I agree with Brie that daycare has a learning curve. It's up to you to be your kids advocate. 6 oz bottles for a 3 month old is way too much. You need to talk to the director about that and the nurse/sick procedures ASAP. I feel your frustration - just know that it will very likely get better once you voice your concerns.
Thanks cricketwife. I'm frustrated about the situation now, but what I'm truly worried about is what is going to happen when I go back to work full time in January. Faculty at my institution don't get PTO, and anyway it's frowned upon to cancel a quarter of the term's class meetings.
I feel your pain. Fortunately my in person classes are two days a week, but I've already had to cancel. I can use my mom as back- up care but she lives an hour and a half from me and an hour from campus, so it's not the best situation. Ditto everyone who said to look for some backup options. I also make sure to have projects for my classes in case I can't make it. For example, I cancelled class last week but made them hand something in for the missed class as if they had an in class assignment. I think you teach bench sciences, so it may not be as easy but I'm sure you can come up with something!
Post by curbsideprophet on Oct 21, 2014 19:42:31 GMT -5
Given his age, I am not surprised they called about the temp. I can certainly see wanting to take a rectal temp to get a more accurate idea of what was going on. A fever in a baby 2 months or less is pretty much a trip straight to the ER. I also don't think they can really say "oh, it is just shots". They don't really know that.
I would be frustrated with the bottle situation. 6 oz sounds like a crazy amount to me.
As for the blue extremities/etc, I can understand why they called. However if he was acting normal after the fact I am not sure you really needed to pick him up.
Has your back up plan changed? If you really do not have a good back up option, I would consider looking into other options. Not sure if center care is the best fit.
The bottles would bother me, but not the temp...that is pretty close to problematic for a 2 mo old and I think is a you should call your pedi temp. The blue hands/gasp doesn't bother me at all - your pedi's reaction bothers me more. Blue/cold hands are not uncommon, but any blue around the mouth and gasping for breath is not. I wish someone had taken our concerns with DS seriously much sooner - he spent about 2 years with moderate sleep apnea becuase they didn't and we didn't push hard enough. Reflux does happen, but in a healthy 2 mo old, shouldn't (I don't think) be causing apnea, especially when lying somewhat upright and supported. Especially since you haven't seen it before and it was quite a bit after eating, I think your pedis explanation is suspect.
I am all too well aware reflux can cause apnea, especially in preemies - it kept my kid in the hospital for an extra 8 days. To be more specfic, I think it is odd if her pedi thinks reflux may be causing apnea and is only saying pace his bottles. At least we were informed that that was typically outgrown by Especially since he is already 2 months old and she hasn't seen signs of reflux before. Everyone I know who had kids with significant reflux knew about it much sooner.
At any rate, blue face aside (I stand corrected on the re-read), I don't think it is weird at all that they called the OP concerned that her kid took a deep breath when picked up. That isn't normal and should be checked out. Unfortunately since no one but the teacher was there, no one really knows what he looked like and how deeply he breathed/gasped. I would rather know and look into it than have them blow it off and have it be an issue. And if I were the daycare, I wouldn't want the liability of having questioned an issue and not informed/had it checked out.
Sorry OP. I would definitely look into other back up options. Maybe the winter will be totally fine and you won't need them, but many kids do get sick their first winter. Better to have a plan if it is hard to work around.
Oh, I totally agree that it was a legitimate call. I just didn't want poor RBP to worry that her pedi was a crackpot. I will say that I have a nephew with reflux who was a silent refluxer until somewhere between 3 and 4 months of age. They had no clue there were issues until then.
I would lose my mind in your shoes. Lose. My. Mind. Starting at the "we'll just feed him MORE!" philosophy and ending at "well, it's ALMOST a fever!".
If you've got no other options, well, you've got no other options... but I wouldn't stay there one day longer than absolutely necessary. If you can afford a nanny, that would be a thousand times better.
um, some people I know would count the ratio of babies to daycare staff on days you are being called to pick him up for reasons like this. you know, just to do a spot check, not that these um friends think they'd call a parent to take their kid just to make sure they don't break code. or so I've heard.
I feel like a Debbie Downer in this thread. It's really, really tough to navigate the return to work waters, and you're doing a great job. Know that you will eventually figure it out and it will get better. My H is in a similarly inflexible job and it really sucks when all the emergencies fall on one person.
Also, FTR, I think my kid was way more sick than average. He inherited my shitty immune system probably. I am still bitter about those alleged BF antibodies that were supposed to make him bulletproof. Hopefully M will be a healthier kid.
um, some people I know would count the ratio of babies to daycare staff on days you are being called to pick him up for reasons like this. you know, just to do a spot check, not that these um friends think they'd call a parent to take their kid just to make sure they don't break code. or so I've heard.
STOP LOOKING AT ME GUYS!
They have three teachers in a room of eight babies, and the state-mandated ratio is 1:4. Sometimes one of the teachers is away, but there are never more than eight babies and I've seen 2-3 teachers in the room every time I've been there.
ETA: Looks like the state-mandated ratio is actually 1:6??
And I'm pretty sure the frustration is something I'm doing wrong. This is one of the most sought after programs in our part of town. The only reason we got a spot off the ten million year wait list is because we're sharing it with another family.
Sorry, I have one more thought for you....I would expect the next call you will get is b/c he has loose stools or diarrhea. As I mentioned upthread, my providers didn't have a lot of experience with EBF babies so they kept telling me they had diarrhea. Um no, just breastmilk poos. Be prepared!
Oh they've already told me that. I was like "that's just how his poop looks."
Sorry, I have one more thought for you....I would expect the next call you will get is b/c he has loose stools or diarrhea. As I mentioned upthread, my providers didn't have a lot of experience with EBF babies so they kept telling me they had diarrhea. Um no, just breastmilk poos. Be prepared!
Oh they've already told me that. I was like "that's just how his poop looks."
Okay, that is some nonsense. My FF baby constantly has loose stools and my in home DCP hasn't even batted an eye. I think some of these things are a function of being at a daycare center and that must be frustrating, especially since you said that the center you are at is sought after. They need to leave you alone about every damn thing.