My confession is that sometimes I kinda envy people with one kid....love my twins to the moon and back, but I watch my friends w/ just one child this age and they seem like they have it all together, and can give so much attention etc....meanwhile I feel like I'm always just in "let's get everyone from point a to point b in one piece....hey where did L run off to? You come back here right now!" mode
As Mr. numbers tells people with one "One kid is bullshit"
I have consoled myself w/ this quote on more than one occasion.....
My confession is that sometimes I kinda envy people with one kid....love my twins to the moon and back, but I watch my friends w/ just one child this age and they seem like they have it all together, and can give so much attention etc....meanwhile I feel like I'm always just in "let's get everyone from point a to point b in one piece....hey where did L run off to? You come back here right now!" mode
Well, you know I'm right there with you too. Isn't it amynumbers who always says "one kid is bullshit"? I often think we should have stopped with one and done a great job of parenting him instead of just barely managing to survive with three. ETA: I took too long to post and now I'm all redundant, oops.
FFFC: I'm irrationally annoyed with DS1 for not being interested enough in the movie Cars to sit through all of it without acting like an ass. I got it for him as one of his potty training rewards and *I* want to watch the damn movie but have still only seen pieces.
I have a good confession maybe? I am living a double life. I grew up super conservative and everyone around me and in my life is conservative. Over the past couple of years my views have changed.
I still consider myself a conservative BUT a liberal on social issues. But I am not "out" to everyone I know, so everyone assumes I agree with them. It just feels weird to announce to the people I know "I think gay people should get married now! Anti-abortion laws do more harm than good!" KWIM?
I def speak up about blatant discrimination, and try to offer a different perspective when applicable, but otherwise I keep my mouth shut. I guess that's flameful?
This was me until recently. I grew up conservative and I'm in TX, so you can imagine how many people feel here. I struggled for a short while with being financially conservative, but believing in equal rights and women's rights. I guess I'm Libertarian now if I identify with any party at all. I've kept it to myself, but mostly because I avoid political discussion IRL. I do speak out about LGBT and women's rights though, which are important platforms to me.
Yes I consider myself a Libertarian as well. It's not just politics though. Like my coworkers were talking about Big Brother and Frankie being gay.
Oh and my sons best friend's mom recently entered into a relationship with a woman. And my DH family is all concerned about what type of "affect (effect?)" This will have on DS. I am not concerned about it at all obviously! I want him to know there are all types of people in the world and everyone deserves respect.
My confession is that sometimes I kinda envy people with one kid....love my twins to the moon and back, but I watch my friends w/ just one child this age and they seem like they have it all together, and can give so much attention etc....meanwhile I feel like I'm always just in "let's get everyone from point a to point b in one piece....hey where did L run off to? You come back here right now!" mode
Well, you know I'm right there with you too. Isn't it amynumbers who always says "one kid is bullshit"? Â I often think we should have stopped with one and done a great job of parenting him instead of just barely managing to survive with three. Â ETA: I took too long to post and now I'm all redundant, oops.
FFFC: I'm irrationally annoyed with DS1 for not being interested enough in the movie Cars to sit through all of it without acting like an ass. Â I got it for him as one of his potty training rewards and *I* want to watch the damn movie but have still only seen pieces. Â
One kid is bullshit. I love DS with my whole heart but damn it if I don't shake my head and think of the good old days with just one. I didn't realize how good I had it until it was gone. I really hope I manage to parent the 2 of them well. Some days I'm just not so sure.
We always said we'd have two, but we're now both on the fence about being OAD. A large part of my reasoning is that I know I have it pretty easy with just DS, and kind of don't want the extra work of a second.
I used to love scary movies, but now they just make me...scared...so I don't like watching them anymore. I guess I've turned into a wuss in my old age.
The mention of a beer legit made my mouth water - I'm totally having one with dinner today.
I just scarfed down a chocolate bar while DS is napping. It was so sweet it actually made my teeth hurt.
I know I have it good with one kid and now that she is in the prime of terrible 3's I realize why we don't have another one right now because I know I would loose my shit with 2.
