Since there are some clothing convos in here, I'll add that I recently received a Boden catalogue in the mail. I made the same face I made while watching Girls. Hell, I may still be making it.
Since there are some clothing convos in here, I'll add that I recently received a Boden catalogue in the mail. I made the same face I made while watching Girls. Hell, I may still be making it.
My own flameful: I don't think cowl necks look good on anyone. Every so often it looks okay, but almost any other neckline would look better. I don't get the Target tunic love.
I really shouldn't jump in here b/c I know nothing about this situation and I am trying to follow and failing.
BUT. I am getting super duper pissed by people throwing out "just" a brain tumor or minimizing it to "real, actual cancer." Like I said, I don't know the specifics of whose medical problem was "worse" and I don't know why someone would refer to a benign tumor as cancer (although people mess this up frequently and just equate tumor with cancer -- happens all the time).
My aunt died of "just" a brain tumor. WAY WAY fucking earlier than she should have. And in the years that she had it before she died it made her life a living hell. Deaf in one ear, equilibrium problems, memory loss, brain chemistry problems (all you folks that benefit from antidepressants just imagine how much fun it would be living with a ticking time bomb in your head and no psychiatrist can get you the right balance of meds to chill you out b/c they don't know what the fuck is going on in your brain). People at her kids school wondering if she was drunk b/c she slurred her words and walked wonky. And then it exploded in her head and killed her.
I know no one is meaning to minimize what it is like to live with or have a brain tumor. It isn't cancer. You know what, maybe if my aunt had had cancer she could have been treated
I don't see ANYONE in this thread minimizing a brain tumor. The only thing stellas said was that it isn't cancerous, it's benign. Which is ... just fact.
Edited to add that I'm very sorry about your aunt.
No, I have no problems with just saying it's benign It was the real, actual cancer comment that bothered me, but as I said I am having trouble keeping the arguments straight so maybe I took it out of context and I apologize if I did.
No, having a brain tumor isn't the same as having cancer so there's no reason to say it is. I know in my aunt's situation, we would say well she has a tumor. First question was, of course, is it cancer? And then everyone breathes a sigh of relief and expects her to just go back to normal and that isn't the case. Maybe for some it does work that way, but dealing with any brain surgery or abnormality is not a "just" thing.
How many times have we as a board gone "something isn't right here" multiple times over a particular screen name, with the whistle being blown by multiple posters, and been wrong?
Our historical model would indicate that something isn't true, here. I'm not saying she doesn't exist or she didn't have a brain tumor or she's not hurting right now, but SOMETHING isn't true here.
I really shouldn't jump in here b/c I know nothing about this situation and I am trying to follow and failing.
BUT. I am getting super duper pissed by people throwing out "just" a brain tumor or minimizing it to "real, actual cancer." Like I said, I don't know the specifics of whose medical problem was "worse" and I don't know why someone would refer to a benign tumor as cancer (although people mess this up frequently and just equate tumor with cancer -- happens all the time).
My aunt died of "just" a brain tumor. WAY WAY fucking earlier than she should have. And in the years that she had it before she died it made her life a living hell. Deaf in one ear, equilibrium problems, memory loss, brain chemistry problems (all you folks that benefit from antidepressants just imagine how much fun it would be living with a ticking time bomb in your head and no psychiatrist can get you the right balance of meds to chill you out b/c they don't know what the fuck is going on in your brain). People at her kids school wondering if she was drunk b/c she slurred her words and walked wonky. And then it exploded in her head and killed her.
I know no one is meaning to minimize what it is like to live with or have a brain tumor. It isn't cancer. You know what, maybe if my aunt had had cancer she could have been treated
Sorry for your loss, but um.. okay? This aside seems oddly COMBATIVE.
It wasn't meant to be combative. It's just another side effect of having a brain tumor that people don't think of. Lots of terminal patients receive ADs, lots of everyday people do. My aunt knew she had something that was going to kill her and they couldn't even give her...you know...a mod elevator.
I have also benefited from ADs. I can't imagine at my darkest time not having this be an option for me. It's like living in a depressive hell hole.
Since there are some clothing convos in here, I'll add that I recently received a Boden catalogue in the mail. I made the same face I made while watching Girls. Hell, I may still be making it.
/in a fight
/again
/jerkface
I'm not scared. Based on my brief skimming of the catalouge, everyone who loves Boden is wearing a tweed pencil skirt and drinking hot tea from a dainty cup. I wouldn't even have to run away! Just a brisk walk would carry me to safety. :-)
I'm not scared. Based on my brief skimming of the catalouge, everyone who loves Boden is wearing a tweed pencil skirt and drinking hot tea from a dainty cup. I wouldn't even have to run away! Just a brisk walk would carry me to safety. :-)
I'm hurt!
