcastic. I think there is an assload of over sensitivity up in here about my opinion. I just can't fathom that anyone in this thread really felt truly shamed by my opinion. Did anyone really? Like it really made them feel bad?
Well, I think the point is that you can't really know that, so maybe think about just charging in to a post being all, "this generation and their overprotectiveness - sheesh!"
Parenting: People probably do it differently than you.
What are they going to do, have a big box of 200 phones and then at the end of the night after boozing it up you have to go through it to find your phone? When 70% of phones are iPhones and look alike. Haha. Brilliant idea... What if someone drops the box? yikes
but if you think I'm gonna drop my $600 phone in a communal bucket around my thieving, untrustworthy family
so MLers are going to be there?
I was cornered twice this weekend to discuss the Polish tradition of removing the bride's veil and having her put on an APRON. to signify that going from a bride to a housewife. and my buscia still has her APRON for me to wear. so, I'm going to need someone from ML there to document this for everyone. using their cell phone, natch.
I was cornered twice this weekend to discuss the Polish tradition of removing the bride's veil and having her put on an APRON. to signify that going from a bride to a housewife. and my buscia still has her APRON for me to wear. so, I'm going to need someone from ML there to document this for everyone. using their cell phone, natch.
There aren't enough WTF gifs to express my reaction to this right now.
Post by DotAndBuzz on Oct 21, 2014 13:13:15 GMT -5
turn it in? LOFLno. Kids, babysitter, shadiness of other people: all of those would cause me to lie in the face of anyone who asked if I turned in my phone.
However, I would have no problem and throw no shade at the request to not take any pictures during the ceremony. Maybe even the reception. People get stupid, and completely oblivious, with phones and social media. Hell, I had a reminder for people to silence their phones at my wedding 10 years ago (pre-picture phone era). SorryNotSorry.
I was cornered twice this weekend to discuss the Polish tradition of removing the bride's veil and having her put on an APRON. to signify that going from a bride to a housewife. and my buscia still has her APRON for me to wear. so, I'm going to need someone from ML there to document this for everyone. using their cell phone, natch.
I legit made my aunt cry for refusing to wear an apron while doing the dollar dance at my wedding. I said no to both, and she was like, "but, all of the women in our family have worn this apron," while she held it up to me and cried. I am clearly heartless.
Well I guess realistically I was being sarcastic. I think there is an assload of over sensitivity up in here about my opinion. I just can't fathom that anyone in this thread really felt truly shamed by my opinion. Did anyone really? Like it really made them feel bad?
ETA I'd comply by not bringing my phone in but I would not leave it with anyone.
I didn't say I felt bad.
I said you were trying to make people feel bad by not being as good an unplugged parent as you.
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I thought it was the plugged in parent that was the good parent. Maybe I should feel shamed!
I would do it and wouldn't necessarily be annoyed because I don't mind going without my phone, but I'd think it's fucking weird and that these people are out of touch with reality.
I'm all in to being unplugged, but don't be that person and treat people like children.
I thought it was the plugged in parent that was the good parent. Maybe I should feel shamed!
Go ahead.
You really have a thing for me. I can't remember what I did or why you always show up to be weird towards me but you can definitely hold a grudge. Congrats!
If I knew about it I just wouldn't take my phone with me. Every single person on my FB that has gone to a wedding in the last couple of years has posted photos before the couple and it pisses me the hell off. My guess is if you asked people to not take pictures and post there would still be a few people who would.
Why does that piss you off?
I don't think I took any photos myself at our wedding, therefore I didn't post any pics of our wedding until we got our professional pics back months later and I posted a few of those.
I liked going on to Facebook a few days after my wedding to see what pictures my friends posted during the event. I thought that was half the point of Facebook...take pics and share for your friends to see!
If I knew about it I just wouldn't take my phone with me. Every single person on my FB that has gone to a wedding in the last couple of years has posted photos before the couple and it pisses me the hell off. My guess is if you asked people to not take pictures and post there would still be a few people who would.
Why does that piss you off?
I don't think I took any photos myself at our wedding, therefore I didn't post any pics of our wedding until we got our professional pics back months later and I posted a few of those.
I liked going on to Facebook a few days after my wedding to see what pictures my friends posted during the event. I thought that was half the point of Facebook...take pics and share for your friends to see!
