I'm with you! The first time an adult dissed a gift I bought for them would most likely be the last time I bought a gift for them. I'll give the kids a bit of wiggle room, because they can still be taught proper manners.
As far as the OP buying a gift for the friend's LO, I'd hold off on the tutu and sparkly stuff until the kiddo is old enough to appreciate them. That way, once the gift is seen by the LO, there's no way the mom is going to get away with getting rid of it. And don't forget the toys that make noise/music!
My rude story. My childhood best friend had a baby a couple of years ago. She chose a name well before the shower and broadcast it to everyone. One of the shower guests gave her a beautiful handmade blanket that had her daughter's chosen name on it in the form of a monogram. When my friend opened it, she exclaimed, "Oh no! We changed the spelling of the middle name, and now this isn't right! We can never use this blanket now!!"
I was MORTIFIED on her behalf. 1. It was totally unnecessary to say in the first place. 2. Um, yes. I think you can still use a blanket that has an incorrect monogram on it.
She then went on to open lots more monogrammed presents and continued to comment about how they were all wrong and unusable. It was terrible.
Very rude. My DH's cousin is attending Columbia. So for Christmas one year DS1 received a Columbia onesie. The chances of DS1 actually attending a crazy expensive school 10 states away is beyond slim, but he still wore the shirt. Made him look smart.
My rude story. My childhood best friend had a baby a couple of years ago. She chose a name well before the shower and broadcast it to everyone. One of the shower guests gave her a beautiful handmade blanket that had her daughter's chosen name on it in the form of a monogram. When my friend opened it, she exclaimed, "Oh no! We changed the spelling of the middle name, and now this isn't right! We can never use this blanket now!!"
I was MORTIFIED on her behalf. 1. It was totally unnecessary to say in the first place. 2. Um, yes. I think you can still use a blanket that has an incorrect monogram on it.
She then went on to open lots more monogrammed presents and continued to comment about how they were all wrong and unusable. It was terrible.