I wear batman t-shirts AND Boden. It fits all types.
I'm not scared. Based on my brief skimming of the catalouge, everyone who loves Boden is wearing a tweed pencil skirt and drinking hot tea from a dainty cup. I wouldn't even have to run away! Just a brisk walk would carry me to safety. :-)
I will be so stealth in my boden a-line skirts you will be SHOCKED when I swiftly run up to you.
I'm not scared. Based on my brief skimming of the catalouge, everyone who loves Boden is wearing a tweed pencil skirt and drinking hot tea from a dainty cup. I wouldn't even have to run away! Just a brisk walk would carry me to safety. :-)
I will be so stealth in my boden a-line skirts you will be SHOCKED when I swiftly run up to you.
And throw my hot tea right at your face!!!!
Not in those loudass patterns! I see you, bird blouse!
Although I do have a really cute bird print blouse from another store. But I don't pair it with the matching full skirt, so I'm good.
"When patients were grouped by the histological type of their tumors, those with benign tumors had an overall 5-year survival rate of 70%, whereas the overall 5-year survival rates in patients with atypical and malignant meningiomas were 75% and 55%, respectively." (http://www.c3.hu/~mavideg/jns/2-4-1.html not a doctor, just play one on google)
Hm, 30% of patients with benign tumors are dead within 5 years. Yeah, it's worse if its malignant but still fucked up.
My aunt has had a benign tumor for the last 15 years or so, and it's ruined her. She's had chronic pain that finally progressed to full blown addiction, personality changes, hormonal effects. It's really sad. She was so beautiful and vibrant before, and now she's basically a sad old woman.
ETA: I like the bad timing of my little anecdote. Lol. I don't even give a shit about the actual argument at hand. I just wanted to type fast.
I'm not scared. Based on my brief skimming of the catalouge, everyone who loves Boden is wearing a tweed pencil skirt and drinking hot tea from a dainty cup. I wouldn't even have to run away! Just a brisk walk would carry me to safety. :-)
I love you cville, but this is some funny shit. And she's right
Post by speckledfrog on Oct 23, 2014 16:28:38 GMT -5
elleblue, other people have compared stellas and dovey on several occasions, perhaps that's what you are thinking of. Prior to this thread, I have never seen stellas do it.
I restrained myself from posting in that thread. It was hard.
I think her screename says it all. This is her identity now. What will she do if she lets it all go? Also, it PISSES ME OFF that she brings up cancer every time she can, when her tumour was BENIGN.
I'm jerky about this. I'm sorry. We were sick at the same time and I cannot identify with how she has reacted to it. I should be more sympathetic, but I think maybe she's a liar, so I'm not.
Why do you think it's OK to constantly compare her to you and how you dealt with things so much better and play the suffering Olympics? Are you only Catholic when it comes to abortion? I don't think you handle(d) cancer with all that much grace if you're constantly putting other people down if they didn't do sickness as well as you.
I restrained myself from posting in that thread. It was hard.
I think her screename says it all. This is her identity now. What will she do if she lets it all go? Also, it PISSES ME OFF that she brings up cancer every time she can, when her tumour was BENIGN.
I'm jerky about this. I'm sorry. We were sick at the same time and I cannot identify with how she has reacted to it. I should be more sympathetic, but I think maybe she's a liar, so I'm not.
Why do you think it's OK to constantly compare her to you and how you dealt with things so much better and play the suffering Olympics? Are you only Catholic when it comes to abortion? I don't think you handle(d) cancer with all that much grace if you're constantly putting other people down if they didn't do sickness as well as you.
Actually, i was just asking an irl/board friend this - "there they go again! I seriously don't understand why i even bother" friend - i haven't been on, what happened? Me- i know! I'm lonely and am looking for some sort of human interaction.
Was something edited out of this conversation? it doesn't make sense.
Not EVERYONE talks about stabbing you in the neck.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
I restrained myself from posting in that thread. It was hard.
I think her screename says it all. This is her identity now. What will she do if she lets it all go? Also, it PISSES ME OFF that she brings up cancer every time she can, when her tumour was BENIGN.
I'm jerky about this. I'm sorry. We were sick at the same time and I cannot identify with how she has reacted to it. I should be more sympathetic, but I think maybe she's a liar, so I'm not.
Why do you think it's OK to constantly compare her to you and how you dealt with things so much better and play the suffering Olympics? Are you only Catholic when it comes to abortion? I don't think you handle(d) cancer with all that much grace if you're constantly putting other people down if they didn't do sickness as well as you.
Oh well, ok then. Evidence of the truth that sometimes personal thoughts/feelings are better left unsaid, especially when they veer into personal attacks.