I am tired of people telling me I "have" to have a second child. I am almost 38 and DH is nearing 43, we aren't young. And I had 2 previous pregnancies ending in a missed miscarriage and an ectopic followed by a year of infertility. Yes, I realize it might be easier this next time, but it may not be and I don't have time on my side. And it's tough to just say we will try for a couple months then stop if nothing happens. I wish people would just not push the subject when I answer them. Making me feel guilty about not giving my child a sibling is cruel.
Plus several of my friends are pregnant with #2 and its making me a little sad about not having a second. But I feel 92% sure being one and done is right for us.
Also, sorry to everyone having a shitty day, night and/or week.
I am over being pregnant. Last time around it didn't bother me, I'm done. I am having a ton of contractions all the time. It's annoying and painful! Why can't labor just start already?!
Plus I actually know have childcare for my son. My mom is only here for a limited time. I need her here with two kids as long as possible.
I've had three cups of raspberry tea and sex tonight. Tomorrow I have my Drs appt and I'm hoping for good news. I think I'm also paranoid that I'll never go into labor since I didn't with DS. I wasn't even dilated a cm when I was induced. As of last week, I was already 4cm.
Have you tried evening primrose oil? Insert a gel cap vaginally. I did this a day or two before my water broke with DD. Supposedly it can help to induce labor.
No, but I'll pick some up tomorrow. Where can I get it? Drugstore?
I had a crappy day at work, spent 3.5 hours in the car this afternoon which turned into a gigantic waste of time, and DD was exposed to HFM this morning, so I feel like she is a ticking time bomb at this point. (And she was probably exposed before today, too.)
And I have an OB appointment tomorrow, and I would feel like a jerk bringing a germy possibly contagious toddler there, but I also have no one else to leave her with. Her sitter's family is out due to the HFM, all my friends have toddlers, and my SIL is currently getting radiation for breast cancer and MIL is totally run ragged from helping her so the last thing either of them need is to get sick.
And, I finished reading The Fault in Our Stars for book club and cried through the last 40%. It is a cheesy teenage book and :::::::::::::spoilers ahead::::::::::::::::::: I just kept crying and crying about how the mom said she wouldn't be a mom anymore when Hazel died, and then she says, "I'll always be your mother, no matter what" and I kept thinking about what would happen if one of my babies dies and I am still always their mom. I think I must be highly hormonal today, lol.
Have you tried evening primrose oil? Insert a gel cap vaginally. I did this a day or two before my water broke with DD. Supposedly it can help to induce labor.
No, but I'll pick some up tomorrow. Where can I get it? Drugstore?
I got mine at a vitamin store. I couldn't find it at CVS/Walgreens/grocery store/Target.
I am SO OVER all 3 of us being sick. DS got bronchitis 3 weeks ago and still isn't 100%. A little cough still, irritable, not STTN at all. I've been sick two weeks and still run down and achy. DH just caught it a few days ago so he's full-on coughing and complaining. ENOUGH ALREADY. This is the sickness that just won't quit!
I just ate popcorn and have a piece of the kernel shell stuck in my throat.
I realize this is not a real vent compared to PPs. But it is really annoying.
Eat some bread, it will catch the hull when you swallow it. My grandpa taught me that when I was little, we we're eating fish at the time so he was worried I would swallow a tiny bone. It works like a charm any time I get something stuck in my throat.
My H has had a raging sinus infection for the past six months straight. He has been on multiple rounds of antibiotics, and nothing helps. He is in pretty much constant pain, and it is turning him into a grumpy and unhelpful parent and spouse. I know he is miserable, and I feel bad for him, but, frankly, being the only healthy parent is not so fun either. It is like a man cold that has gone on for months. He has surgery scheduled for next month that is supposed to eliminate most of the pain, and I cannot wait.
Surgery really helped my DH. I hope the outcome is the same for you. Before that he was pretty much sick for 2 years straight, it was awful for both of us.
Sorry rikki...that would annoy the crap out if me.
I have a raging headache.
DH has come home late 3 nights in a row (work stuff) & didn't see the kids all day Sunday...and brought up more kids again today. Yeah, it probably does seem like a good idea when you see them 1 hour a day. But I wouldn't know because I see them 14hours a day. You do that (have them all day alone) & get back to me buddy.
It's 8:20 and I'm already totes enough that I could go to bed. But then I will just wake up at 4 am or so. I thought this would end once we hit our deadlines, but it's still going :-(
Post by redpenmama on Oct 22, 2014 22:29:19 GMT -5
Between now and Nov. 1, my H will be in town for 2 whole days. He's missing TOT/Halloween for the second year in a row. I feel like I do everything with the kids by myself these days -- kind of takes the fun out of it because instead of enjoying whatever the event is, I'm trying to wrangle two kids and keep them both happy. But, I don't want DD to miss out on fun stuff, so I keep doing these family events solo every weekend.
I am tired of people telling me I "have" to have a second child. I am almost 38 and DH is nearing 43, we aren't young. And I had 2 previous pregnancies ending in a missed miscarriage and an ectopic followed by a year of infertility. Yes, I realize it might be easier this next time, but it may not be and I don't have time on my side. And it's tough to just say we will try for a couple months then stop if nothing happens. I wish people would just not push the subject when I answer them. Making me feel guilty about not giving my child a sibling is cruel.
