Let me start this off by saying I don't know the person who the shower is for, I am not part of the church or group throwing said shower, and I'm not going.
My next door neighbor is a very nice lady, in her late 30s, and VERY religious. She has a friend, also in her late 30s, who got accidentally pregnant. The woman barely has a job, has no family support, and is barely getting by on her own. She wanted to get an abortion and apparently my neighbor and the prolife group at her church talked this lady into keeping the baby. Yesterday neighbor drops off an invitation for a "pro life baby shower" (that's what the invite actually says) with a list of things this woman will need for her baby. I'm kind of wtf about the whole thing, so just wondering what ML thinks.
I am horrified. That poor woman, they guilted her into having a baby. It's nice and all to buy her baby stuff, but that won't help when her baby is sick for a week and she can't go to work and loses her job. Or when she is up all night alone for days at a time and goes to work like a zombie. Wtf is wrong with people.
Post by Booze Raccoon on Oct 22, 2014 7:27:11 GMT -5
Fuck all of them. Especially for you getting invited to a shower for a woman you don't even know. I'm all for helping out someone in need but this is ridiculous.
Holy shit, that's disgusting. How terrible for the pregnant woman. I hope she has access to other resources to help her with her decision and people (friends, support group, whatever) to help support her whether she decides to parent or not. Ugh.
This stuff pisses me off. The pro-life group here on campus "adopted" a baby and was throwing a shower. I asked the same question to my co-worker (who agrees with me), if they are going to stay in that baby's life for the next 18 years.
And WTF is this lady going around telling people that she was going to get an abortion? That is no one's business!
Post by compassrose on Oct 22, 2014 7:38:55 GMT -5
All of those pro-life women better also be voting to maintain WIC, welfare, Head Start, and every other social program that poor families rely on.
I feel so much for that woman-- what an awful decision to have to make, especially if you did want the baby, but knew you couldn't support it. And then to be guilted by these pro-life ladies. They better be there at that kid's HS graduation, handing out money for college textbooks.
Well, this is more productive than protesting at the local PP I suppose.
I am totally appalled though. I tend to be a pragmatist and I suppose the damage is done here. If you feel called to help the woman, send a card with cash or offer to help if you have any knowledge/skills that would help her find a better job.
I would also consider politely telling the neighbor that you are already supporting women's charities to your maximum ability and leave it at that.
I am so sad for that woman and horrified by the situation. I am having trouble formulating much more of a response because of the rage clouding my thoughts.
They're disgusting. Yes, at least they put their money where their mouths are in the sense that they're throwing a shower so she'll have some baby stuff, but a pack of diapers and a crib isn't going to prepare that woman for parenthood or, you know, feed and clothe the child until he is 18.
And to glorify their "success" by titling the baby shower a "pro life" shower? It's not about you, you self-centered troglodytes. Revolting.
Hold on, does the invitation tell everyone she got accidentally pregnant but they convinced her to do otherwise? I have so many questions.
The invitation doesn't say she got accidentally pregnant, I believe it says something like "So and So chose life" or some crap like that. I only know her story because a few months ago neighbor told my MIL (who also lives on my street) that she was trying to convivce this woman to keep her child and wanted to know if MIL would bring my DD around to show her how amazing kids are. I was appalled then by the whole thing and also told MIL that there was no way in hell she was bringing my DD to "show off."
Hold on, does the invitation tell everyone she got accidentally pregnant but they convinced her to do otherwise? I have so many questions.
The invitation doesn't say she got accidentally pregnant, I believe it says something like "So and So chose life" or some crap like that. I only know her story because a few months ago neighbor told my MIL (who also lives on my street) that she was trying to convivce this woman to keep her child and wanted to know if MIL would bring my DD around to show her how amazing kids are. I was appalled then by the whole thing and also told MIL that there was no way in hell she was bringing my DD to "show off."
Post by underwaterrhymes on Oct 22, 2014 7:53:18 GMT -5
That's fucking awful.
Those self-righteous bitches are probably patting themselves on the backs right now and that poor woman is going to struggle to provide for herself and her baby long after they've given her a box of diapers and a receiving blanket.
WTF? Y'all know I'm prolife, but I'm not pro humiliation. You don't call out someone's private issues like that. And you don't guilt them into keeping a baby. There is another option here of adoption as well. The baby doesn't have to die and her life isn't ruined