I have my transfer tomorrow. They pushed it back by an hour or so. MH is staying in Rhode Island this weekend for a work thing so I'm 100% on my own. I guess I'll just hang around the house and see if anyone wants to come and see it. I have learned that I have no patience. My house has been on the market for just over a week so I need someone to buy it ASAP. I can't do this much longer
There's a Halloween party at my work today, so not much work will be getting done. We're going up to my brothers house for a board game night and then tomorrow I'm going to a college football game at my alma mater. Should be a great weekend!
Good luck sassafrass! I hope you have a good transfer and some showings!
I'm still here, waiting for CD1. It's day 3 off prometrium. I expected to start during the 12 days I was taking it since I did on provera, but no luck yet. DH and I planned a wine filled date for this weekend if I haven't started as a last hurrah.
Speaking of DH, I got kinda annoyed with him the other day. I asked his opinion on some stuff I was researching (he's also a pharmacist but he's at university health system with lots of good resources, so I wanted him to check a specific place). Anyways, the first day I asked he didn't have time. I said NBD, just please soon because I'm spending all this time analyzing and would like to settle it. Next day, he didn't do it again -- not because he was busy, he just didn't think any extra info would help us. I was pretty upset because I feel like all this IF stuff falls on my shoulders and I reached out for help and was burned. I woke up this morning to flowers, CFA breakfast, and research so he stepped up in the end but I was really hurt.
So this brings me to a question for you ladies, how do you handle splitting up of all the stuff to keep both of you involved?
So this brings me to a question for you ladies, how do you handle splitting up of all the stuff to keep both of you involved?
Honestly, we don't. I do all of the work and just fill him on on the way. We worked at the same company for a long time so I knew if I made a call about my insurance or anything like that, it would be the same for him (we had our own insurance). I just kept operating that way even when he started his new job. My RE was the one that told me I had coverage under his insurance :/
At this point, I feel like we've been doing it for so long that it's just easier for me to do everything and tell him when he has an appointment or things like that.
I hope your procedure goes well today, discogranny.
Someone has a lap today. Can't remember who, but I hope that goes well, too.
@boiler, I definitely do the lion's share of the work, but Brad is very good about being involved. He wants to be a part of this. He'll make phone calls on a day when I can't. He goes with me to monitoring and other appointments when it makes sense for him to. He gave me all my shots- not because I can't do it myself, but because we are in this together. It's an effort, to be sure, but I've really appreciated it.
Eta-ok, this is not entirely true. I had to do the evil ganarilix myself because he wussed out. Lol.
I know my post made it sound like I am the decision maker in all things IVF for me and MH but that's not the case. We come to any decisions together and he went to all early planning appointments but I just do the phone calls, insurance, etc now. It's also harder since we don't live together during the week.
Good luck to disco and kristin on their procedures today!
FX for cookiemonster's report today!
Fwiw, I do 99% of the IF stuff--the female reproductive system is my area of expertise after all. I let DH know if he needs to do something. We do make all of the decisions together, with me explaining things as needed.
Like everyone else, I do most of the research, but H comes along to appointments as needed and is always there to listen and give support. Things have been hard for him lately I think because he doesn't know enough of the science behind everything to help me make decisions (about protocols and things like that).
sassafrass good luck tomorrow @cookiemomster03 for a good report]
boiler717 I do all of the research and fill him in along the way. I know he has done some on his own because occasionally he will add something. I basically tell him our plan and he gives the OK or makes suggestions
I'm so glad it's Friday. We've had a bad day in my small town. A fire early yesterday killed 2 kids in one of our elementary schools and a child with brain cancer in another of our elentary schools passed away last night. Its been rough for the kids and adults because its such a small town
sassafrass good luck tomorrow @cookiemomster03 for a good report]
boiler717 I do all of the research and fill him in along the way. I know he has done some on his own because occasionally he will add something. I basically tell him our plan and he gives the OK or makes suggestions
I'm so glad it's Friday. We've had a bad day in my small town. A fire early yesterday killed 2 kids in one of our elementary schools and a child with brain cancer in another of our elentary schools passed away last night. Its been rough for the kids and adults because its such a small town
I am looking forward to my couch and some wine
OMG how heartbreaking. Prayers sent for their families and friends.
