Do you ever go out without your SO on a Saturday night? Not habitually, but do/would you occasionally use Saturday night for a girls’ night out (or guys’ night out, Niq!)?
And if your SO travels a lot, do you only go out without him/her when he/she is traveling? Would your answer change if your SO’s time off was equally as common as time spent traveling (i.e., the SO travels for a long stretch and is then off for a long stretch)?
Just curious. I have some friends whose habits are, in my experience, unique when it comes to this stuff. I wonder if I am more in the minority than I realize.
We will occasionally do a girls' night out on Friday or Saturday - right now, between work schedules & friends/spouses being back in school and traveling for work, Monday, Friday, or Saturday are the only nights everyone is open.
My H travels and is gone a lot, but I don't necessarily only go away when he's gone...hiring a sitter constantly gets old, and it's good for him to spend time with DD without me.
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Very rarely. DH normally works weekend nights so I don't have a lot of opportunity to go out by myself and I don't like the hassle of finding a babysitter. I would go out (and should) more on his days off but he gets all "we never spend time together" so I rarely do that as well.
Funny you ask. A few minutes ago, DH asked me if I had any girls' night coming up so that he could make plans to do something one-on-one with DD.
We try to plan girls' night during the week, just because it's easier to get everyone together. We rotate houses and do pizza, salad and wine. I'd say once a month or so.
I'd say there's usually one night per week that either I will meet up with a friend for dinner, or DH will go golfing after work with a buddy (weather-permitting). Sometimes on his golf nights, I will bring DD to meet up for dinner with my girlfriends and their kids.
Neither one of us travel for work - but when DH used to, I always tried to make plans with friends one night. Unless it's just one night away...I usually relish the alone time and eat brie, crackers and wine for dinner while watching HGTV
My mom friends almost always meet up without the guys. Our husbands don't know each other really. Plus the babysitter issue.
On Saturday?
What do you mean? My kid is 19 months old, she can't stay home alone. We either need to hire a babysitter or we trade off staying home. It's a PITA to ask my ILs all the time or pay a high schooler.
Even on Saturdays, which seems to be the sticking point with you(?). USually we do Fridays but yes, sometimes on Saturdays.
Not a sticking point with me, but it’s a relevant part of my question, so I’m curious to get the Saturday bit out of it if someone answers vaguely or specifically speaking only to Friday or whatever.
For what it’s worth, I’m asking about Saturday in one part of my post because Saturday is the specific night one friend of mine says is off-limits for anything not involving her husband. I wonder if that’s unique or really common. So getting answers that don’t specify anything about Saturday messes up my data.
I don't do a lot of girls nights, I tend to go shopping or other stuff with girl friends during the day on Saturday or Sunday. DH travels quite a bit, so when he is home we usually spend the evenings together.
What do you mean? My kid is 19 months old, she can't stay home alone. We either need to hire a babysitter or we trade off staying home. It's a PITA to ask my ILs all the time or pay a high schooler.
Token was saying she and her mom friends almost always meet up without their SOs; I asked if they ever do this on Saturdays, because it’s Saturday I’m curious about, not whether people ever go out without their SOs.
Post by daisy24342 on Oct 23, 2014 20:37:32 GMT -5
Lately no but historically absolutely. Our "date night" is normally sat, but if something comes up for one of us, we don't have a problem changes plans and go out with just the girls or guys, DH is often gone for long stretches so I obviously do more "girl nights" while he is away but I still do so when he is home.
What do you mean? My kid is 19 months old, she can't stay home alone. We either need to hire a babysitter or we trade off staying home. It's a PITA to ask my ILs all the time or pay a high schooler.
Token was saying she and her mom friends almost always meet up without their SOs; I asked if they ever do this on Saturdays, because it’s Saturday I’m curious about, not whether people ever go out without their SOs.
Gotcha, I read it as you being a little incredulous that they went out without SOs. I'm tired! LOL!
We usually do weeknights because it seems more "fair". If we go out on weekends, it's usually as a pair and we get a sitter. We hang out with friends a lot on weekends, though I'd say that they're mostly my friends and the husbands tolerate each other.
Just read full post - no, almost never on a saturday. I can't remember one. Saturday's are date nights.
edit again - definitely not off limits, no one seems to plan anything then. i haven't given it thought why not until this post. I would not decline a saturday girls night.
I go out with my girlfriends about once a week. Usually a weeknight. Weekend plans involve guys and girls but tend not to be child friendly so H and I opt out. We can't do everything. It's a good balance. We are the only couple with a young child.
H will occasionally meet up with his friends to play video games on a weekend afternoon or go to a quick happy hour after work.
ETA: Saturdays aren't off limits for GTGs. We've had quite a few though none recently. The weeks tend to be easier for everyone.
That's weird that your friend declared all Saturdays off limits without her husband. Very arbitrary.
I’m trying not to judge because I suppose we all have our things. But I do think it’s unusual.
I, for one, am too tired to go out on Friday night and enjoy myself; so I decline outings on Fridays at this point. When the baby is sleeping better, Friday will be an option for my girls’ nights/solo shopping/etc. For now, it's for celebrating no daycare prep and falling asleep early.
Someone else said or implied this, too, but I’m too lazy to go back and see to tag her. haha
I am envious of this! Our LO goes to bed as soon as I can get home, put her in pajamas and feed her; and my husband hasn’t been getting home until 8:30 lately. No way am I going out then. haha
OMG, the thought of leaving the house that late has me laughing out loud. To think I waited until 11 or so to go out in college. Holy crap. I feel so old.
Pilsy Well, I'm still on ML so that makes it a lot easier! I will probably dial it back when I go back to work and the gym. DS goes to bed around 7 so I can usually make a 7:30 dinner reservation or movie time and be home again by 9:30 or 10.
Uh I go out with my friends sans husband and kids as often as I can. I love them all and stuff but there is nothing like a girls' night. Friday, Saturday, Tuesday, whatever.
Saturdays are the most convenient day for most of our friends. Friday nights we are all typically too tired to go out for anything more than an early dinner. ( It's a stark contrast to our 20s!)
About once a month, I've been going out without H. It's really nice for him to get some solo time with J, then alone time once she's asleep, and it's wonderful for me to be on my own. Usually I meet up with a friend or two and am gone 4-9 hours. It's one of the most restorative things I do.