Plus several of my friends are pregnant with #2 and its making me a little sad about not having a second. But I feel 92% sure being one and done is right for us.
Also, sorry to everyone having a shitty day, night and/or week.
Hugs to you. People suck. We are one and done, not by choice, and I want to murder people who say shit like that.
Post by narockshard on Oct 22, 2014 22:37:32 GMT -5
My daughter is sleeping like crap now and I have no idea what's the best thing to do Up until about 2 weeks ago she was sleeping 9-11 hours a night. Now she's going down around 9:30-4:30, which is such a stupid time to wake up! And tonight she fell asleep at 8 right after a bottle and woke up at 10:30 screaming! I highly doubt she's hungry but I don't know what the heck to do. I let her cry for about 10 mins and she was not quieting down at all so my husband got her and she fell right asleep on his chest. So now I don't know if I should try to put her in the crib again, let her sleep with us, go back to the swaddle, or try the swing or something. I just want some damn uninterrupted sleep again!
Mom keeps buying random stuff. In the past week she's bought a mirror, a weaved basket ("for recycling"), and a waffle cone roller. We do not need more stuff in the house, it's not like we have a ton of space, and we haven't had the time to organize the stuff we do have. And of course there the whole "you're spending money you don't have" issue.
To keep sane I'm going to start a tumblr of the stuff she buys.
Post by usuallylurking on Oct 22, 2014 22:42:33 GMT -5
H leaves at 5 am tomorrow and will be gone until December 15th. Oy, at least it's our last stretch for this year.
I've EBF DS3 for over 11 months now and suddenly I have a cracked, bleeding nipple. Just one of them. It is SO painful. I didn't even have sore nipples when he was a newborn! I bought some lanolin today and am really hoping that will help get things back to normal.
I am tired of people telling me I "have" to have a second child. I am almost 38 and DH is nearing 43, we aren't young. And I had 2 previous pregnancies ending in a missed miscarriage and an ectopic followed by a year of infertility. Yes, I realize it might be easier this next time, but it may not be and I don't have time on my side. And it's tough to just say we will try for a couple months then stop if nothing happens. I wish people would just not push the subject when I answer them. Making me feel guilty about not giving my child a sibling is cruel.
Plus several of my friends are pregnant with #2 and its making me a little sad about not having a second. But I feel 92% sure being one and done is right for us.
Also, sorry to everyone having a shitty day, night and/or week.
Yes yes yes. I feel all of your emotions about having/not having another baby. I'm sorry for your loses.
I am once again sleeping on the floor in the girls' room because Audrey woke up and freaked out. I need to figure out something to do with that girl. At least Claire sleeps through her screams.
I've EBF DS3 for over 11 months now and suddenly I have a cracked, bleeding nipple. Just one of them. It is SO painful. I didn't even have sore nipples when he was a newborn! I bought some lanolin today and am really hoping that will help get things back to normal.
Have you gotten your first pp period yet? For the past 10 days or so, I got a little blister or crack on one side, and then the other. Never had this before in 14 months of nursing (lanolin did help!). But they both cleared up and then I suddenly had my first pp period. Maybe it was something to do with changing hormones.
Mom keeps buying random stuff. In the past week she's bought a mirror, a weaved basket ("for recycling"), and a waffle cone roller. We do not need more stuff in the house, it's not like we have a ton of space, and we haven't had the time to organize the stuff we do have. And of course there the whole "you're spending money you don't have" issue.
To keep sane I'm going to start a tumblr of the stuff she buys.
Ugh, that must suck. Maybe this wouldn't work, but what about a one in, one out approach? Or should she want to get rid of stuff you guys want? Maybe try it with just her stuff?
Post by jeaniebueller on Oct 23, 2014 7:07:05 GMT -5
I am so over the baby have a cold. Since starting daycare 2 months ago, she has had a cold nonstop with the exception of about 7 days. Now I have a cold and my H has a cold too.
The electricity is out in half my house including my internet, heat, and kitchen. It has been hours already and I'm not sure how much longer my food can make it in the fridge. It's also freezing in here. I have the kids in 200000 layers.
The girls are sleeping so poorly I feel like I'm dying from lack of sleep. K needs to start crawling soon because she keeps getting on her hands and knees and waking herself up.
This is more annoyance but I was up for 2 hours for no reason and fell back asleep about 20 min before my alarm. Now I'm up with a ton of work to do and feel like I'm going to puke.
Post by nextbigthing on Oct 23, 2014 7:55:16 GMT -5
Trekking all over Las Vegas for a trade show and then out every night for work dinners, and shows at 21 weeks pregnant sucks. I'm completely exhausted and have another 2 days to go. Normally I love doing this, but not this time.
I just got over a cold/pink eye/sinus infection literally this weekend and I woke up with a sore throat this morning. WTF.
Also H is in one of his moody/pouty phases and I just don't want to deal. If something is bothering you and I ask if something is wrong - TELL ME. Don't pout, don't be passive agressive and don't be snippy. I sweard to g-d he has PMS because he does this about once a month.
I've had this headache, cough and achy thing off and on for the last week and was finally feeling normal on Tuesday only to have it come back in full force last night. I made an appt to go to the doctor this afternoon, but I'm sure it's just a virus. My boss keeps joking that I look so tired and am I sure I'm not pregnant again... no I'm sure. And you're annoying.