NMMR-DD asking for birth control!! GAHHH!!

[doobeedoo]

If it makes you feel any better, I went on bc for several years prior to needing them for birth control. My period has always been unpredictable at best. When I was in my late teens, I would get it twice a month. But I knew my mom would not approve, even for that legit reason, so I went to an OB/Gyn on my own without her knowledge. Unfortunately, I was still on their insurance, so she found out pretty quickly what I was doing, and well that conversation did not go well. But I came from a very strict Catholic family where virgin until married was the expectation.

[sillygoosegirl]

It's none of your business why she wants the pill, or if she has sex. You should be glad she is smart enough to ask for it (whatever her real reason is), and that she trusts you enough to talk to you about it. Your baby is growing up and burying your head in the sand isn't going to help her or your relationship with her. Show her that her trust is not ill placed.

[konapoppy]

Oct 23, 2014 16:33:02 GMT -5 madringal said:

You should be really proud that she felt confortable asking you about BC. I would have sooner peeled off my own face then talk to my mom.

This!!!

I went to a PP in a sketchy location to get the pill rather than talk to my mom when I was 16. I didn't ask her to be on BC until 18.

It is great that she talked to you!

[mbcdefg]

Kudos for raising a smart girl! I'm sorry it's an awkward subject but at least it's nice to know that she's being safe.

[raangoli]

Even though I don't have kids yet, this is my nightmare. But you're doing something right in that she was willing to come to you about this. You've gotten lots of great advice, so I won't repeat that, but like mbcdefg said, great job for raising a smart girl who is willing to come to you about the most uncomfortable topic on the planet when it comes to talking to your parents.

[msmerymac]

I honestly don't think her question about if the prescription would interfere with the pill means she needs it to work for birth control RIGHT NOW. She might just want to make sure it won't make her sick or dizzy or something if she takes them together. Not that it will impact the effectiveness of BC. I would not have thought about the latter at that age. That's also not to say she doesn't want to be on BC for the time she is ready for sex, which might be soon, or might be in a few years.

[sillygoosegirl]

If it makes you feel any better, I went on BC almost 2 years before having sex the first time.

When I got it, I didn't intend to have sex even that soon. But it was still a relief to be on it. My high school teachers had convinced me I was at a huge risk of getting raped (which statistically speaking is unfortunately true enough), and it felt better knowing that if such a thing happened, at least I (probably) wouldn't get pregnant from it.

[imojoebunny]

Congrats on raising a child who is smart enough to think ahead. She may not be ready to have sex, so she sure isn't ready for a baby.

I would make a bee line for the gyno ASAP. I would also talk about how birth control is not a substitute for condom use, and suggest she discuss the IUD over the pill with her doctor.

[marina007]

She sounds like a smart girl. I'd be willing to bet she wants Birth control for sex but that's truly not so bad, even though she's not ready emotionally (who is?). It's so much better that she's making this decision wanting to be safe, and likely with a boyfriend who seems like a decent guy. I have too many friends who had such negative experiences - losing their virginity at a party to a random guy - or having pregnancy scares due to not using protection.