What are your automatic "next" triggers?

[pinkdutchtulips]

Oct 23, 2014 15:38:18 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

Mine were lack of education, smoker, salary range less than mine. I've taken a lot of heat for my education and salary ones, but both were a big point of contention in my first marriage and I wasn't willing to potentially deal with that again. I made more when we met and it didn't bother ex, but once we were married he did everything he could to discourage me from doing things to advance my career because I was flying past him.

education is now a dealbreaker for me .. if they don't have what I've got, it's not going to happen. the only exceptions I'm willing to make are for trade apprenticeships or technical schools.  xh and I had VASTLY different education levels and they too proved to be a big point of contention bt the 2 of us.

[stephreloaded]

Oct 23, 2014 22:13:56 GMT -5 achase123 said:

Oct 23, 2014 14:18:02 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Yes ma'am

Bwahaha!!!  I've gone on there before for shits and giggles.  It's a real site.

I KNOW you were looking for your soul-mate in that site Achase. We are your friends, you can be honest with us haha. 
If you do find the man of your dreams, ask him if he has a friend so you can set me up!

[amarima]

Oct 23, 2014 14:25:12 GMT -5 boing said:

God I used to have the longest next list.
-facial hair
- Visible body hair
- long hair
- pics of cats or mention of cats in profile
- shirtless pics
-mention of God or religion
- pictures of their vehicle
- pictures of kids
- smoking
- not drinking
- in college
- unemployed
- tattoos above the neck
- really detailed description of who they're looking for
- pictures of other women
- if I didn't like the way they dressed in their pics

that's why I liked Tinder. .0004 seconds to decide whether or not I like you? YES.

That's why I don't like Tinder. I met a guy there unemployed, who have discovered Jesus recently, and was going to college again to study the bible.

Very cute and nice until he started to talk about the bible... but still

[amarima]

For me:
-Education
-Photos with an ex or a woman (who is she: sister? friend?)
-List of what they are looking for
-The way they dress (Ed Hardy, too fashion,too hipster, too conservative)
-Big Bodybuilders
-Grammar/spelling (I'm not a police, but I cringe when I see "allot" for example)
-Long hair
-Smokers
-Non drinkers
-Religuous
-Party boys

[glitzyglow]

Immediately nexted are:

-Those men whose primary photo includes them and someone else (as in another guy), is fuzzy, is too dark, isn't clear, etc. If I can't tell what YOU look like right off the bat, I'm not going to click.
-Smokers
-If they have children already
-If they are moderately-to-super religious
-If they believe men should be the head of the household (OKC question)
-If they prefer to date someone of their own race (OKC question)
-If they would be willing to date someone who had a clear racial bias against a group (OKC question)
-If they believe there is a situation in which someone is obligated to have sex with someone else (OKC question)

[blanca]

Guys who say they're looking for someone as comfortable in a little black dress as she is in jeans. Lol I see this relatively often

[onedayatatime]

Guys that I will immediately next:

- more than 3 years younger or more than 7 years older
- no education beyond high school
- the only pictures are selfies in bathroom mirrors or cars
- shirtless pictures
- any mention that they don't want drama
- smoker

[Deleted]

Discovered some new ones this weekend:

The profile contains some sort of copyright disclaimer so that the government and Facebook don't profit off of your douchelord pics holding up a fish.

The guy has pics with the cinnamon broom he just hung.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

Flat billed hats

[amarima]

Oct 27, 2014 8:26:01 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Why people who don't drink? Is a drink more important than a possibly awesome person?

Maybe I'm wrong but I always question why they don't drink: is it religion? did he had trouble with alcohol? will he judge me if I drink? ... and not that I drink a lot, but I enjoy a couple of drinks during the weekend, wether if a dinner, or just by myself at home.

[cuddlyevil]

Oct 27, 2014 8:47:26 GMT -5 pantsoffdanceoff said:

Flat billed hats

Or crooked hats.

[boing]

Oct 27, 2014 8:26:01 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Why people who don't drink? Is a drink more important than a possibly awesome person?

for me, drinking is hugely social. My friends drink, my family drinks. In my experience, the non drinker doesn't like to participate in drinking activities. It'd be a huge part of my life that he'd be excluded from. Plus, one of my favorite things to do on the weekends with my significant other is drink and play board games. I'd miss that.

[stephreloaded]

Oct 27, 2014 12:54:09 GMT -5 amarima said:

Oct 27, 2014 8:26:01 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

Why people who don't drink? Is a drink more important than a possibly awesome person?

Maybe I'm wrong but I always question why they don't drink: is it religion? did he had trouble with alcohol? will he judge me if I drink? ... and not that I drink a lot, but I enjoy a couple of drinks during the weekend, wether if a dinner, or just by myself at home.

How about a more simple answer to that question? I don't like the taste of alcohol. 

I'm a little lost, so if the other person doesn't drink then you don't? 

[amarima]

Oct 27, 2014 13:25:56 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Oct 27, 2014 12:54:09 GMT -5 amarima said:

Maybe I'm wrong but I always question why they don't drink: is it religion? did he had trouble with alcohol? will he judge me if I drink? ... and not that I drink a lot, but I enjoy a couple of drinks during the weekend, wether if a dinner, or just by myself at home.

