Post by vanillacourage on Oct 23, 2014 15:48:05 GMT -5
So she's asking you to ask your DH's permission to send DH money for his own freaking birthday? WTH?
"MIL, you're sweet but you shouldn't go to such trouble. He'd be happy with X or Y gift idea, or you could send an Amazon or Target e-gift card online."
I'm a SCRU, and my parents still prefer to send funds via a physical check if/when they decide to give us kids money.
I'd let her know you'd rather she send a check and not just wire funds into your account. Say it's easier to reconcile the account with a physical check...
This is kind of unrelated but it reminds me of the time we loaned my MIL $8,000. When she paid us back she sent it through the mail in CASH! She hid it inside a stuffed animal... ripped open the stuffed animal, but in the money in 100 bills and sewed it up. I wished she was as careful as your MIL.
I would be fine with an electronic funds transfer. I assume that's what she's trying to do?
I guess I would just clarify what info she exactly needs and how she is going to send the money.
I've given and received money electronically through giving out account info and it's no big deal. It's done frequently in other countries.
It became a big deal for me. I hope this scenario would be unlikely for OP but my relative started sending international funds to my account without my approval. She'd then send an email for me to forward it to her US account. And I'm fairly certain there is something shady going on with it now. It all started from me giving her my account info similar to what OP's MIL is suggesting. I have no control on stopping my family members money from being deposited into my account unless I close it or stop all incoming transfers but I have a ton of my own.
I remember your previous posts about this. What is the update? Did she stop sending them? Did you get to the bottom of it?
No - this really isn't a big deal. She just worded it so strangely, and I also was quite annoyed at the instruction to check with my husband before giving her anything. It's more bitch eating crackers too - why does she have to make everything so complicated? I think I also felt confused because I couldn't figure out what she was getting at at first - I don't know why she's treating this as though she's never given him money for his birthday before...? She has always sent a check in the past.
I did ask if she could just send a check with the card like she usually does. She said she's just feeling paranoid about that. I will probably just give her the info.
It sounds like bitch eating crackers. Your FIL also doesn't want to send a check and she doesn't want your husband to get mad at you for giving them your banking information.
I would be fine with an electronic funds transfer. I assume that's what she's trying to do?
I guess I would just clarify what info she exactly needs and how she is going to send the money.
I've given and received money electronically through giving out account info and it's no big deal. It's done frequently in other countries.
It became a big deal for me. I hope this scenario would be unlikely for OP but my relative started sending international funds to my account without my approval. She'd then send an email for me to forward it to her US account. And I'm fairly certain there is something shady going on with it now. It all started from me giving her my account info similar to what OP's MIL is suggesting. I have no control on stopping my family members money from being deposited into my account unless I close it or stop all incoming transfers but I have a ton of my own.
Ok this doesn't seem like a big deal to me. If this happened to me, I'd happily keep the money lol. I'm sure she'd get the memo after awhile and stop transferring money to me.