My confession - we had the opportunity to go to an adult halloween party tomorrow night, but the thought of staying up late and being all hung over on sunday kinda turned me off so I used DD's halloween party at her dance studio as an excuse not to go. We really are taking her there though.
Yeah, I point and laugh when people can't handle their one typically developing kid. They have no idea how good they have it.
Yes I do. That's why I'm terrified to have another
We hadn't planned on having another anytime soon though. Maybe on a couple of years, but right now I'm kind of digging the one kid thing. I feel like I got my shit together, and I'm afraid that will go away if I add another kid into the mix.
I know two people IRL that have had kids every year. One has about 5 under 5 or 5 under 6 (can't remember). The other has a three year old, one and a half year old, and a newborn, which she just had yesterday. I can't even imagine **bows down to the supreme mommies**
I'm sorry DC You shouldn't feel bad at all. It sounds like it's a rough time for you and your family, and there will always be other Halloweens. Sending T&Ps for you guys.
I don't think cussing is right, and I don't want to like it, but I do. I feel like this makes me look like a total hypocrite, It's something I'm trying to work on mostly so A doesn't pick up the word, "fuck!" and then say it at my ILs house, causing them to both faint from the horror. I know I shouldn't cuss and that I could express what I'm trying to say without such colorful language. I'm a horrible person **'highway to hell' plays in the background**
Yeah, I point and laugh when people can't handle their one typically developing kid. They have no idea how good they have it.
Yes I do. That's why I'm terrified to have another
We hadn't planned on having another anytime soon though. Maybe on a couple of years, but right now I'm kind of digging the one kid thing. I feel like I got my shit together, and I'm afraid that will go away if I add another kid into the mix. I know two people IRL that have had kids every year. One has about 5 under 5 or 5 under 6 (can't remember). The other has a three year old, one and a half year old, and a newborn, which she just had yesterday. I can't even imagine **bows down to the supreme mommies**
Yeah, I point and laugh when people can't handle their one typically developing kid. They have no idea how good they have it.
Yes I do. That's why I'm terrified to have another
We hadn't planned on having another anytime soon though. Maybe on a couple of years, but right now I'm kind of digging the one kid thing. I feel like I got my shit together, and I'm afraid that will go away if I add another kid into the mix.
I know two people IRL that have had kids every year. One has about 5 under 5 or 5 under 6 (can't remember). The other has a three year old, one and a half year old, and a newborn, which she just had yesterday. I can't even imagine **bows down to the supreme mommies**
I had 2 under 2 (well, 2 under 1.5, really). I love how close they are now, but good gawd that first year was a special kind of hell.
I had 2 under 2 (well, 2 under 1.5, really). I love how close they are now, but good gawd that first year was a special kind of hell.
While I think it would be cool to have siblings super close in age (for my kids), I would've sewn my own vagina shut if DH had mentioned having another after A.
I am the oldest by 10 and 16 years as my brothers are 13 and 7. I don't really like out gap because for the longest time I hated my brother and thought he was an annoying little asshole. Now, I love them both, but I do wish we had been closer in age. With all that being said, it looks more and more likely that that is how my kids will be spaced out too. I know for sure I want another one, just not any time soon.
Post by thecheshirekat on Oct 24, 2014 13:55:57 GMT -5
Gross FFFC: I've been smelling something gross all morning and thought it was probably coming from the kitchen - all of yesterday's dishes were in the sink, so a likely culprit. Well, I did all the dishes this morning and was still smelling it. Turns out it's actually my shirt. WTF, it was clean out of the drawer. Glad I didn't go anywhere yet!
Yes I do. That's why I'm terrified to have another
We hadn't planned on having another anytime soon though. Maybe on a couple of years, but right now I'm kind of digging the one kid thing. I feel like I got my shit together, and I'm afraid that will go away if I add another kid into the mix.
I know two people IRL that have had kids every year. One has about 5 under 5 or 5 under 6 (can't remember). The other has a three year old, one and a half year old, and a newborn, which she just had yesterday. I can't even imagine **bows down to the supreme mommies**
I had 2 under 2 (well, 2 under 1.5, really). I love how close they are now, but good gawd that first year was a special kind of hell.