How about a more simple answer to that question? I don't like the taste of alcohol. 

I'm a little lost, so if the other person doesn't drink then you don't? 

When you are looking a profile you look for things in common. I enjoy having drinks, and it's something I would like to share with a SO.

[pinkdutchtulips]

another one I discovered over the weekend ... I don't care how charming you are, how interested in me you are .. but if you share the same name as my xh - NEXT !!!!

brought to you by a guy whose ln is the same as a certain red soled HIGH end shoe designer but unfortunately about 3 messages in let his first name slip .... ugh

[jigsy]

I was talking about this stuff with Vegas on Saturday. He said he tried Tinder for a week, but he deleted after getting a message from a girl that just said "Tinder is not for short guys. HTH" :wilted:

Vegas is like 5'7-5'8...so not super tall, but not a garden gnome or anything.

Which is why I've had a hard time with online dating. I brush off people easily, and some of them are stupid reasons, and something in real life I may not know or care about...so who knows how many good guys get the next. It's too stressful.

[cuddlyevil]

Oct 27, 2014 14:08:05 GMT -5 amarima said:

Oct 27, 2014 13:25:56 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

How about a more simple answer to that question? I don't like the taste of alcohol. 

I'm a little lost, so if the other person doesn't drink then you don't? 

When you are looking a profile you look for things in common. I enjoy having drinks, and it's something I would like to share with a SO.

I get this, but for me it'd have to be a case by case thing. I wouldn't next someone who just didn't like it, but I would probably next someone who admits to having a problem with alcohol or gets wasted on the regular.

I don't want to be judged for drinking a glass of wine with dinner.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Oct 27, 2014 14:15:50 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Oct 27, 2014 14:08:05 GMT -5 amarima said:

When you are looking a profile you look for things in common. I enjoy having drinks, and it's something I would like to share with a SO.

I get this, but for me it'd have to be a case by case thing. I wouldn't next someone who just didn't like it, but I would probably next someone who admits to having a problem with alcohol or gets wasted on the regular.

I don't want to be judged for drinking a glass of wine with dinner.

this is where I'm at .. BT doesn't drink. I asked him if it would bother him if I did and the answer was no. then again, my social life (as limited as it is) is NOT centered around alcohol or games that involve alcohol. honestly, since xh was a raging alcoholic, its refreshing to see someone who DOESN'T drink

[Deleted]

Oct 27, 2014 13:25:56 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Oct 27, 2014 12:54:09 GMT -5 amarima said:

Maybe I'm wrong but I always question why they don't drink: is it religion? did he had trouble with alcohol? will he judge me if I drink? ... and not that I drink a lot, but I enjoy a couple of drinks during the weekend, wether if a dinner, or just by myself at home.

How about a more simple answer to that question? I don't like the taste of alcohol. 

I'm a little lost, so if the other person doesn't drink then you don't? 

If you don't drink but enjoy going to happy hour, tailgating, going out for drinks before/after an event (and having a soda or whatever while I have an alcoholic drink), and don't mind if I buy a 6 pack and have a few of them while hanging out at home on Saturday night - fine. And I don't mean occasionally, I mean on a weekly/monthly basis.

In my experience or perception, people who don't drink tend not to be as excited about drinking activities. Even those who are cool with drinking are just not that interested when the main event is drinks and they are just sipping a soda. Which I totally get. But that's like 90% of my social life. And honestly, it's more fun for me when I'm drinking to have my SO drinking. I love splittling a 6 pack together. I love going to a wine tasting or ordering a flight of beer at a brewery. I love going over to the bar after a hockey game and getting the free beer that comes with your ticket. I hate to throw out someone over something "shallow" like alcohol, but drinking is a huge part of my social life and I'm happy that way. I just can't see someone being happy with ME who isn't into the same stuff.

[starburst604]

All I know is I'm bored with MYSELF not drinking right now. And being around other drinkers while I sip my soda with a lime sucks.

[GilliC]

I wouldn't next someone for not drinking, but I would have some reservations.

It's not so much about being uncomfortable drinking around someone, and drinking isn't a huge part of my social life. However, I really love wine touring, and I would feel bad commandeering a day or two of an international trip to do something that only one of us was interested in.

(For the record, I would absolutely next someone who wasn't into travel. That wouldn't work for me.)

[soleil]

My vain/shallow automatic nos (based on pics alone, not even before I get to their profile):

- Weird name/having the name of a family member or my ex (who has a super common, top 5 name of course)

- Frowning/not smiling (my biggest attraction factor is a great, happy smile)

- Ab pictures (the ones that make me LOL are the guy posing while touching his fancy six pack abs)

- Guys that are -too- attractive/model gorgeous (I go for more nerdy cute guys that are attractive and boyish)

- Guys that are way too skinny

- Posing with a bunch of hot women (dude why are you even on here?)

- Weird super posed/looking in the distance artsy shots

[Deleted]

I have a new one... bible verses in their profile! Really??? People are weird