Thanks for all the opinions!! I'm sure my reaction was somewhat hormone driven but I also feel like he could have stepped up a bit.
CD1!!!!! I am SO excited to get this treatment started. I have a good feeling about our next cycle after this so I'm more get this show on the road vs. hopeful this one will work.
I do 99.9% of the stuff for our IF treatments. My H has a wonky work schedule to where I can't bank on him being able to consistently give shots or anything. I admit I am a control freak and it makes me better and in control if I do mine own shots anyways. But we make the decision to do everything together. If we do a 5dt, he won't be here for it because he leaves this weekend. It sucks, but it is what it is.
Post by oneslybookworm on Oct 24, 2014 11:56:44 GMT -5
Good luck ladies with transfers and other medical procedures coming up!!
I'm so glad it's Friday. Tonight is just relaxing and some laundry, then tomorrow I'm running a 5k before we go to a Halloween party. Super excited!
I do the vast majority of IF research stuff. Jamie is really involved in talking about it, and goes to the appointments with me, but I tend to initiate the initial but. Otherwise, he's in it with me
So far I've done all the research. This is a bit of a sensitive question right now because a few weeks ago I asked H to read a few things from our RE and he has yet to do so. It's not pressing but often I feel like he's a little *too* go with the flow/carefree about everything. I'd like it if he showed even a small amount of interest. /vent over
I got the all clear this morning. That's a relief.
Yay I was thinking about you earlier! Glad all is ok! Go eat some real food now!
We went to a pizza place across the street from the doctor and I ordered a Margherita pizza. When I finished the whole pizza I looked around and noticed others were splitting them between two people. Oops. In my defense, they had salads too.
Yay I was thinking about you earlier! Glad all is ok! Go eat some real food now!
We went to a pizza place across the street from the doctor and I ordered a Margherita pizza. When I finished the whole pizza I looked around and noticed others were splitting them between two people. Oops. In my defense, they had salads too.
Also in your defense, you've been starving yourself for 24+ hours. You deserved that entire pizza! No shame.
I just got an email from my other office and apparently because I've been working off site for the last couple days they didn't grab stuff out of my mail bin. It was picked up today but they better have mailed my Halloween exchange gift dammit. Grrrrr!
I did get my hsg done, we spent the last almost year thinking our only option was going to be IVF. We did the HSG today, and my tubes are not blocked. Apparently the first test I spasmed or something. Which means hopefully we can work on the PCOS and get me to ovulate with femera or something similar!
So this brings me to a question for you ladies, how do you handle splitting up of all the stuff to keep both of you involved?
I do most of the thinking and worrying (and undergoing actual treatment, obviously), so DH takes care of as much of the paperwork and phone calls as he can. He deals with the bills, pharmacy orders, etc. He also comes to every appointment (that's really important to us) and gives me all of my shots. I stress out about this so easily, so he really does try to take on as much as he can.
Trying for #3; FET 8/18 -- BFN. Leaving things up to chance for now... After three years, three IVFs, and two FETs, we finally have our miracle babIES!
Speaking of, have you guys ever had muhammara (sp)? It's this roasted red pepper dip (secret ingredient: pomegranate molasses) that is seriously the best thing ever. I'm making it last in the cooking marathon tomorrow because I don't trust myself to not eat a large percentage of it if I make it early in the day.
Yay for looking smoking!
I've never had muhammara, but it's been on my to-cook list forever, and I even bought pomegranate molasses for it a while ago. Apparently I need to make it asap! Do you serve it with pita or something else?