I don't get this either. I'd think the bride and groom would be happy people are AWing how fun/great/beautiful their wedding was.
I was cornered twice this weekend to discuss the Polish tradition of removing the bride's veil and having her put on an APRON. to signify that going from a bride to a housewife. and my buscia still has her APRON for me to wear. so, I'm going to need someone from ML there to document this for everyone. using their cell phone, natch.
I am so glad that the only cultural tradition I had to uphold was putting almonds wrapped in tulle at every place setting.
I don't think I took any photos myself at our wedding, therefore I didn't post any pics of our wedding until we got our professional pics back months later and I posted a few of those.
I liked going on to Facebook a few days after my wedding to see what pictures my friends posted during the event. I thought that was half the point of Facebook...take pics and share for your friends to see!
Unless the couple requests it (or makes a # or IG account like the wedding I went to last month) guests SHOULD NOT take it upon themselves to post the first pics from someone else's wedding.
It is not 'your thing' to share. And not everyone wants their wedding on social media while it's happening, or before THEY have the chance to share it. Also, the point of attending a wedding is to be present at an important event in your friends/family members life. If you are busy snapping pics and sharing them all over social media, you aren't present or engaging in the actual event.
Ok the bolded is kind of extreme. I wasn't talking about taking 5 million pics and then posting them all right then with your head buried in your phone.
I'm not a huge Facebook poster, but I'm talking at the end of the night or the next morning if someone has posted a pic from the event of them with the bride saying "congrats Sally!" or whatever.
I honestly didn't know that it was frowned upon to post pictures of weddings. A lot of people go on their honeymoon right away so aren't even on Facebook for a week plus after their wedding, so I didn't know that it was frowned upon to post anything about the event.
You really have a thing for me. I can't remember what I did or why you always show up to be weird towards me but you can definitely hold a grudge. Congrats!
This is where you insult me more....
LMAO.
I can't remember "what you did" either. And I don't "show up." I'm just......here.
When people accuse me of holding a grudge, it's funny that I can never remember their prior posts. Isn't it far more likely that you just consistently say stupid shit?
I wouldn't hand in my phone at all. How many Iphones and smartphones look alike? Think of the clusterfuck of people trying to find "their " phone before getting out of the church. That would be more annoying to me.
You would think as adults, and being invited to a wedding, that manners and compliance to a few minutes away from your phone ( I mean leaving it on vibrate or silent) wouldn't be such a big deal.
I honestly didn't know that it was frowned upon to post pictures of weddings. A lot of people go on their honeymoon right away so aren't even on Facebook for a week plus after their wedding, so I didn't know that it was frowned upon to post anything about the event.
I think this needs a poll... I can understand while the event is going on that the bride and groom may not want stuff being posted. For whatever reason(s). But the next day or a week later? Do people really think that NO ONE is going to post ANYTHING about this (supposedly) really fun, awesome wedding they were just at?
I got married 12 years ago so it wasn't an issue, but putting myself in this position - I actually do think I'd be bummed if the next day I looked at FB and not single person posted anything about my wedding!
I wanted to come back in here to say I was in a wedding last weekend and left my phone in my purse in a locked room when we went in to the ceremony. Almost no one else did, including bridesmaids. People were taking selfies and having loud sidebar conversations during the ceremony. Granted, it was almost 2 hours long so I get being distracted but I was honestly really surprised. I don't think I've ever been to a wedding like that before.
Um, if I had to sit through a 2 hour ceremony, I think phones might not be the only problem. Bathroom breaks, water, people getting restless. I hope that people had some warning about how long the ceremony was going to be.
I wanted to come back in here to say I was in a wedding last weekend and left my phone in my purse in a locked room when we went in to the ceremony. Almost no one else did, including bridesmaids. People were taking selfies and having loud sidebar conversations during the ceremony. Granted, it was almost 2 hours long so I get being distracted but I was honestly really surprised. I don't think I've ever been to a wedding like that before.
Um, if I had to sit through a 2 hour ceremony, I think phones might not be the only problem. Bathroom breaks, water, people getting restless. I hope that people had some warning about how long the ceremony was going to be.
No one else seemed at all surprised. They served snacks! It wasn't my religion though so I was unprepared.