I still think that was easier than my friends who did three years apart had it way worse than I did with 1 year apart. I will take a million diapers over the assholishness of a three year old anyday of the week.
I had 2 under 2 (well, 2 under 1.5, really). I love how close they are now, but good gawd that first year was a special kind of hell.
I still think that was easier than my friends who did three years apart had it way worse than I did with 1 year apart. I will take a million diapers over the assholishness of a three year old anyday of the week.
I don't know. I certainly do not recommend experiencing the terrible twos followed by simultaneous terrible twos and whatever the fuck they turn into at 3, which is immediately followed by another year of the 3 year old monster. That was three years of my life I can never get back.
I had 2 under 2 (well, 2 under 1.5, really). I love how close they are now, but good gawd that first year was a special kind of hell.
While I think it would be cool to have siblings super close in age (for my kids), I would've sewn my own vagina shut if DH had mentioned having another after A.
I am the oldest by 10 and 16 years as my brothers are 13 and 7. I don't really like out gap because for the longest time I hated my brother and thought he was an annoying little asshole. Now, I love them both, but I do wish we had been closer in age. With all that being said, it looks more and more likely that that is how my kids will be spaced out too. I know for sure I want another one, just not any time soon.
We were shooting for a 3ish year age gap, but ended up with almost 6 years between DD and the boys. It was so nice that she was already in school and pretty independent when I was dealing with two newborns.
I can't stop fantasizing about going on vacation for 3 days...ALONE. Not bringing anyone. I feel like I should want to go with DH and I would love to go away with him. But I really just want to be alone for 3 days. In complete silence.
Sparked by the BFing article, the only reason I EPed for A for the first year was to save money. Literally, the only reason. She couldn't latch even with going to 3 separate lactation consults, so BFing was completely out of the question. With my next kid, if they don't get the BFing thing down, then fuck it, they're going on formula. I'm not EP for another year.
I still think that was easier than my friends who did three years apart had it way worse than I did with 1 year apart. I will take a million diapers over the assholishness of a three year old anyday of the week.
I don't know. I certainly do not recommend experiencing the terrible twos followed by simultaneous terrible twos and whatever the fuck they turn into at 3, which is immediately followed by another year of the 3 year old monster. That was three years of my life I can never get back.
See twos were never bad for us for either kid. When ds was a total asshole dd was still the sweetest. Dd has always been about a year behind in emotional development so she's just hitting the asshole stage that ds hit right before 3 and ds at 4.5 is an angel and I'd have a gaggle of kids if I were in this stage with just him. I've never had overlapping tough stages.
And wouldn't you know, my kids were pretty developmentally on target when it came to that. But then between roughly 16 months and 4ish wasn't exactly a picnic for DS1 or any of us, really.
And wouldn't you know, my kids were pretty developmentally on target when it came to that. But then between roughly 16 months and 4ish wasn't exactly a picnic for DS1 or any of us, really.
Now that I think about it I'm glad we got that break. Generally speaking ds is a pretty easy kid but there was a good nine months I thought he was possessed.
My daughter just turned two, we've hit terrible twos. And DS will be 7 weeks on Monday and struggling with ppd sometimes I think this will be the death of me.
See, I loooove the 3 year age difference, so far anyway. I know I would have risen up the occasion, but having kids 2 years or less apart sounds so god-awful to me.
It freaks me out to think about having a second kid now, reading these scary stories. DS turns 3 in just under 2 weeks so if I get pregnant this cycle, they would be almost 4 years apart.
My confession is that sometimes I feel like I can't handle my one typically developing kid. Like yesterday when he had a meltdown because he couldn't take all of the rubber duckies out of the bucket of water at the carnival game at the pumpkin patch. He screamed and cried. Now I'm convinced someone with more than one kid was pointing and laughing at me.
I still think that was easier than my friends who did three years apart had it way worse than I did with 1 year apart. I will take a million diapers over the assholishness of a three year old anyday of the week.
I have the special hell that is a million diapers AND the asshole 3 year old. Yeah me!